‘I am so scared of them now’: Burned from overspending, some ‘buy now, pay later’ users warn others away
‘I am so scared of them now’: Burned from overspending, some ‘buy now, pay later’ users warn others away
After racking up thousands of dollars in debt, some borrowers are deleting the apps from their phones to avoid getting prodded to spend more.
After racking up thousands of dollars in debt, some borrowers are deleting the apps from their phones to avoid getting prodded to spend more.
Many consumers find buying now and paying later a godsend when cash is tight. Others are wishing they’d paid upfront to avoid pain later.
Tia Whiteside, 27, knew she was spending more than she would have without buy now, pay later services — the popular loans that let borrowers split purchases into installments with little or no interest. Planning a day trip to the beach with her 2-year-old son last year, she spent $800 on Amazon purchases including a tent, new outfits and a high-end sandcastle kit with the BNPL provider Affirm.
Whiteside, a Greenville, South Carolina-based behavioral analyst who treats childhood autism, makes good money; she and her husband bring in about $110,000 per year combined. But the $6,000 in BNPL loans she’d racked up over roughly two years felt frivolous, she said, especially because they’re planning to buy their first home.
“I was just seeing my paycheck continually eaten up,” said Whiteside, “and I was like, ‘Where’s my money going?’”
$800 on a day trip to the beach?? Thats insane to me.
Also never understood why anyone would you those options, they have always seemed like trap. Have some self control
Why do you even need a tent for the beach? Are you camping out there overnight?
I imagine it’s more of a canopy than a sleeping tent. Something like an EZ up tent that provides more shade than just an umbrella.
I’ve used them and they’re pretty nice, especially if you’re going to be at the beach all day and don’t wanna get sun burned. That being said, it’s still a big purchase for just one day trip. I’d only invest in one if you were using it regularly, or had like a week-long trip planned.
I honestly don't understand why anyone thought "buy now pay later" was anything new. Usury is among the earliest professions.
Which is also why it was bad from the Christian and Muslim points of view in the Middle Ages.
We are used to blaming religion, but it sometimes by necessity filled the role of therapy back then, or laws which secular powers wouldn't make.
A couple of weeks back there was an article making the rounds of the fediverse about how people with reasonably decent incomes were nevertheless living "paycheck to paycheck", and a number of examples were given in the article with their individual stories of woe about how they were baffled by how burdened with debt they were. Most of those stories, when you dug in with just a slightly critical eye instead of an automatic assumption of victimhood, revealed people making foolish choices to take on debt and support the maximally lavish lifestyle that they could manage.
The comment section was weird. It turned out that there were some people there who thought this was perfectly reasonable, giving examples of "necessary expenditures" from their own lives that were just as excessive when examined. If you think that building a deck or buying a new bed simply because it's "time for a new one" are necessary expenditures then it's kind of hard to be sympathetic when you complain about how you have no money for long-term savings.
Is there just some basic personality type that finds it hard to be responsible with money, or is this a failure of education somehow? I have ideas for how to help but help will be unwelcome by people who refuse to recognize that they have a problem.
simply because it’s “time for a new one”
Depends. There are probably people who say that after a few years, and others use it for 10-15 before making that exclamation. In which case the choice for a new bed is (depending on your choice) no longer a luxury expense but a maintenance one.
Is there just some basic personality type that finds it hard to be responsible with money, or is this a failure of education somehow? I have ideas for how to help but help will be unwelcome by people who refuse to recognize that they have a problem.
I think a few things come together to bring us here:
- Modern education has completely abandoned teaching personal finance to kids.
- Modern payment technology (credit cards, tap to pay, apple pay) have separated us all from the tangible feeling of spending our cash on stuff. Now we don't even swipe a card or hand over a credit card to pay for something.
- Influencers and social media create new, unrealistic expectations of lifestyle.
- Highly targeted advertising on the web, in apps, and through paid influencers and social media, finds people at their most vulnerable moments and suggests that they buy stuff. Companies are targeting the weaknesses in our psychology and it's hard to withstand that onslaught.
Edit: what I said was incorrect.
I commented there, and while I do lean towards the idea that personal finance literacy is an issue, I don't think that it's purely a matter of self-control. I don't think this is necessarily a "Bob knows that he should spend N and save X but instead spends N+X" situation. I think that some of it is that people do not really have a great idea of what they should be doing in terms of personal finance. Like, what is a reasonable amount to be spending? How much should I be spending on housing? How much should be going towards retirement? How much of an emergency buffer should I have? What should I do with money that I save?
I think the answer is in your first sentence, personal finance literacy. At least in my case reading about it, learning the basics (six months expenses emergency fund, pay credit cards in full every month, invest in ETFs..) and understand other people's strategies is all it took. Hate to say it but I owe reddit one for all that knowledge.
Ah the person that complains they had to tap into their investments because you need to periodically get a new bed and redo your deck and can't save money. Yes I got downvoted for providing basic personal finance recommendations there!
