Yeah. Thought posting this to no stupid questions would be OK. No luck.
Yep. I'm grateful for the people who choose this work. Sucks they're constantly overworked, under paid, such a frustrating often thankless job. I try to remind them, hey rough job, but you've made a difference for me, so ty.
I text him. Ask him to tell doctor to fax insurance approval to pharmacy. Instead of doing that, he spends the next 3 hours sending me a series of texts criticizing me, telling me it's my fault, not his, repeatedly pointing out, trying to get me to admit how irrational I was being.
All I'd said was "at the pharmacy. Can you tell the doctor to resend the insurance approval please?"
It's not emotional, social. It's mostly text communication. Like, "I'll meet you at the front gate 215pm." Female cm, we meet at the front gate 215pm. Male cm, 15 min later, im still waiting, then angry text from him saying he's waiting somewhere else.
Ty for your objective response, btw.
Thank you. As woman with autism, it's weird. Women nts, some tend to unconsciously expect me to behave like a woman. They operate with stereotypes, assume women should be emotional, touchy feely, into romantic comedies, etc. So when I'm logical, to the point, talk about math, science, some can't compute. And some guys, they expect me to behave as a stereotypical female, treat me as such. Then they realize I'm not, am logical, etc, and their demeanor changes, start treating me as one of the guys.
I've met compassionate, emotional men, and analytical nerdy women. Just, so weird, how gender becomes such a big deal for some.
Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice.
Out of 17 case managers, only 2 have been male. Female cms: detailed, logical, responsive, solution oriented, clear effective communication. Male cms, the opposite.
I try to communicate clearly, effectively, which is easy cuz autism, and the 2 male cms, i get constant 2nd guessing, passive-aggressive defensiveness. Get impression they're automatically assuming I don't think clearly, don't know what I'm saying. It's weird, and I can't figure out why.
I know not all men are the same. I'm not like all women. Have I just been unlucky with these 2 cms, or is there a gender aspect to this I'm not understanding? I'd like to learn.
Rewatching ds9 right now. I know it was rushed, forced. I know trying to replace a long-term character doesn't work often. If it was an entirely different trill, not a dax, it would be better.
My problem is: aren't trills supposed to have other lives when they get a symbiont? Goal is to give the symbiont diverse lives, experiences. Jadzia got in serious trouble when she felt drawn to a woman from a previous host relationship. She would have had her symbiont removed.
So the new dax host being a woman, starfleet, in ds9 space station? Isn't that against trill rules?
Been thinking about how quantum physics are connected to chaos theory and the properties of closed dynamic systems.
Will spare you that. Part of it is the human mind doesn't have the processing of all configurations, all the possible states of an entire systems, simultaneously.
Humans do have abstract thought, critical thinking. We can observe, record data, notice patterns, trends. By chaos theory, humans discovered they could write math equations to describe the behavior of complex systems. With quantum physics, humans trying to figure out how localized realities in a system related to the behavior of system as a whole.
We use scientific method because we can't comprehend the infinite. Math equations are shorthand, a trick we use to make up for our shortcomings. Science and math is awesome.
Can't answer question directly. Just, when I was your age, there was so much I needed to learn. Every person takes time to figure things out, overcome shortcomings, work thru stuff.
At 21, lot to figure out, discover, learn. For me, cuz childhood abuse, trauma, autism, I was a mess. No idea how to have healthy relationships, positive communication, etc.
So, could be your dude is just young, figuring stuff out. Or could be something else. Only way to know is to ask, talk about it. No assumptions, no judgment. Communication is key.
Might be useful to research how to communicate effectively. How to talk about stuff in not about criticize, instead seeing other person's viewpoint, meeting half way. Problem is, other person may not want to or be able to.
You're doing good, asking questions. Keep doing that, and good luck.
I used to love doing web design. Was perfect career for me, a mix of creativity and coding. Websites then were art, creative, took risks. Then cms became standard, sites all looking the same. Sites are more user-friendly now, but I miss the wild, weird internet of its early days.
Say "bubbles" in the deepest voice you possibly can. It always make me chuckle when in a funk.
I kept trying to design my dream hermit cabin in sweethome 3d. Was getting nowhere. Started playing Sims 4, found designing homes using sims build mode is so much easier.
I don't do well in traditional semester college cuz adhd.
So, never went to college. Started in fast food, last job was 75k/ year tech job.
I took a lot of short term accredited programs. ROP certifications. LearnIT. Studied on my own to test MVP certifications for excel, PowerPoint, word. You can study on your own to take A+ certification exam. I took community college non credit classes about various applied arts.
So, I'd show up at job interviews with no traditional college degree, but a ton of certifications, short term classes, etc. They were fascinated by my diverse tech skills, it showed I had ambition. So I got a lot of jobs easily this way.
Also, try being a career temp for a while. If you prove you'll show up for the gigs professionally, they'll send you to more assignments . I did this for a decade, got phenomenal skillset, different industries , lot of diverse experience.
This is a genuine question I've wondered about a lot. Kudos for oddly realistic originality.
Goodwill stores, at least where i live, are good for people in shaky situations. More accepting of people with special needs, circumstances. Mention cuz, not the type of work you're looking for... for me, been out of work so long (8 years), me getting a p/t job at goodwill, committing, proving i can keep it, it's the only way better paying jobs will take me seriously.
