This is my favorite take on that. Great cosplay of Glados.
Why do you think you should feel bad for them passing?
Because that's what's typical. People typically grieve the passing of their parents.
Because I'm hard wired that way. I want/love/crave family at a base level. I had kids because I love having a family. I'm a family person. I know, intellectually, that my parent is garbage, but I am emotional as well.
And either way - I’m sorry you’re having to go through this, it sucks.
Thanks :)
Isn't it great? It summarizes what I've felt but unable to put a name to.
One is the permanent loss of any possibility of receiving the parental love that every child deserves.
The second is the actual human being that was your parent.
I think it's the former. I grieved the parental relationship several years ago when I realized it would never change.
You sound like the person in the video that was linked in another reply.
/u/TwigletSparkle@lemmy.blahaj.zone
I highly recommend this video, it’s by a therapist who went through a similar thing and he breaks it down very well:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zcRUj8H3rc4
Oh, wow. That's amazing. My parent isn't as bad in severity as his mother, but there are a loooooot of commonalities. Wow. It also made me think about my 2nd parent and how they didn't stand up for me as much as they should have. Wow. I'm gonna chew on this and watch it again.
I'm conflicted. I have a parent who's dying. I feel the void of the parenting I was supposed to receive. They never fulfilled any of the obligations I consider appropriate. I'm a parent, now. They did none of the things I'm doing for my kids.
On some level, I know the expectation is that I should feel sad. There's literally no realistic expectation that they'll turn a new leaf in their 70's and suddenly become a decent human being. Maybe there's a 1 in a million chance, but when they die, that's definitively 0. I want them to turn a new leaf, but I know it's unrealistic. I get jealous (and keep it to myself) when my friends and family have their parents in their lives.
On the other hand, they are literally the worst person in my life. I've never had anyone treat me as badly and fail me so hard as they have. I haven't spoken to them in years. They literally don't understand why, because they're a narcissist. Very "missing, missing reasons" kind of person.
So I'm conflicted. I have tons of evidence that they suck, but there's still a part of me that craves a parent actually being there. Part of me thinks I should feel bad when anyone suffers and passes away, but another part of me is borderline relieved.
For prosperity. For liberty. For democracy. For frend.
> Helldivers 2 community rallies behind wholesome hero after a remorseful villain kicks them, giving rise to Super Earth's new battlecry: 'im frend'
Sorry if the title is confusing, but that's as succinct as I could think to make it.
I've been out of comics for a while, but I'd like to read some more. I don't like collecting issues, but I do like larger collections. Call them trade paperbacks, graphic novels, whatever. I've read some over the years (Sandman, Transmetropolitan, Akira, etc.) but I wanted to try some mainstream (DC, Marvel, etc).
I got a Green Lantern TPB (I loved the cartoons!) but the story was super confusing. It jumped back and forth, the characters referenced things that weren't in the book, and random side characters joined and left without any explanation. I asked a friend who said that the publishers would put a narrative arc in several different titles, so as to make people buy different things. So readers were somehow supposed to get all those random issues to understand what's going on.
I'm fine buying whatever, but I want a cohesive narrative. How can I make check that a complete narrative is in a TPB and I don't buy the incomplete style like I did previously?
The idea of getting something before I know its usefulness confuses me.
My spouse buys things because they seem neat. Uses them once or twice, then not again.
When I say they're overrated, I mean I don't understand why they're so popular. They're not bad but they're not that good, either. I don't understand the praise lauded on them. It's too much relative to their quality.
I can understand if someone loves them in their time. For example, Nirvana was absolutely amazing in their time. However, it's been 30 years and that sound is a lot more mainstream, but in their day, they were breaking new ground.
But my kids age? Why do people think they're that good?
cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/32021139
> https://twitter.com/anninosj/status/1757141668396941680
https://twitter.com/MarcelDeneuve/status/1790643257627599354
I can’t find a way to block certain users or entire instances.
Blocking users - go to their profile and block.
adjudicator just doesn’t have a enough ammo per mag to deal with bots quickly.
I do hate how quickly a clip empties.
the stun grenade pairs really well with Auto cannon
Ooh, hadn't thought of that.
I feel happy with my loadout vs bugs. Spray and pray is easy to understand. Run and gun. I'm not as confident with bots.
Loadout: Armor is medium with crouch aim bonus. Base gun, the Adjudicator (assault rifle) from Democratic Demolition because of its armor pen. 2ndary is Autocannon and ammo backpack. Strategems are orbital laser, eagle airstrike, and mortar sentry.
All the advice I read is "go slower, avoid patrols, etc." and I'm fine with that but everyone I play with does the opposite. They engage EVERYTHING. I feel like I've got OK damage per shot, but everyone is getting there faster and killing things faster because they got there earlier. So I end up feeling like I'm not pulling my weight.
Whatever is on sale https://3dprintingdeals.com/
Cmon over to lemm.ee. They blocked us. As much as I miss the gems in their swath of noise, I don't miss ppb.
Yes, same! I wish I had the ability to share my goofy experiments with my tribe.
Source https://twitter.com/repkord/status/1788529858978717870
Video https://files.catbox.moe/ltbmfh.mp4
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/15170222
> https://www.pixiv.net/en/artworks/117646448
You should mention that it's free.
So, I've got a weird question. Anyone had a club faction split? Our club is sponsored by a brewery owner. He's been super restrictive about what other breweries we work with, banning interaction with 99% of other breweries. Some of our members are discussing forming a splinter group just so we can do stuff without asking his permission.
What do y'all think about this?
https://twitter.com/Gee0Man/status/1786539331290800245
I'm always surprised when it happens. 99% of the time I'm just tolerated, but every once in a while someone asks. Happened last night. I was sooooooooo happy.
Source: https://old.reddit.com/r/Helldivers/comments/1cjyll7/some_discord_updates/
Also, Spitz (a CM at AH) isn't being a jerk. The other images show them having a much better tone than yesterday.
Playlist https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1sDhB3vohFXhjb2bTwQiBr
https://twitter.com/Pilestedt/status/1786417563628437933
It's not there anymore, but was earlier.
📂STL Link: https://www.printables.com/model/429173-minimalistic-trophy-vase-mode-and-base-with-hidden🔥Favorite Printer Currently on Sale: https://www.share...
It's 1.75mm filament going into 2mm layers. lol, wtf. Still looks great, though.
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/14801817
> https://www.pixiv.net/en/artworks/110660958
I posted a picture in thiccmoe. I later got a message that it was removed NSFW. That's fair.
I asked the mod of that community and they didn't do anything and don't know what I'm talking about. Also, if I go to that community, it's still there.
I went back to my messages and noticed it's from automod at lemmy world, not Ani social. The community is on Ani social.
How does that work? Does that mean it's only removed for lemmy world users since the automod is from lemmy world? Does it affect anything on Ani social?