If you could go back and tell your childhood self something about their future that would improve their childhood, what would it be?
If you could go back and tell your childhood self something about their future that would improve their childhood, what would it be?
Save your sister, she is not okay. You are not an inferior person, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are not responsible for everything. Your boundaries matter. Your feelings matter. You will be okay.
She invited you over at 2am cuz she wanted the D you fucking idiot
You fight much bigger problems that others around you. Your way of thinking is definitely not normal, seek diagnosis and help. Life is not supposed to be this complicated mentally.
Tell Mama to divorce him now. Give her this letter.
"You're trans lul, and don't worry about coming out your mom is nice and dad doesn't give a fuck" Honestly would probably make my childhood harder but would make my mid/late teens onward a lot less confusing and painful.
Hit the gym and stay consistent about it. Not only will you feel better about yourself you'll also be able to manage the physical pain you will have a lot better.
Ask that girl out JFC!
Whatever comes of it—whether you get hurt, or whether you get suspended—you just need to lay your bullies out.
They won’t ignore you. They won’t go away, no matter how hard you work to be unnoticeable. It’s trying to do that—to be invisible so that they’ll leave you alone—that will change the course of your life for the worse. You won’t be a high achiever, you won’t go to a good school, you’ll just coast, forever suffering the damage they did, and regretting that you didn’t do anything about it.
The only thing they’ll understand is the kind of violence that says you’re not worth fucking with. Don’t worry what Mom will think. Don’t worry about the pain of a punch or two. Don’t worry about your “permanent record”. All that will be temporary in the grand scheme of things.
I am sorry to hear that. It is not your fault. It is the fault of the bullies who did it and it is the fault of the adults that did not protect you. You were just a child. You cannot be expected to solve something so difficult as bullying all by yourself. Many adults cannot even do that. Apparently, the adults in your environment could not solve it, so how could you be expected to do it?
Regretting it does not help. Regretting it just prolongs the pain. It just keeps the idea alive that it is somehow your own fault and that you had control. You did not have control. However, you do have control now.
If you still feel invisible, do something about it. You do not need to still keep suffering the damage. That is something you actually can do something about now.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you are well.
You’re trans and mom’s headaches aren’t normal she needs to get them checked out
You're experiencing abuse and it's not normal. You also don't have to put up with your family because they're your family.
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That doesn't mean that things can't be better!
Or worse.
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I can't think of anything I'd tell myself, but I do know what I'd tell my parents: use condoms.
You're not difficult or lazy, you're autistic and you have ADHD.
It seems like these two come as a pair quite often. Is there a reason for that?
My personal theory is that neurodivergents unconsciously group / couple with each other. Happened with me and my partner. Genes that couple are more likely to co-exist. Either that or there's some shared evolutionary origin of the genes that make up both conditions.
You'll regret buying Heroes of Might and Magic 3, but you'll soon appreciate its greatness. Also, hold off buying a game called Skyrim until the Anniversary Edition releases.
Always take spare batteries for your GameBoy
The real life changing advice ⬆️
Game Gear was the worst for this. 6 batteries gets like 2hrs of play
Buy bitcoin and dump all of it at 65k
Ah yeah, just withdraw all the liquidity that is most certainly there...
You have just demonstrated more faith in neolib pretendy dollaridos than I have or will never have.
Yes man, try that in a small town amirite
Don't listen to your parents; for all of the advice out there in the world that says that your parents know what's best for you and want that for your future, that does not apply here. Also it's okay to be gay and agender, so go slay and get a sweet boyfriend.
That is some very good advice to yourself!
- See a psy doc when you’re a teenager. Your teachers asking “Is everything ok? Is something wrong?” out of the blue are red flags that you need help.
- When in doubt, forgive others
You're AuDHD, and I believe everything that's happening to you at home. It's real and you're not lying or making it up. You don't deserve this. You're a good person and your family wasn't prepared or willing to meet your needs. You are NOT a burden or an unlovable, broken failure of a child. You are BEAUTIFUL.
Keep writing & fiercely loving your stories - NEVER give up on them, or anything else that brings you joy; your interests & passions & the woman you love (and that love is NOT wrong) are your family now.