I think the problem is a combination of the things you mention, and the fact that society is just normalising stupid spending, waste of resources and spending everything you earn, if not more.
When on reddit, I was active on personal finance subs. The amount of people asking for suggestions on how to improve their budget that didn't see anything wrong with 10-12 subscriptions for shows and music, on top of astronomic phone bills, eating out etc was crazy. At least they took the first step, wrote down their expenses, and were asking for help. The bed/deck guy was just pure madness.
Yes. Absolutely there is, the personality thing. It's undiagnosed learning disabilities, ADHD or just a straight up person who would have been a well regarded hunter a different century.
i guess dyscalcula kinda makes sense at an angle, but how do undiagnosed dyslexia and dysgraphia affect your financial literacy?
A high end sandcastle kit?
Sounds like a GREAT reason to over borrow.
I guess maybe something like this:
https://www.amazon.com/PUFFERFISH-Sand-Castle-KIT-PRO-Quality/dp/B08GYLQGKR/
just stop buying shit you dont need
Planning a day trip to the beach with her 2-year-old son last year, she spent $800 on Amazon purchases including a tent, new outfits and a high-end sandcastle kit
Or you know you could just go to the beach and not buy anything, except maybe some food and drinks. Some people are their own worst enemies. I don't spend that much on food in a month.
Indeed, and once she deletes the bnpl app, she'll use credit cards to buy useless shit like she prolly did before.
I think me and you have been successfully clickbaited though, the journalist looked for such an extreme example to cause outrage, have the article linked on various aggregations, and be discussed.
The odd loophole these buy now pay later schemes have (or maybe had, I haven't checked for a while), is that they don't show up on your credit reports. This means more borrowing, and more opportunity to get in over your head in debt.
And then people get pushed into irresponsible borrowing, like its normal. You see ads for buying a fucking burger and paying it back over six weeks. I've seen tile shops that take Klarna as payment. Sorry to be Mr Old Fashioned, but by the stage of life where you're buying kitchen tiles, you should have your financial shit together.
I mean sure, shit happens and sometimes you need £800 for a car repair or something so you don't lose your job and fall into a cascade of debt, but $800 on a tent for a two day beach trip for a toddler? Give your head a wobble. He'd have had just as much fun two minutes down the road in a local park.
high-end sandcastle kit
I mean, we built some pretty neat sandcastles as kids with our hands. Dig a hole, put the sand in front of it as a barrier, scoop up sand+water from the hole and create "drip castles" with turrets and such that harden as they dry.
If you're buying decorations, I'm thinking that it's gonna be liable to wind up with plastic decorations or something left behind.
And in that case...I mean, the kid is 2 years old. I figure that she probably wants the best for him and all, but...I've seen a lot of 2-year-olds enjoy the box that a toy came in a lot more than the toy. I dunno if his sandcastle experience is gonna be so much more awesome with some kinda kit than just experiencing and learning how wet sand acts...
Idiots spend money they don't have. News at 11.
The only purchase I'm willing to go into debt for is a house and a car. Anything else I spend on should be something I already have the money for. I don't understand how some people are willing to take out loans for miscellaneous things that aren't even necessities.
Well medical care is not house or car but needed.
For sure. I forgot to include that, since it’s a necessity after all.
I think it's a gray line for some folks. I recently got my first credit card and I use it for all day to day expenses. It's amazing how easy it is to get side tracked while spending. You only having to down pay a certain amount of the outstanding credit and the limits are set by the provider not you. If i didn't keep monitoring it I think it'd be really easy to get a bill one month that just eats out all my other income.
Apparently a lot of people are going into debt for the sake of "keeping up with the Jones's"
They're literally putting themselves into tens of thousands of dollars into debt for an iPhone or shit like that. It completely boggles my mind how you could destroy your entire future for extremely short term gains.
Instant gratification has gone too far too fast
People have completely lost track of what wealth looks like and it's not their fault. Using UK numbers cause that's where I live:
- salary for a 21yo in 1970 for a white collar job: £1861 - £24k adjusted for inflation. Pretty on par with today's salary for a starting white collar job.
- price of the average house in the UK in 1970: £4378. About 3 times the above annual salary. Adjusted for inflation that's £57,491. The average price of a house in the UK right now is £260,000 after dropping from 300 due to current market. 10 Times the annual salary.
You go to work at least 8 hours a day 5 days a week, in a culture that's indoctrinating you that you should be thankful you even have these horrible work conditions and pay, you spend half of more of your income on a landlords mortgage payments + extra, and for what? So you can't even afford to buy a damn games console outright and drown your sorrows in a virtual world?
Yeah no shit their overspending, they just want to live a little of their life when they can but they can't even afford to do that.
