egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics

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Men in a sports utility vehicle speed past a pedestrian and shout "you're fucking gay, man" and "gaaaaaay." The pedestrian waves at them, with joyous tears in his eyes and says "thank you boys, you've helped me come to terms my with my sexuality!" The men in the car consult a list of names and one asks "ok, who's next on the list?" They pass by another pedestrian and shout "you're trans!" and "admit you're trans, idiot!"

Also, pretty sure those guys have been in my subconscious every night.

I have searched for the specific barbie movie I had in mind and I can't seem to find it. I just remember that barbie was like exploring some castle like thing because she was sent there alone. She walked around and then in one big room, the floor opened up and had a circular magical hole in it, which led to a different world where the grass was minty green and I love that sort of stuff

All the strength to the eggs who spend the easter holidays with their families and have to hide who they are.

Description: A variety of bushes and flowers in a garden. The caption reads: "Eggs during the easter holidays"

Sauce: https://twitter.com/SketchyRhemie/status/1596531375791755264

Photography of an Ikea ad showing a closet filled with Blåhaj plushies.

Above the closet is written (in German): "Or for everything else you have."

Below the closet is written (in German): "Inspired by life." next to the Ikea logo.

Experienced some misogyny the other day and it made me feel awesome gender euphoria.

[CW: kitchen eggs]

Image description: a tumblr post (made by crusader-kings) asking about how to crack eggs, (the ones laid by chickens, not trans eggs) with a tag (added by homura) responding with 'i tell him he's pretty and start calling him my wife'

I apologize for the bad image description, this is not my area of expertise.

Meme text: 1st panel: Hey, I think I'm finally starting to accept I'm trans.

2nd panel: Maybe I can be myself now.

3rd panel: Something slightly invalidating happening

4th panel: FUCK...

Hey everyone.

I've been a little swamped in my personal life lately, and when I checked in this week it I've seen a few things that worry me.

Some of you may know that this community is one of the ones that replaced an old subreddit after the api stuff. There were some rules there that aren't so explicit here in our rules. I'll be working on rewriting the rules in our sidebar soon, but I want to make a few rules clear:

1. This community exists to support people questioning their gender. Be kind and respectful if you're going to comment. I've seen some mean, hurtful, or angry comments posted here in the last little bit. Don't bring that energy here, a lot of people come here to get away from hurtfulness. We will remove comments and dm you privately.
2. IT IS NEVER OKAY TO CRACK SOMEONE ELSE'S EGG. Many of you have likely seen the post that inspired this rule clarification and this whole post. I won't link it here, but this isn't just an egg irl rule. genderdysphoria.fyi calls it "The Egg Prime Directive". People need to find and define their own journey. We can tell our own stories, but we cannot dictate the stories of others. This is obviously a zero-tolerance rule, and is definitely ban-worthy. Absolutely not allowed here.
3. Do not invalidate other people's experiences. I've seen this in at least one post, something along the lines of "i don't think this necessarily means anything about gender". Here's i'd like to refer to the rule #1 of !adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com: (Rule 1). Basically the entirety of this post applies; there are some aspects of questioning your gender that may seem mundane to an outsider. This does not mean that the person who posted this experiences it in the same way as you. And, for some of us, things that felt mundane to us before too took on a whole new and deeper meaning as we found our way on our journeys.
4. We still have a title rule. Please follow it. This is a tradition of egg irl from the reddit days. We could at some point reconsider this rule, but I still believe it is a good one as I summarized in a post here. This one I'm more lenient on. If you break it, I will post in your thread and politely ask you to edit your title, and either forcibly rename it or just remove it only if the author doesn't fix it. In the future, I would like to even automate this part with a bot.

As I said, I will be working on a more official stickied rules post, and updating our sidebar rules to reflect as well, but I felt it important to post these for now. I owe understanding of myself to the original egg irl and I want this to be similarly helpful for other eggs.

All of that said, I'd also like some mod help here. A few things I'd want from potential mods:

1. you have a local lemmy.blahaj.zone account.
2. under that account you have a history of posting here / other lgbtq+ communities positively
3. that if you become a mod, you also make sure to get set up with matrix so you can be in the blahaj.zone matrix's mod chat channel along with me.
4. i'd also prefer cracked eggs only; the mods here should consider themselves protective roosters & mother hens, nurturing and guarding our precious lil eggs <3

Please post here if you'd like to be considered, I will be choosing a couple of mods carefully.

Meme Text:

Reminder

Being an Egg doesn't mean you'll inevitably come out as trans - it means you're taking some time to figure yourself out, regardless of the result. Trans or cis, binary or nonbinary, gender conforming or not you're always welcome here!

-------------------------------------------------------------------- My commentary:

I saw this meme a while back and really liked it. I thought after the extremely turbulent events recently it would be a good idea to post this as a reminder for us all to remember what's important, and to respect each other both before and after the questioning process, regardless of how people identify afterwards.

Text: "Visualizing in the mirror the man i want t obecome"

In the mirror is an Androgynous looking cat character wearing fem clothes

I'm not an egg anymore, but I found this meme I made several years ago when looking through an old hard drive and wanted to put it on Lemmy.

