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Why do social workers get upset when you don't want their help?
  • Idk how it's relavant to them that you are basically a van dweller. As long as you are taking care of yourself (eating healthy, exercising, showing, and whatever else) then it doesn't matter.

    Maybe if there was some treatment that required you to have access to facilities you need in a house but I can't think of anything. This is one of those times I would omit or just say you live in a house.

    Just make sure you're stashing away some cash in an account so you can replace your ride or put a down payment on a house if you decide you do want something a little less mobile some day.

  • Can somebody recommend miniature laptop for typing?
  • I paid 285$ a few months ago for a refurbished HP from New Egg. It's perfect for shoving in a bag and for writing. The charge lasts something like 4 hours if I sit there with it open. It'll last 2-3 days on my desk when I open it occasionally. I have it set to go to sleep after 15 minutes.

    HP Elitebook x360 830 G5 - GRADE A - Intel Core i7-8550U 1.8GHz - FHD (1920 X 1080) Touchscreen, 256 GB SSD, 16 GB DDR4 RAM, Webcam, Backlit Keyboard, Windows 11 Pro https://www.newegg.com/p/1XV-000B-024J7?Item=9SIB9ADK030907&Source=socialshare&cm_mmc=snc-social-_-sr-_-9SIB9ADK030907-_-09192024

    I used to own an Acer Alpha Switch. I was legitimately sad when the screen cracked. The battery had started to go bad and turn into a pillow. I broke the screen when I was in the process of trying to put it back together. Acer has some newer models I was looking at which were more in the 450$ price range at the time. I ended up going with HP instead because of the price and because I've never had any beef with their products with the exception of their printers.

  • Why would someone desire a pension instead of a 401k?
  • I remember there were some cases of pensions disappearing about 20 years ago so you're not imagining it. I can't find any stories on it but yeah there were people who went to retire their pensions were just gone.

    I found this on investopia while I was looking:

    "A number of situations could put your pension at risk, including underfunding, mismanagement, bankruptcy, and legal exemptions. Laws exist to protect you in such circumstances, but some laws provide better protection than others."

    So maybe they all sued the out of those companies and tapped into past insurance policies to get paid and that's why it's not really talked about.

    Bottom line is that if someone else has your money, it's in their control. If you have the money in your 401k, you can watch it and control it.

    https://www.investopedia.com/4-major-pension-problems-and-the-laws-that-protect-you-4692864#:~:text=A number of situations could,provide better protection than others

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    Is "retard" a slur?
  • I grew up using this word all the time. It's just one of the dumb words we said all the time. I only found out within the last couple of years that it's considered a slur. Idk, I feel most people who are actually considered retarded and are competent enough to understand don't actually care. But the reality is that any sort of "name calling" isn't necessary. I grew up with a culture of all sorts of name calling, but just because I grew up with doesn't mean it's right.

    But ultimately, language and the world changes and it's just not acceptable to say anymore because it is derogatory towards a particular group.

  • Life Feels Like an Endless Routine and I’m Struggling to Care Anymore
  • I few months back I had to shut off all of my sources of news because all the Palestinian horror stories were fucking with my head. I wanted to in touch with what is happening in the world but it was all too much.

    I have to agree with the post on being "properly bored" too. I've been dealing with general burnout too and spending time doing nothing and getting lost in my own head has done wonders.

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    What should I do about my brother?
  • I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I've got a sister that blows up once in a while and has a lot of mental issues. We grew up with my mom being mentally and emotionally abusive. My sister ended hard getting into drugs and alcohol for a while, spent some time in jail, got bailed out a couple of times. When I started feeling scared after she showed up at my house, drugged out of her mind, and threatened to kick my ass. I went no contact with her.

