Anon meets up with a girl

Guys: Take a shower, shave and put on clean clothes before you meet with someone.

Hygiene is very sexy.

Gonna preface this by saying Ive got no issues with you or your comment, I recognize what community I'm in.
But advice like this is so frustrating for actually normal people who are single and are struggling to find a partner. It implies anyone who can't get a date can't do so because they're the equivalent of a stinky smelly mongoloid who's been wearing the same underwear he uses to clean his pits for 3 days.
Again your comment is perfectly valid given the context. OOP probably left out that he tipped his fedora to the m'lady because of all the dandruff that fell off when he did it. But being told in normal communities to "just take a shower bro you'll get a date 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽" feels like being corrected on your spelling, in a math test, when you spelled the word correctly in the first place.
/rant
Edit: oof. So I upset some people with this one, obviously, but the only people I care about that I upset are the ones who pointed out the unfortunate term used above. As some had guessed I had no idea of it's origins. (Ironically, I noticed the similarity when my phone generously assumed I wasn't a bigot and tried autocorrecting to something.. marginally less offensive, but in the midst of typing out a rant I didn't think twice.)
I'm leaving it so others can see my mistake and hopefully learn from it. But when selecting fun and frivolous language, I'll make sure to remove that one from the pot.
- Oof, also I laughed at your example at the bottom. This actually happened to me in highschool and it still haunts me.
- Dude, the use of "mongoloid" is not cool.
  You know what it means, right?
- Take a shower before you see a sex worker.
- If you're hygienic then the comment isn't for you
- BTW, and now that we are doing this, dandruff is not a sign of lack of hygiene. It is a common symptom of skin conditions like dermatitis. I don't like to recommend subreddits in Lemmy, but take a look at r/sebderm and read a couple of threads there. Fortunately, most people don't know it, but a chronical skin condition can get you suicidal.
- The comment doesn't imply that everyone who can't find a partner is unkempt, it's just a recommendation to help people out.
  Like if I said that people who ride bicycles are physically fit, I wouldn't be implying that everyone who is physically fit rides bicycles
- You do realize that the vast majority of "actually normal people" from your comment are or have been in relationships? Like what is your definition of that, I don't think it's what most would think.
- Never implied anything like what you fantasize here, especially not something like "getting dates only when clean" and other bullshit.
  If you never get a date then personal hygiene may play a role, that much is true. But there's a myriad of other issues that influence your success with the wanted person/persons, including being a whiny bitch that insinuates dumb stuff for example.
I do that and still no dates, now what?
- Did you remember to be attractive?
- You need to get out and talk to people and ask them out.
Nah I would prefer to just complain about it on the internet.
No shave, have beard, will not capitulate to demands. If you can't accept my face at it's harriest you don't deserve the parts I do trim!
I have sensitive skin lol and razor bumps are laaaaaaame.
- You're definitely missing the point. I also have a beard and refuse to shave but I tidy my beard up periodically. The point is to groom yourself.
Also cologne. Never forget the cologne. Just a couple sprays.
- Cologne sucks. It's not needed.
- 4 gallons minium, your doing it wrong if your eyes dont burn from the ~~teargas~~ cologne :P
- This is genuinely hilarious to see the advice to wear some cologne getting down voted lmao

I feel the need to put this on its head.

What if the girl, after whatever time they spent relaxing realized she truly enjoyed his company and decided she wanted to keep him as someone she can spend time as a person and not a sexual object?

