Hi! My biggest struggle being trans has always been that my voice has taken a decade of training to get anywhere near I'd like it to be. I knew there were likely others out there like me, so I made this community for us to share tips/tricks/progress etc. I've made myself mod on this account (though it seems to be slow through federation) and would love it if others are willing to help out for this cause.

My hope is that through this community people can learn to use their voice in the way that makes them feel most comfortable, because that can be extremely difficult (trust me, I know). It can take years, with a lot of dedication to overcome voice dysphoria. Hopefully, we can cut that time down.

Here's the link: !trans_voice_help@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Dear Blåhaj community! I have an important question to ask! Mr. Haj and I have been struggling with our in-bed relationship recently. He wants to be held and I want to hold him, but I don't want him to feel squished or stomped upon my me. I want him to feel as good as he can, while also feeling my love. I am very self-conscious about my disgusting masculine body-oils and I don't want them to get on my pretty haj. Also I don't want to lay my head on him, because that might hurt him. He might say that it doesn't, but I think he just says that to make me feel better (he's really sweet). After a while of trying to hold him in a way which can make both of us happy, I tend to get sore after about five minutes, after which I have to put him on the side... But he's lonely over there! What if he thinks I don't like him because I'm putting him on the side? I want him to feel the best he can, but I feel like my presence in the bed is bad for him in most ways. He has to endure my stink, my disgusting body-oils and my rants about the world. I feel like I'm dragging him down and I am willing to change myself to make him feel better.

What do you think I can or should do?

Poorly lit photo of a table with bread and jam on it, with a Blåhaj sitting opposite to the photo-taker. the photo resembles a breakfast.

She may be knockoff but she's mine 🦈

I love being home alone cuz then I can do stuff like this. Dressing up how I want, saying what I want, no limit on self-talking, no limit on when I can go where, it's awesome. Unfortunately this image was taken about 8 months ago, and I've not had any free days since then... Love my haj! Yes I also love mozerella and tomato on toast, it's real good.

Extra pic: blahaj on bed

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(Wish I had some lilac blankets but oh well)

Joke stolen from ada

No fluffy shork photo I’m afraid but I wanted to share a nice story.

I’ve been dating an mtf girl for about 6 months now. She’s been on hrt for about 3yr but is still very socially anxious. We’ve been going out grocery shopping and whatnot to get her a bit more exposure to being in public presenting as fem - with me there to anchor and help in case she gets overwhelmed.

Recently, we went to Ikea together to look at kitchen shelves cuz my kitchen is a disaster. She was forgetting her anxiety a bit and we were having a nice light conversation winding our way to the exit and I jokingly asked “do you want a shark?” as we walked by the crate of them.

She asked me if I knew, I said I did. She turned the cutest freaking shade of red I’ve seen and said she didn’t think she could ever buy one without an anxiety attack and stumbled over her words a bit. Cute as fuck. 🫠

I knew what had to be done.

Next day I went back and went straight to the bin and bought literally just a shark. I’m super cis and masc but the self checkout cashier definitely clocked that I wasn’t buying no shark for no kid or nothing. Got a smirk on the way out. 🤣🤣

Decided that instead of just giving it to her I had to surprise her somehow.

She’s living in someone’s basement right now month to month and my roommate is leaving, so we’ve been considering moving in together - it would be nice to take turns cooking and be closer together but still have our own space to retreat to if we want. We’re both super introverted.

I decided to hide it in the closet of the vacant room and wait.

Two days later, she comes over and we’re watching random shows and cook a nice dinner, just hanging out doing our own thing after eating. I’m absorbed in assembling the shelves I bought instead of the ikea ones (sry ikea your shelves cost too much) and she’s on her phone on the sofa. She says she’s going to check where she might wanna put her furniture and I had to try super hard to be cool and be like “sure hon” without letting my giddiness creep in.

I stood up slowly and crept to the hall until I heard the gasp and went in and gave her a giant hug. Many good tears on both sides. She says she never imagined someone giving her a stuffed animal could make her cry, glad it did.

She and her new shork are moving in later this month and I’m super excited. 😊🦈💜

the neon genesis evangelion intro but with blahaj -- i made this!!!

hell yeah

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Art and original text by A Sleepy Luna. The original toot is here.

Original by @33dBm@lazysocial.de

For context: A wave of anti-fascist protests has recently swept over Germany. Online it manifested in antifa memes being shared under the hashtag #antifasticker. The one above being one of them.

In the original German, the text rhymes.

Hej all! I've gotten into knitting lately but don't always have ideas for what to make. My partner suggested making a little sweater or something like that for our haj son and I love it! Has anyone done something like this? I'm a total beginner so don't know anything about making my own patterns (or reading them tbh - but for Blahaj, I'll learn). Would love to see any patterns or suggestions 💙

Source: @kasesag@tech.lgbt

Description: A Blåhaj sitting in a bag in the colors of the rainbow flag.

Description: Short video of someone in a shark costume walking through the rain. They are quickly joined by three other ones also wearing shark costumes. Together the "sharks" walk up a street through the rain.

Edit: thanks for the great suggestions, I have decided to name him Poco (which is short for Lord Poco III)

Description: Photograph of a Blåhaj plushie which holds the trigger of a sniper rifle. A caption says: "Sniper Blåhaj ready to take out the bigots. Over"

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Please join my shonks on their coffee break

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Hehe shonk

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\#blahaj müde? @rugk @blahaj

He had so much fun 😊

Painted them the blue colour, then saw the similarity and just had to have the extra added