    There was nothing that any of my family could say to her to get her to stop. She is one of those people who has to learn the hard way. Eventually I started talking to her again when she stopped with the drugs and alcohol (she still smokes pot but it doesn't cause issues other than not affording to pay her bills). She doesn't make any effort to apply herself or make any real improvements in her life. I've talked with her a lot about improving her self Esteem and doing tiny things to get out of a vicious cycle of depression. I'll follow up with her and ask if she did any of it and she'll say no. She's taken medication for her depression and whatever other issues she has, but she'll stop taking it. She won't see a therapist because she is paranoid that idk they'll call the cops or tell the government something about her. (My mother was psycho paranoid the same way.)

    I'm not entirely sure what got her out of the drugs and alcohol. But at some point she decided to stop, then she had a baby and that's been her primary motivation for staying clean at least. She recently checked herself into a psych ward after a blow up with her husband and child and she became suicidal. She's convinced she isn't worth anything and is just a fuck up.

    But I guess the point I'm making is that people have to choose to change. My sister will have to choose to make changes in her thinking if she wants to be happy and functional, just like she chose to stop drugs and alcohol. The best thing is probably go no contact. Some people will use that as a sign that they need to stop and figure their shit out or get help. It wouldn't hurt to tell him you care about him, that you hope for the best for him, that you wish him a good life (maybe by mail is best). That's if you still do. Maybe those words will stick with him.

  • Bungie Reveals ‘Destiny 2’ Is Being Crippled By DDoS Attacks
    www.forbes.com Bungie Reveals ‘Destiny 2’ Is Being Crippled By DDoS Attacks

    Destiny 2 was barely playable at all yesterday after weekly reset, thanks to a number of error codes being spat at players during login or travel.

    Bungie Reveals ‘Destiny 2’ Is Being Crippled By DDoS Attacks

    Destiny 2 was barely playable at all yesterday after weekly reset, thanks to a number of error codes being spat at players during login or travel. By evening, I couldn’t play at all, loading into empty activities that would promptly kick me out after a minute or two.

    Bungie has now confirmed that these instability issues have nothing to do with the recent weapon superbug that they are in the middle of fixing, where some perks have been disabled as they press toward a larger solution. Bungie has in fact revealed these current attacks on Destiny 2 are the result of outside DDoSing. Here’s what the BungieHelp account said late yesterday:

    "Over the past couple of days, we've seen a spike in error codes and disconnects. The team has confirmed that these error codes are not related to the planned fixes rolling out for the recent crafting issue and are instead a result of DDoS attacks. While we typically don't confirm…"

    In the tweet, Bungie says that this has happened before, but normally they would not comment on it, as that can just aid and embolden the perpetrators. This time, they’re doing it because they didn’t want people to assume it was because of the ongoing major bug fix.

    There have indeed been instances in the past when Destiny 2 was suffering from huge server issues where I was told it was in fact a DDoS attack, but Bungie couldn’t say anything due to the reasons above. But it’s a frustrating situation given that of course, the wider community will assume it’s Bungie’s fault (and I mean, sometimes it is just normal server problems) instead of an active attack. Though now in the future perhaps there will be a little more room for interpretation, given that this has happened before, it’s happening now, and it will happen again.

    Bungie has been incredibly litigious as of late when it comes to people impacting the game or its community. They have sued and won judgements against several large-scale cheatmakers. They went after someone who issued false YouTube takedown notices. They were awarded a judgement against someone who terrorized their former community manager and his wife.

    It stands to reason they may take similar action against a DDoSer, but finding them may be a tall order. They are doing way, way more active damage to the game than some of these other cases, but it’s notoriously difficult to hunt someone like this down. It has happened in the past, but rarely, if ever, for something like going after a video game’s servers. I’m sure Bungie would absolutely seek damages or criminal charges here, if it were possible. We’ll see what happens.

    For now, the game seems to be working okay as of this morning, but it’s unclear if the attacks have ceased altogether. My heart goes out to every “fix things” team at Bungie between these attacks and the ongoing bug fixes for the wildest glitch in game history. Hell of a week (Lemon, it’s Wednesday).

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