Would like the 75k per year tech job I had b4 becoming homeless. But have to be realistic, start small.
Currently rewatching Voyager. Love the dynamics between seven, tuvok and the doctor. Tsunkatse is on right now. Eagerly anticipating the episode when icheb shows up.
Borderline schizoaffective, psychotic features. Constantly questioning sanity. Reality often surreal. Dbt, cbt has helped the most. If I practice mindfulness, grounding exercises daily.... when mind spirals, reality starts to explode, easier to come back, keeps me tethered.
Tho, once as kid, when I became convinced I might be a disembodied brain floating in a jar, started to seriously freak out. Came home in terrorized panic, flipping madly thru my bookshelf, and reading "summa theologica" finally made the panic stop.
Sometimes, when I've researched something and compiled a ton of useful information about a topic... wish there was a lemmy for that. Kind of the opposite of asklemmy.
Kyle XY. I'm still pissed off at the abrupt cliffhanger ending.
The OA and Sense8... Netflix, you suck. Those were stunning shows.
I tried to open a bank account at a credit union while homeless. Had $42k on my direct express card, finally on SSI, lump sum was for the previous year while unable to work.
No debts, never used a credit card. Couldn't open a bank account. Had to go thru a program that assigned me a fake credit card debt that I had to pay off for 6 months to get my credit score high enough.
Credit scores are a scam.
I stare at the wall reciting pi over and over, while my body withers, mind untethered, consumed by a mathematical void.
Holy hell, the miniskirts. I know it was progressive for its time, women's lib, etc. But: Female officers bending over console, butt swell hanging out. Almost every episode, over sexualized women needlessly emotional, constantly falling into male arms. Barely clothed, wisps of fabric. Spock saying that Kirk's alter ego trying to rape his female officer made him interesting.
I'm at episode 14, 1st season. Is the rest of the series like this?
That said, there's a hard, pure science to it I haven't seen in later star treks. Can see how people then would find it fascinating. Also gets deep, in a weighty, high drama way.
Problem: I'm being driven mad by voices speaking to me thru white noise. Need white noise to sleep
Psychiatrist today suggested:
- normal human speech has typical rhythm, cadence
- fans, white noise audio files are always looped, rhythms in it
- brain is hearing those patterns as human voices
- I need to introduce staggered rhythms to disrupt
Possibilities:
- Willie Nelson, William Shatner speak with atypical cadence. Play at same time as white noise
- phone app that vibrates atypically
- machine in room that generates atypical rhythms, vibrations
Options, ideas? I'd like not to go further insane
Not looking for pity. But if you are having an awful December holiday, you aren't alone. This may be a chance to unload. I'll start.
My apt was flooded with rain 4 days ago, at ground level. For 4 days, my studio apt, carpet has been soaking wet, footsteps squishing, like stepping in a puddle. Property management wont do anything, hope I can talk sense into them before the floorboards rot and cave in.
You? It's OK, you're not alone.
I've never been able to. I've tried:
Keeping receipts, text file on laptop, trying to keep track... too absent minded. Forget one receipt, it's all off.
Bank app on phone? Phone stolen last year, wary.
Weekly visit to atm to check balance? Forget pin, can't remember, locked out of account.
Paying for everything with cash might work, but unsafe neighborhood. And I forget where cash is, random $20 bills found in bizarre locations months later.
At my wit's end. Any adhd people experience similar?
I'll start. Apt next door is having a cockroach infected. 4 days ago, I was playing sims on my laptop, wearing my eyeglasses. Right lens got blurry, took off, huge cockroach was crawling across inside of lens. While I was wearing them. Freak out ensued.
I know it's gross, unhealthy, a stupid habit, makes no sense.
Trouble quitting cuz it's something to do with hands, fidgety, restless, oral fixation I think, and it gets me out of the house. Can't find a habit to replace it with.
For me, its Xena.
Few years back, height of covid epidemic, was living in homeless shelters. Overcrowded slums, everyone miserable, yelling, screaming, fights, abuse, rage. At one point, could feel the anger building in me. Powerless, a victim, desire for retribution. What good was trying to be better person, when all it meant was people walking over me.
Started rewatching xena, hadn't in years. Big message of the show: when surrounded by hate, violence, it's tempting to give in, to not be a victim. But you have a choice, to not continue the cycle, to make a better world. I so needed to hear that message at that time in my life.
What tv show helped you?
Living in cruddy apt. Anger management neighbor slamming doors constantly. Bed shakes, waking me up.
Previously, what works is anti vibration layers under bed. Prosourcefit exercise puzzle mats, quietwalk flooring underlayment, felt rug pad with rubber backing, thick cut high pile rug, anti vibration pads.
That normally works. But not with this insane dude. Can I build some sort of platform under bed, on rollers, like how buildings cope with earthquakes?
I'm looking for creative engineering solutions, out of the box ideas.
I'm trying to learn to buy groceries, cook for myself again.
Can't afford to buy and keep produce. Limited cookware. So, any recipe telling me to crush garlic, dice onions, etc, can't do.
Need budget, ghetto, for people on a fixed income, easy no frills way to make diy tomato paste pasta sauce.
Good suggestions so far. Tks. I have 1 bowl, 1 plate, 1 spoon, 1 fork, 1 butter knife ; 1 small sauce pan; Only stores nearby are corner stores. Hardly any produce. Having to make due with what you can find in a liquor store.