What didn't you understand before about why certain things are but now do because of your experience?
What didn't you understand before about why certain things are but now do because of your experience?
Like why some apartments allow no tenants with pets. Living in an apartment building, some tenants around me absolutely fucking suck with owning pets. Allowing them to bark, wrestle and play loudly, letting them take dumps everywhere and not picking it up. People actually running with their pets with no leashes when leashes are required.
Yeah I side more with apartment offices that have balls to say no pets. Nobody wants the noise.
Kids who came to school in dirty clothes, hair messy, dirt on their hands and faces. I thought they were just gross pigpen types. Not till I was older and less sheltered did I meet families where the adults had other stuff going on and didn’t see to their kids’ well being. I was lucky enough to have had no idea what it meant to be neglected.
When I was a child I thought everything was run by grown ups, who had the answer to everything. Then I grew up and saw everything as run by children, who made everything up as they go. Now I see everything as run by animals with insatiable appetites.
Knowing why your parents told you not to turn the cabin lights on in the car while driving at night when I started driving myself. You can't fucking see shit outside the car!
Stoically treating people well when they are terrible to you isn't going to bring them around. DON"T put effort into the problem people in life. "the idiot by fyodor dostoevsky" is a warning not a guide book. Those people will fuck you up and not remember .
Quality was mentioned, but I'll add my view. Most everything is disposable now, whether you go with the upgraded option or not. Everyday items, cars, houses, tools, services...we're surrounded by junk.
At Boeing the bean counters took over, look at them now. Most other corporations are doing the same, just with lower stakes.
It's not just stuff--it's interaction too. People are so hooked on throwaway videos, social media, etc that our collective attention span has severely diminished since the internet took hold. I was reading a book recently, and one of the characters described using a tactic of keeping another character off balance in conversation to gain an advantage over them. I feel like this is being done to all of us on the grand scale, intentionally or not.
What I've learned is that these trends will continue until we do something about it. I try to bring what quality and value I can to those around me, pass on what wisdom I've gained, and be a good influence. Even to strangers when possible. It's up to us to carry and keep the torch lit.
Mostly myself. When I was a teenager, I was an insufferable, arrogant shit person. I got better during college and even better after getting my first job, I started to understand better why I was such an arrogant asshole and why people, especially women, really would not rather interact with me.
The code stack at my company. At one time, I was confident that I could affect change, add modern features, and make the process form streamlined and user friendly. Now I get to explain our tech debt to our new not yet soulless new hires.
Now I get to explain our tech debt to our new not yet soulless new hires.
To explain the tech debt in the code stack you must first explain what the Perl language its written is to the young new hires.
Perl? Shit man I learned Fortran in college. There's still COBOL systems in active use. At least Perl was invented after keypunchers were deprecated.
(This is totally being said in the Emperor Palpatine's voice)
Just don't tell them about the COBOL running in the back. It'll scare them away.
When I was am apprentice we were not allowed to use the leaf blower or workshop air to blow out the workshop.
Now I am ac workshop manager they are the most infuriating noises when you're trying to work in the office and get paperwork and phone calls done and someone is using a leaf blowerr
Don't leaf blowers also have a sound decibel level that can cause hearing loss? Another good reason not to use it for that purpose
I used to not understand how people could spend so much money on a single meal at a really fancy restaurant.
But then, on a special occasion my wife convinced me to go to a Michelin star restaurant. It was amazing, honestly the best "food experience" I've ever had, so many crazy flavours, etc etc.
So now, i can understand why someone might go to a very fancy restaurant once or twice a year. I probably still won't, but I do understand why someone would.
I used to not get why someone would buy a physical DVD/Bluray/CD/whatever. Well, now I get it. I’d much rather own it than “own” it.
No buffering, can rip the disc to have a digital copy, offline viewing .etc
I got tired of blu rays somehow:
- trailers at the beginning (skippable)
- copyright and and piracy warning (non skippabale)
- usually no english subs for blu rays bought in germany (original english sound though)
- got one with really bad quality and other versions on the internet looked way better (original the hills have eyes)
- wanted to lend a friend without a blu ray player a few by giving him my old laptop with a blu ray drive. No proper software to play it without fiddeling under linux
- resources and plastic cases (started buying used - but then if it's a really good movie the studio won't receive any support for it)
- players will need updates to be able to handle new encryption keys (never ran into it though bc I keep my PS updated)
Pros:
- the collection looks nice in the shelf
- picking up a movie is usually easier for me than on netflix
- I watched the bonus material after the movie which was often interesting
This is all true with digital rips,... the advantage as far as I'm concerned is uncompromising quality
People always talk about how much wiser you get with age. I didn't really understand this until I hit my 30s. I can't quite explain it, but it's definitely true. I don't feel smarter, I just have all this life experience that has taught me all sorts of things and made me loads more confident. I feel this will continue to get stronger the older I get with the unfortunate side effect of slowing down a bit mentally.