And to everyone that's about to write "well if they would budget better" kindly fuck into the sun. First of all not everyone should be an accountant in order to live comfortably. A lot of people simply don't have the skills necessity to do it. But more important, a full time job should be enough to provide for yourself, your family (1 spouse 1 child) and a mortgage on a house or apartment suitable for this family of 3. Not because I feel like people are entitled to this, fast from it, but because this was the norm 55 years ago. This was the normal for my grandparents. Society is supposedly evolving. The first world countries where this was the norm have, supposedly, grown their economies by A LOT. How can it be possible that the majority is worse off than 55 years ago in a more modern society and in now a lot more advanced economies.
But the answer is very simple really isn't it. You can't afford a house or a car made in the last decade while the rich are having literally privatised space races. Space races were exclusively the hobbies of nuclear superpowers, funded by taxpayers. How exactly did private individuals summon up the funds to advice this?
Well, you fill in the dots...
ITT a breath of fresh air. I am not alone in having an interest in personal finance, and understanding the basics of it.
Most of my interactions on lemmy so far have been making me feel guilty (and downvoted) for saving some money like I was a dirty billionaire, and to invest in index funds, using capital to further oppress the masses.
$55,000 is good money?
Depends on where you live
Well if it isn't then more than half the country is making bad money: https://fred.stlouisfed.org/series/MEPAINUSA672N
More than half the country is making bad money! We’ve been ripped off since the 70s. There was a Time article a few years back that calculated how if wages had kept pace with productivity, like it did up until the 70s, then Americans would be $50 trillion richer. Instead that money went to the rich. The rich has scraped off the $50 trillion in wages from the working class and that’s why everyone is paycheck to paycheck.
Our country is big, and has wild variances in both cost and standard of living.
I make a bit less, and $55k would change very little other than the fact that I'd be able to get medical care. I'd still have to live 40 miles from work in an ancient apartment, I'd still be unable to go out to eat or spend money on recreation, and I'd still have to ration my grocery money pretty carefully.
Where my best friend lives, this would be cocaine and hookers every weekend kind of money. Their rent is $400, and again, they live alone.
But on the coast, you couldn't live even with several roommates. You'd be homeless.
I make $50,000 and I live alone in a 3 bedroom house (a fixer upper but decent enough) which I own in a decent part of my not even terribly small city (~50,000 people). And I live comfortably enough even though I put very little effort into budgeting. Only 3 years ago I was still living in the same house/area off of $30,000 and even that was technically livable. $55,000 in my area is decent money as long as you don't go completely wild with it and it's downright great in a dual income household. There are also areas of the contry that have an even lower cost of living than mine.
Once you get out of the metropolitan areas money usually stretches much farther.
So you shouldn't take super high interest loans to buy crap online?
Planning a day trip to the beach with her 2-year-old son last year, she spent $800 on Amazon purchases including a tent, new outfits and a high-end sandcastle kit with the BNPL provider Affirm.
Nvm it was clearly unavoidable.
That report also found Black consumers were 65% more likely to borrow on BNPL than the general population, followed by Hispanic consumers (47%) and female consumers (35%).
Also racist and sexist 🤡
So you shouldn't take super high interest loans to buy crap online?
In Netherlands they limited the maximum interest rate. Plus borrowers should check if people are credit worthy without that credit score. Basically it is assumed there are enough people who are terrible with their finances. The last bit is preferable over victim blaming.
Plus borrowers should check if people are credit worthy without that credit score.
I assume you mean "lenders". I mean, sure, they'll check and they have expertise in finance, but the job of a lender isn't to handle a borrower's personal finances in a sane fashion. The job of a lender is to avoid being defaulted on. Like, they'll permit the absolute maximum amount of debt that they're comfortable with, which probably is more than what a borrower should be comfortable with.
In Australia, at least at the beginning, bnpl services managed to bypass all money lending regulations based on the fact that they don't charge interest. I know that there were discussions about fixing that but haven't been following the topic in a while.
Like the other person, I also assume you meant lenders, not borrowers. Lenders WANT people that are terrible with their finances. Visa makes very little with me paying off my credit card in full every month, just some merchant fees. On the other hand plenty of Australians are in constant credit card debt and pay something like 18-22% interest on the money they borrow.
Good on the Dutch government to try and control that.
That’s pretty recent I think - and it’s only limited to like 30% I think ?
The main issue is parents (and the school system) aren’t teaching kids about budgeting and how CCs work because they don’t know how it works either. It’s perpetuating.
It says in the article that the loans aren't high interest. They're low to no interest.
They work like credit cards. If you pay off the debt then there's no problem, you are essentially just pulling money from the future, when you will have it, into the past, where you don't have it, which can be useful if you 100% know you'll be able to cover your debt by the end of the month.
But if you are going to do that you might as well just have a credit card. Banks love it when you do stuff like that, their all time favorite customers are people who regularly pay off their debts and never require any communication from them. Banks don't like it if they have too many people indented to them, because a certain percentage won't pay off their debt. Banks have other less risky means of making money, mostly through safe mortgages and bank fees.
But these loan companies only make money by people having debt. So the risk reward calculation is different for them, so they actively encourage people to get into debt in a way that banks tend not to.