LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves] @ LeylaLove @hexbear.net

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I know, I'm a bottom too so I come up with some scenarios for sure

Goth girls be wild

They're more influenced by the storytelling than the gameplay, and I don't think you need to know much about the first game to get into two. However, the gameplay is more adjacent to something like the original Deus Ex or Thief where it's about as open as a linear game can be. You should be testing the moments you think "is the game gonna let me do that?" Because there's a good chance the game will let you.

I mean not to give you false hope, but I know someone this happened to lol. Bro literally just had a B12 deficiency and his entire life and personality turned around after getting on it. Not saying this will happen to you, but will say that this does in fact happen

Cavatappi is the best pasta, there is no comparison.

Bump amber whataboutism

Yeah, the only existing third spaces nowadays seem to be digital. Atomization of the working class is very real, and has very real impacts on social networking. All the people who want to interact with more people are moving to spaces like discord or places like this website. It sucks, but at some level you just have to roll with the times. I personally hate discord, but I still have it specifically for those third spaces.

And I'm not saying there's anything abnormal about romanticizing romance, I'm just saying that waiting for the right person is worth it. The wrong person will absolutely ruin your life and you'll just be addicted to it. Other people may have relationships, but there's no speaking on how healthy or unhealthy their relationships may be.

Something I will say though is that you gotta chill out on defending incels, because it makes you seem like an incel and that will turn people away from you. You don't have to ridicule them, but playing defense for them is a really bad look to say the least. Just try to be chill and try to appreciate people for who they are, and people will appreciate that you do that. Being nice and helpful are super attractive traits that will boost your self esteem and get you far.

Not all your problems are your fault, but they are your responsibility to deal with. That's the first thing I learned when I was in rehab. It's not my fault I'm an addict, that's a disease that's entirely out of my control. It's not my fault I'm schizophrenic. But it is my responsibility to manage the issues that arise with those conditions.

In the same vain, it's not necessarily your fault that you have a hard time socializing with other people, but it is your responsibility to manage those issues.

The difference is that these people don't make hating women their personalities and political projects. These 4chan type misogynists are clearly having a different impact on young men than mainstream misogyny. Chris Brown beats women, but he wouldn't celebrate someone like Elliot Rodgers trying to go on a killing spree of women. Incels are developing into terrorism and leaking into mainstream misogyny.

There's nothing wrong with you, and that doesn't make you an incel. I had a lot of these feelings when I was younger too. The difference between not getting laid and being an incel is the mindset you have. An incel uses their loneliness to fuel their loneliness and hatred towards other people. A normal person just gets a bit down about it. You don't have to play defense for hateful people because you're not included in that group unless you choose to be.

I feel for the people who just can't find companionship. It is hard in this capitalist hellscape to find it. But ultimately the best way to find that companionship is to get out there. I do pretty well on queer dating apps, high rates of neurodivergence and more leftism than normal dating apps, albeit still a lot of libs. Maybe you'll find someone on a discord server. I know long distance stuff kinda sucks, but it can be nice to have someone to fall asleep on call with and have that be your little "snuggle" fix.

Something I think you should remind yourself though is that you're often romanticizing romance. Many people in relationships are in messy relationships that they shouldn't be in. My last relationship existed, but was absolutely horrible for me. I was in that relationship because I felt the need to not be alone, and it destroyed me. Just put yourself out there in your own way, and you'll find someone eventually. Feel free to be a little flirty, as long as you're able to shut it down if someone asks you to.

Why are you implying that homeless people and heroin addicts are at the same level of worth as pedophiles?

So are you an incel?

It's not shaming them for not performing patriarchal masculinity, it's shaming them for hating women. You are being disingenuous if you think that's all we hate incels for.

Okay, I'm a schizophrenic alcoholic, I have all the excuses in the world to self isolate and hate people. But even when I was drinking up to a gallon of vodka a day, I still had the option of going to meetings, going to therapy, getting on psych meds, being friends with my coworkers, ect. Acting like there's "NOTHING WE CAN DO CAPITALISM RUINED EVERYTHING" is the self defeatist mindset that made me an alcoholic. So your speech is stupid and causing psychic damage to everybody that reads it.

Also to counter you mentioning me getting therapy and other such help is "privilege" I got that for free. There are still programs to get help for free, you just have to actually seek them. They still suck and are clearly held back by capitalism, but they exist. There is no excuse not to work on being a better person for your community and those around you other than not giving a fuck. I learned that from the immigrants I work with in kitchens that have 3 full time jobs and families they still take care of and spend time with.

I was always politically aware because of my Dad, but he was a libertarian/conspiracy bro so he passed on a lot of those brain worms. I didn't become a communist until I was about 17, and even then I had a lot of brain worms to get rid of. Still do, but honestly I'm pretty happy with where I am now with that. The libertarian brain worms were definitely preferable to other brain worms because I was already against imperialism and other parts of the American empire that mainstream politics wouldn't have had me be against.

A lot of these people got radicalized into being incels by 4chan, a place where there are communists, albeit reactionary ones, but they had exposure to a lot of the same things that I did and still turned out that way.

Shit, the incel I knew personally even came out as a trans woman for a short amount of time. These people aren't stupid, they understand they have some level of agency over their life, but it's because of dipshits like you giving them the pass to say they have no agency over their life they can pretend they don't.

Okay, all these things apply to my life and I had the option to not be an incel. No need to play defense for incels this hard.

Actually, I was going to save it, but no, we've already had this struggle session on the site where it was made clear that this level of defense for incels makes femme users uncomfortable. Socializing doesn't come easy to me, all you did were list excuses for not developing social skills though. I used to be friends with people who were incels IRL, and they became that way because they got coddled by the men in their life into thinking it was okay to not develop socially and "uWu they're mentally ill it's not their fault" when it very much is. There is no excuse for viewing women as subhuman because you have so little social skills that you can't find someone else as socially inept as you and build a relationship from there.

This is on the same level as "uWu it wasn't Hitler's fault, he was just a product of his environment". That's a true statement, he was a product of his environment, doesn't make him any less deserving of our ridicule.