Sadly, a side effect of this is that almost nothing is surprising anymore. The world ceases to be full of intrigue and mystery. The banality of existence becomes a daily demotivator.
I'm going to step in and kindly disagree. You're living one life, your own. When you've experienced what you feel that there is to experience and all that, then things stop being personally exciting for you. Everyone's lives is different from one another with shared generalities.
I compensate for this with telling tales around the fire and playing music. There is always room for more wonder and mystery with those
I feel this will continue to get stronger the older I get with the unfortunate side effect of slowing down a bit mentally.
It does, but the other issue is you see the young making the mistakes and you try to warn them using your wisdom, and they either don't understand or don't attempt to and go on with their mistake. With further time, you just let it go and don't mention it at all.
When the argument against an initiative says, "greedy developers" that is just a populist NIMBY smear spoken by even greedier, already-existing landlords.
I actually voted against a housing development one time because I got played by those words. I'm a little wiser now.
We had one here this past cycle where the opposition was calling them slum lords lol. Not charged language at all.
Did the alleged "slum lords" lose against the actual slum lords' smear campaign?
I wouldn't be surprised if they called developers "terrorists" at some point.
NIMBY property owners are so convinced of the righteousness of their assets -- and of the evil lurking within any effort to slightly slow down their appreciating value -- that I don't think there's a level of wickedness that exceeds a threat to those assets.
Like, I wouldn't be surprised if they thought: "these developers are worse than Bin Laden. At least Bin Laden didn't decrease the worth of MY property."
When I was a kid, my mom would tell me stories about some rich/famous people who ended their own lives, and she asked me what I thought about it, I said it was stupid since they're rich and could just enjoy life
Now I have depression. I totally get it. (I mean I'm not rich, but still, I get it.)
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Money only buys you at the bottom two layers of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Being rich would be nicer than being poor.
(Depressed on a warm beach with expensive prostitutes sounds better than most things.)Get meds. They're how I've made it this far in life.
I thought the worst part of dating was getting my heart broken, but what I remember best are the girls I let down.
Being an ostensibly-male-ish high schooler with a bad grasp of English and good looks had gotten me so much attention.
And every goddamn one of them was disappointed that I was ace and sex-repulsed and didn’t have the vocabulary to express it at the time. They thought I was spurning their advances deliberately!
(Of course, looking back, I bet that none of them actually wanted to be with an incredibly lesbian trans woman. (And yet, somehow, I married an ace trans woman of my own, shit’s nice.) I’m trying to work on not feeling bad that I disappointed those women, and that they found better matches of their own.)
I didn’t understand the importance of quality and the true premium you pay for certain things. I often would buy the cheapest thing I could find to serve a certain function. After awhile, you find yourself replacing cheap things because they wear out quickly. Buying quality can mean paying a lot more, but it also usually means you don’t have to replace it much, if at all.
I'm a little on the flipside with this one. I'm figuring it out that some of the best things out there, aren't usually the ones that cost a premium. It just boils down to what that something is and whether you want it's best version. Like, some of the brand-names in stores aren't usually some of the best that's out there compared to generic brands. I know this from some of the review videos I've watched like Project Farm on YouTube.
I'm finding this on a lot of the "deals" my wife has been finding on the TikTok shop. Piece of junk falls apart, so it inevitably gets replaced with a more expensive one I didn't really need in the first place.
Oh shit. She might be playing me.
I kind of agree with you. I bought my first set of tools extremely cheap, like $25 for a whole tool case. I keep replacing the things I use regularly with better quality stuff, and the things I don’t use often don’t get enough wear to impact usage in the first place. But there are things like my Hilti power drill, which I do not want to fail whatsoever and as such I paid the premium upfront.
Yeah, I’ve done similar. Bought a “all-in-one” tool kit that includes almost every basic tool. While it is nice to have one of everything, you quickly realize that the metal is so soft that some of them only last two or three uses. So, then you replace it with a better one.
Why we're choosing to destroy ourselves due to catastrophic climate change. I just...I get it now, but there are too many facets of it for me to want to list them all right now.
But I understand it. It doesn't make it justifiable, just comprehensive.
The apartments with pets thing, in my building currently there’s an owner who put their dog out in the balcony at night and it would just bark for hours. I sleep at around midnight with barking in the background. I don’t even know until how late it usually does it
Working fast food jobs versus working a professional job. There's a reason people work in fast food whether that be age, felony status, crap work history, education status (not always), or they are just shitty people.
There is a general unprofessional and childish mentality working at those places that I thought was normal when I worked them. When I moved into corporate culture it was difficult for me for like 3-4 years and it took a long time for me to understand that it's a different culture. You don't say off color shit or fuck around. Which I am okay with. I don't have to deal with casual sexual harassment, childish quitting displays, abuse, high school behavior, etc.