Image description: Top text says "Me: 100% totally cis male." Bottom text says "Also me: A girl with girl stuff and girl hair and girl clothes." The bottom part is actually an image of a Minecraft skin that is posted on Planet Minecraft.

Text: When you get through denial but the call of the void to cut all your hair is back

Part 2 of a mini-comic by MilkyTrickster

Part 1 - Part 2 - Part 3

Source: Grumpy-TG on DeviantArt

Source is Onimai

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transcription: friend asks if I am gay

no panel: normal response

yes panel: "you will never know"

Description: A picture of a simple box trap. The bait consists of a Blahaj, a plushie of Bridget (from Guilty Gear), a Monster energy drink and a copy of the video game "Celeste". A caption above the trap says "pspsps".

Description: Photo of a complicated found ball-shaped science experiment (gamma ray detector). Upper caption says: "The results could be a fluke. It requires further study." Caption at the bottom says: "Until then definitely cis tho."

⚠️ Trade offer ⚠️

I relieve:

• Basic human respect.
• Headpats.

You receive:

• My eternal love.
• Tech support.
• 4.5h infodump about my favorite game.

First of all, I'm not a mod, just a curious user. I was told the rules exist because it was a rule of the original reddit and the community demands it. For me personally, it feels like I'm told how to have fun, so I'm very curious if you like/dislike this rule or if you're indifferent.

A picture of colorful compression socks. A caption at the tops says "Compression socks". A caption at the bottom says "When you are definitely cis but of a certain age".

A picture which displays the spectrum of light, highlighting the visible wavelengths. The picture is titled "girlhoo is a spectrum" reframes visible light as "visible girlhood".

Picture of a broken egg, on the broken shell's inside are tally marks, foot prints of a hatchling lead away from the broken egg.

From the kaiju movie "Colossal Beast Gappa" (1967)

So I've been thinking about Linux recently, and I'm told this is where the Linux experts hang out. I have a lot of questions that I can barely articulate, so I'm just hoping someone gets where I'm coming from.

I always knew there were more than two operating systems, but the closest I got to open-source software was dabbling with Firefox and OpenOffice in college. I'm an engineer, and trying to stay compatible with all the engineering programs means you're probably going to use Windows whether you like it or not, so I never seriously considered another OS until now. I'm proud of being good at Windows, but also bitter about it… I can't shake the nagging feeling that I've been missing out.

So I started looking up guides on Linux, and I have so many questions.

I'm astonished by how many distros there are. It's not just Ubuntu, we have Mint and Zorin and MX and enough options to make my head spin. So how do you choose a distro? Do you just know, or do you have to try them all? Trying one is daunting enough. I'm afraid people might lose respect for me and the open-source software movement if I change my mind. Is there some place where you can try distros on for size without the trouble and risk of migrating multiple times?

How do I know if Linux is right for me? How do I know Windows is wrong? If I loathe my user experience with Windows, is that the fault of Windows or just me? If Linux starts feeling comfortable, how do I know it's because I've made the right choice and it's not just inertia setting in? Does that even matter?

I'm at least good with Windows, but I lack the intuition of the average Linux user. Could I really master Linux the way I have Windows, or would my awkward personality relegate me to being a permanent tourist?

Is my hardware too old to start tinkering with OSs?

I know your choice of OS should take priority over your programs, as long as those programs aren't vital, but I have a full Steam library and don't look forward to losing any old friends. Can I partition my drive? Is that worth the trouble, switching from OS to OS depending on circumstances? I hear some distros these days can run some windows programs, and that you don't have to leave your old programs behind the way you used to, but can I count on that trend continuing?

Will losing touch with the Windows environment make it more difficult for me to succeed in a Windows-dominated career?

Sorry for the ramble. I'm probably overthinking this. I overthink everything. But I also grew up in a time and place where changing OSs meant you risked losing everything.

EDIT: The post title has been updated from “Need help with Linux” to “egg🐧irl” to meet local standards. This post happened because I was writing a post for a tech forum, but had other things on my mind, things which I’ve yet to find the courage to verbalize directly. I appreciate the advice and encouragement, both about migrating to Linux, and… yaknow… “migrating to Linux.”

This painting is called "Elective Affinities" by René Magritte and to me it feels as if it was made for c/egg_irl

[Transmasc Meme]

Lots of hugs to our incredible transmasc lads!

Visual transcript:4-panel drake template. Coco Bandicoot confusedly looking at a tiled gif of the DRG Engineer having a bit of a dance, then putting her goggles on and poses with a finger-gun whilst holding a pickaxe leaning on her shoulder.

Text transcript:"Hmm..... Prolly cis, buuuut..... GOALS~"

Art by me.

Game: Deep Rock Galactic by Ghost Ship Games. Coco Bandicoot from Crash Bandicoot.

If you're a trans, gender diverse or questioning and you've got a history in this sub, please either DM or reply below if you're interested in moderating.

Ideally you'll have an account on lemmy.blahaj.zone or be willing to make one, as that will allow you to see all reports for the community, but it isn't strictly essential.