Well then neither of them is getting what they want.
- Sad but probably true.
Well I guess he will find out based on whether or not she ever contacts him again.
Really though this does seem like the kind of thing where "it's because you're sexually repulsive" only seems like the obvious explanation because of insecurity brainworms.
- It's a very common conclusion among men. Before I finally met my gf at 23, I thought the same thing. Getting friend zoned left and right and pushed away while everyone else is whoring all day everyday for as far as you can remember makes you feel like an expired rotting piece of shit. Sentences like "You're too good, you deserve better", "Someone must like you, you're great!" or even sentences from older women like "Oh, girls must like you." just start feeling like thinly veiled insults, like everyone is making fun of you, even if they aren't.
- If that was the case, why bother with all the build up? And why sugar coat it? Even sex workers are in their right to deny a costumer.
i will never understand the inability for people not to have amazing sex with their friends
- Anon couldn't have sex with a friend because anon wanted to have sex with a prostitute.
- I don't want to have sex with my friends. I know where they've been.
  Anyway people's relationships are complicated, there's plenty of people I like who I do not find attractive.
- Somewhere along the line, when you finally meet the person that truly meets all your expectations for a life together, your friend:
  Have they told you we used to fuck?
Considering that this kind of soft unspoken rejection is the same tactic women use to lose pickup "artists" and other perceived predators or just unwanted people, if in anon's shoes, this is the moment I'd consider running away for my own peace of mind. In my experience, it's a good idea to not stick around people that reject you on the basis of being "too good".
- Very roundabout way to do it.
  As I stated in another comment, even sex workers have the right to refuse a customer.
  From my perspective, this is the kind of approach/behavior that feeds stalkers and worst.
I'm betting that this is exactly what happened. That girl, in all probability, has been treated like meat most of her life. There's a nontrivial chance that she's a victim of some kind of abuse.
So having a real connection to someone who doesn't just treat you like meat, and is only interested in what she can do for/to them, is probably very different than the interactions she normally has.
It's sad, but likely true.
- You just keep going on with that fantasy. I'm sure it'll give you some enjoyment in the dark of the night.
  Meanwhile in the real world anons who treat girls like they're some kind of sex vending machine don't come off as friend material. Their intentions are very obvious. I think it more likely she just didn't want repeat business.
Then she apparently chose wrong cause that anon is an A class douche bag who only saw her as and easy way to get his rocks off.
I think it more likely she just didn't want repeat business from this particular customer. But who knows? (other than the girl of she's not just a figment of a deranged imagination)
she wanted to keep him as someone she can spend time as a person and not a sexual object?
Not to put too fine a point on it, but you can do both. That's the entire idea of having a boyfriend/girlfriend.
- Yes and no.
  I swing more towards the direction of a non-sexual relationship of any kind.

Anon is an idiot. Hot women usually are friends with other hot women. He could have befriended her, get invited to a party and meet someone there who wants to fuck with him.
- Exactly what I say to people that have issues finding partners, befriend someone, get to know them, really know them as a person. They will introduce you to other people that may align with your interests and can double as a vetting source (in my case my woman friend kept me sane with all the crazy I was drawn to like a moth to a flame) I did finally find sanity
- Except let's be honest if he was wanting to pay for a prostitute. I don't think he's got much of a chance with anyone.
  Needs to get his own life sorted first.
You mean being her brother?
- What if she gets stuck in the washer?
There is being friends with a hot girl but then there is being passed over because you aren't a dick.
Luckily it wasn't me but I heard some girl say "I think your hit but your just too nice"
Like what the fuck haha. I know they didn't want a relationship either and she fucked someone else like a day later. Talked to others and asked why they passed over some boy for another and it's not attraction it's that they aren't dickheads.
It's a hill I'll die on some girls definitely need that.

That woman dodged a lot more than bullet there

How so?

Anon seems not to have understood that prostitute is not a vending machine

Am I not supposed to be sticking my dick in vending machines? o.0
- I'll risk Japan as a vending machine to cater to your specific liking.

most sane prostitutes give bjs with condom only, but anon was too much
- Even a wrapped rancid weiner doesn't stand alone. The beans and bush are gonna stink.

Aww, anon was so close to having his first friend.

Lesson learned, don't smoke weed

Is that the family suicide revolver in the pic??

Asking for a friend, where do I find these onlyfans girls irl

Anon needs a sight of the long game.

Bro could be glad he saved the money, but no.

If green text plays it right, he could marry the whore & profit afterwards. So long as green text makes enough that it’s worth it for her to stop whoring.