There is still some gossip but it's not hard to isolate yourself from it and people who do that shit typically don't last that long.
I didn't understand economy before, but now I realize it's because it's basically the world's biggest Texas Sharpshooter Fallacy, for a lack of a better way to say it.
Yep it's mainly because the BS repeated on the media all the time is cherry picked stuff for self serving media owners.
They won't explain the only way they think worth of regulating inflation is making salaries less and unemployment high.
Or why some sectors are highly subsidized but there's no money left for what matters to people, even though the money printing machine has no limits, causes inflation, and is always available when military needs to expand spending.
Or why most "wealthy" economies spend more than they earn and it's ok to have an ever increasing debt even though countries pay dividends on it, which has to come from more debt that has more interest to be paid.
Not even tax brackets are understood correctly and the reason is the less people understand economy the easier to distract from real issues like genocide, money mismanagement, crime, corruption and other common place problems that impact people every day.
There's a wonderful channel that explains many things that go against mainstream, new economic thinking. It's backed by a college. https://youtube.com/@neweconomicthinking
I still don't understand economy.
Its just numbers numbers GDP buzzword buzzword blah blah, I have no idea how it works.
At this point, it can be boiled down to [insert idea here] with an accessorized relation to money.
The economy is just people spending money. Is there enough money distributed to enough people who spend enough for enough businesses to employ enough people for enough of them to have enough money to spend? And the money has to trickle up.
"Pets are noisy, apartments should allow no tenants with pets". A sincere question: what pet owners, desperately looking for a place to live, should do? Ditch their pets? Abandon them? Throw them out?
One could extrapolate and state that "babies are noisy". After all, they can cry loud. Lots of places don't allow tenants with babies. What a mother with her baby looking for a place to live is supposed to do in such a situation where every landlord denies renting a place to her? What should she do, put her baby into adoption? Throw them out?
Geez. This is one of the many reasons why the modern world is deadwalking towards the cliff nowadays...
Unpopular opinion maybe, but if your housing or financial situation is not stable enough where having a pet could put you in such a difficult position, then you shouldn't have a pet.
Things change over the course of a person’s life, things change over the average 10-year lifespan of a pet.
Those who don’t have pets and don’t have stable housing, of course, shouldn’t adopt a pet. I agree with you here.
However, for those who already had a pet before their housing situation worsened, it’s hard to “no longer have a pet.” A pet owner can’t just put the pet up for adoption, because a pet becomes familiar with its owner (and there are breeds that can’t re-familiarize themselves with another owner, especially some cats).
Take the aftermath of COVID-19 pandemic for example: How many people have lost their homes due to job loss because the business they worked for went out of business due to the economic factors brought on by the pandemic? How many people have lost their homes due to the death (due to COVID) of a retired/working family member who used to help pay the bills? If these people have a dog, cat, or something else, they probably had the pet before the situation. They must've find another home, with the pets.
But then, many landlords (not only in the US) have the same thoughts as the OP: they don't accept tenants who have pets, regardless of what species or breed. I'm a cat person, I live with four cats, and they're not noisy. They don't go outside, they stay indoors, because they're neutered. But such details don't matter to landlords who have the immutable idea of "pets are noisy".
So here's the problem: this is a significant factor for homeless pets wandering the streets. Due to despair, some pet owners will simply abandon the pet on the streets, regardless of the laws (it's generally a crime to abandon a pet), so a housing can be afforded due to the stubborn rule of "no pets allowed", which curiously is not regulated by the same laws (it's not a crime to have prejudice/bigotry against tenants who are pet owners or if they have a baby). Fewer people do the right thing at this situation and put the pets to adoption but, as I said, it's not an easy thing for some species and breeds.
I have yet to hear a baby cry so loudly that I can hear it through my walls. So far in the 3 years I've lived here, not one instance can I recall or know of babies crying that loudly. Kids, who're able to talk and walk, they can be loud yes but they're manageable. It's lazy parenting that lets them be that way. Pets, generally, they're going to be loud and they're hard to control because nobody puts in the effort.
Now I have a question back at you - did you read the part where I said that some owners fucking suck at being owners or did you selectively skip that part to make the comment that you've made? Learn to read, it'd help you sometime.
Yeah I did read the part that some owners neglect their pets. However, two mistakes don't make a right take. There are bad pet owners, and there are good pet owners, and the same rule applies to both, which is unfairly punishing good pet owners... A rule which several landlords have, a rule which will render people who had pets before their housing worsening situation to either abandon their pets or going homeless. You stated that "pets are noisy", and this concept alone is generalization. Cats aren't. Some dog breeds (Border Collie, Huskies) aren't.
As for babies, yeah, it's a rule sometimes found being practiced by landlords, they don't accept tenants who have a baby. I'm not sure how's this situation in US, but here in Brazil this is a commonly found rule, which is an infuriating rule, and that's why my comment sounded passionately raged, because it's so unfair by many degrees...