"Those teachers and your fellow students? They're not actually that stupid and you're not crazy. Confront your parents about those standardized tests the school had you take; they're hiding the results from you. You could do so much more if only they'd let you skip some grades, but they don't want you to grow up too fast and think you'll socialize better if you don't skip. You'll be bored and never learn how to actually learn hard subjects if you don't get away from these imbeciles quick. Oh, and you'll develop a condescending tone which drives away every potential friend you could have had if you don't do this. Also, you're trans."
Get on Effexor as soon as possible. Oh and you're Autistic. Have fun!
Your parents are mentally ill. And you will be too. Ask them.
You have ADHD, fight until you get diagnosed ASAP.
Also, dad is a fucking bully, a liar and a manipulator. Don't trust him.
You have generalized anxiety disorder. Learn to handle it. Also, it is very normal and most people are unaware of their psychological issues.
It's not that hard to lose weight. You don't have to eat only lettuce. You just have to eat less.
Not even that, just gotta eat the right things! I can eat a ton of veggies and fill myself up.
Veggies are great too. I remember when I first started using a calorie counting app, I was blown away at how quickly the weight came off of me, even though I was getting fairly minimal exercise. I went the entirety of my teenage years being fat as hell, basing my idea of weight-loss on having observed my brother years before, running laps around the property, eating salads and other foods I disliked, and sitting in the laundry room with sweats on as though it were a sauna. This deterred me from ever really trying, and unfortunately he was usually the one giving me weight-loss advice.
Didn't find out until my twenties that I could still have the foods I liked, as long as I closely controlled the portion size and/or earned a larger deficit by walking throughout the day. I'm still a rollercoaster of self-control, but I at least remain on the lighter side these days.
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And when to sell them!
Don't go into manual labor.
Improve the child hood. Not much really.
Help someone else’s childhood. Yeah I’d alert the family to the problem with their dad before the abuse.
All kinds of Sugar and Starches are alcohol for your body. Keep up with that japanese course. Invest in Crypto hard just like you wanted to but thought it was expensive and risky at the time. Keep crypto, no sell, until a super rich publicly well known guy suddenly invests, then leave crypto days later asap.
It's okay to make mistakes. Learn from them and move on. Don't let your fear of criticism stop you from trying new things.
"You will have a psychotherapy and regret it hard not doing it earlier. School psychologist is not enough. Find a psychotherapist now"
When dad gives you advice, do the exact opposite. He's not stupid, the world has just changed so much since he was a kid.
College is not for you. I know you are looking forward to it but it will ruin your mental health, land you in massive debt, and lead to a suicide attempt. You won't finish anyway. Join a union and don't work for a place that makes aluminum molds. Do lots of ab workouts and you could avoid a couple of hernias
Actually a really difficult question as very much about the childhood depends on adults (parents, teachers, ...) around you.
Maybe this one: "The whole bullying situation will not change until you leave school. Convince your parents to let you change schools."
There aren't too many things I regret. I'd tell myself to keep my mouth shut in a couple places, don't start drinking coke, maybe buy and sell some bitcoin. But for the most part, there was a lot of good with the bad, and reward from hardship.
Don't drink.
Stay away from sugar, and only eat whole foods, this will make your life tremendously better (at least it did for me), even if you just start today.
It’s ok to go to therapy! In fact I encourage it 😁
You won't always be poor so don't worry about money.
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Love your close family more, you will need it.
You don't have a learning disability and you don't belong in the special classes. Don't trust anyone that says it will be fixed the next year and go to a different high school when they say the classes you want are filled.
Say no more often
Enjoy life to the fullest as a kid. Adulthood freaking sucks.
Don't get back together with her and don't fucking stay with her into college. She'll just break up with you, again, at Disney... again.
Mormonism isn't true, but she's worth it. (not the girl you think I'm talking about, she dumps you while you're on your mission.)
Don't sweat the petty things.
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And don't pet the sweaty things.
Don't go to college.
Actually do what you want to do. Don't try to please everyone else with your life choices, you're the one who has to live with them.
Learn to mine bitcoin as soon as you hear about it.
Bet a lot on Leicester City for 2015-16 season.
Start taking your education seriously because it becomes hell afterwards. Forget about being a mechanical engineer and instead focus on software. Start working as a full stack engineer and transition towards ai afterwards
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Please die. Thank you.
