1y ago

What are your core values?

authenticity -> real and genuine
autonomy -> seperate individual (not enmeshed)
curiosity -> growth mindset and learning constantly
growth -> improving functioning and increased awareness of change and adapting to new circumstances
peace -> absence of conflict and abnegation of other people's drama/entitlements
pleasure -> enjoying or benefitting from the actions I take and consequences of those I maintain relationships with
respect -> genuine care for recognizing and upholding other's needs where it is safe and not incompatible with your own
reciprocity -> balanced approach to give/take and being mutually-attentive to signs of imbalance
safety -> avoiding things, people, places, situations that hurt you or cause you to be unable to enforce the protections you need to accomodate yourself in the context
stabillity -> expectation of consistency and balance and sustainabillity in one's relationship with anything/anyone.

These are sort of a rough outline of mine, how about yours Lemmings? Mine aren't exhaustive but these are the core simplest profile I could break down. Feel free to steal anything and add to your collection ;)

32 comments

Love others as much as I love myself.
Action is better than reaction.
Produce more than I consume.
Avoid violence against other people, all types of violence: physical, economic, emotional, social.
Take care of the environment.
- So (correct me if im off base anywhere)
  love others
  equality/fairness + compassion
  action is better than reaction
  autonomy (doing this because you need them done and not from external influence or coercion)
  produce more than consumer
  contribution + reciprocity (kinda conflates with equality and fairness
  violence against others
  reciprocity and justice
  
  The only one you're off on is action / reaction. That's about doing what I ethically decide to do rather than obeying the desires of my body or my brain.
Serve the public trust
Protect the innocent
Uphold the law
Do the least harm while doing the most good.
Ends do not justify means.
That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.
Never attribute to malice what can be explained adequately by ignorance.
When confronting and assessing any system of belief one must always ask one self, what are the facts?
Big beats are the best
Get high all the time
Freedom, respect.
Pretty much all my other core values stem from one of those two (also important to mention that "my freedom ends where yours begins").
Integrity, autonomy, and the scientific method
How do I want to be treated?
Probably most other people want the same.
How do I feel when I'm not treated with kindness or respect?
How do I feel when I'm misunderstood or wrongly accused?
Probably most other people feel the same.
I know I'm not perfect at this. But at the end of the day, when I'm reflecting on my day's interactions, I'm thinking of how I could have done things better. And hopefully over time I'll be the kind of person I'd like to encounter and maybe even be friends with. That's all we can hope for, to leave tiny breadcrumbs of positivity and to be remembered fondly.
There's a lot of divisiveness and hostility and cognitive biases in the world today. I don't think it needs to be this way but I also think it's largely outside our ease to control. Holding onto and constantly reflecting upon our core values, values I believe most other people share, may help regain our control and our humanity.
Don't be an asshole.
Horny -> I need to cum
Happy -> I just came
Healthy -> I have cummed
My core values are:
Learn everything you can
Share the knowledge you have gained
Don't be a dick
Help out
Don't be afraid to roll up your sleeves
Work until the job is done
And don't fucking take yourself seriously.
I am whatever the day wants me to be.
People are worth investing in. Money isn't power. You get only that which you fight for.
- People are worth investing in. Money isn’t power.
  I don't think you meant it this way but what I've been considering recently is our culture's obsession with consumption over offering. We generally admire those who've obtained and retain tangible wealth more than those who have obtained and share wisdom, aid, and generosity. We, society in general, look up to and want to be more like those with big houses and flashy cars and "have things" while we tend to not aspire to be someone who gives and sacrifices and genuinely tries to make the world a better place. Because capitalism and corporations and the media and the government have nothing to gain from a culture of people who want to give more than consume.
  
  Insightful af
Mistakes are ok, and if you can't accept that, then fuck yourself.
Add integrity
- What would you say the difference is between authenticity and integrity?
  Or do they more or less both boil down to honesty 🤔
  
  In a general sense (edit lack of) integrity involves compromising/adjusting your values for convenience, expedience, or personal gain.
  A very common shape this takes is people who have a standard of behavior for others in the world, but they somehow cannot apply that standard to themselves.
You guys have values?
I don't know you, therefore I don't trust you until I do
Respect has to be earned
Leave me alone
- I vehemently disagree with your 2nd point. Respect is mutual and I will respect anyone until that respect is lost. Though it can be earned back over time.
Humans are inherently good. Machines/tools are useful.
The rest falls into place.
Autonomy - The same core reason that sexism, racism, transphobia, classism and ableism is wrong, is also the reason I am vegan. A creatures birth does not dictate what it is "meant" for. So long as your desires so not cause suffering in another you are free to determine your own life's purpose, and when you do intentionally cause legitimate suffering in another, you are ethically required to stop.
- creatures birth does not dictate what it is "meant" for
  Tell that to hungry predetors.
  Also, Ethics = subjective..so have fun with that
  
  A bear or tiger has no concept of morality or ethics so they have no obligation to abide by it. Humans do, which is why it would be wrong to hurt that animal for your own meat/skin/trophy pleasure.
  Take a step back and realize how silly it is to object to human morality because tigers don't.
What would you pick as your top 3? Top 2?
I see autonomy sorta winding through this one, any thoughts on why that's a big deal for you?
Curious as I've done this exercise before but only in short lists. I think I did it in couples therapy once as well, and, yeah, autonomy probably not a good one in the setting.
I've never really thought about it. I may be a philosophical zombie.
- Neither did I till I had the time till recently. I believe they are important to understanding problematic relationships and dynamics and yourself by extension

32 comments