1y ago

Bumble’s Whitney Wolfe Herd says your dating ‘AI concierge’ will soon date hundreds of other people’s ‘concierges’ for you

Imagine this: you’ve “dated” 600 people in San Fransisco without having typed a word to any of them. Instead, a busy little bot has completed the mindless ‘getting-to-know-you’ chatter on your behalf, and has told you which people you should actually get off the couch to meet.

The memes are becoming real.

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In 2021, the AI companion app Replika came under scrutiny after authorities in the U.K. saw a 19-year-old man planning to assassinate the Queen after he was encouraged by an AI girlfriend built on the app.
Critical support?
- plotting to kill a ninety five year old woman strikes me as a waste of time
  
  And yet he succeeded
  
  True, he could have gone after Charles.
Jacking off in the corner and staring as my AI concierge gets all the pussy
This is just the matching algorithm OK Cupid and older dating sites used to. "The AI went on 600 dates" is just some marketing bullshit. They aren't going to sim anything, just give people the top 3 percentage matches and pretend it's better because the AI did it.
- Yours is the realistic answer but give me the lathe for a second. If they were going to actually simulate dates and have any insinuation of it being meaningful they could probably claim they need access to all of your text messages and chats to teach the AI your voice and personality. It would be an excuse for a phenomenal level of data mining. If it didn’t turn everyone off with its overreach.
  
  If it didn’t turn everyone off with its overreach.
  i absolutely believe many people would, it is shocking how little most people care about digital privacy
- they'll probably take information representing some aggregation of interactions for a user and make some scoring model that tries to learn from pairs of user data and outcomes (in terms of whether they successfully dated or whatever you do on these apps). 100% marketing bullshit, doing LLM inference for something like this would have costs spiral out of control FAST. But a scoring model is cheap, they have the data to make one, and it isn't really all that innovative either.
zizek thing about how your chatbot will date someone else's chatbot for you and when you want to have sex the bots will have sex for you and you two will just be friends who know nothing about the other or something
- https://youtu.be/7xYO-VMZUGo?si=pd4iuBfdOJGgU3gJ
  He peaked here
This reminds me of a concept from Eclipse Phase. The normal mode of travel in the solar system is to upload your mind as data and squirt it across space to a receiving ship or station where you're download and either instanced as software or written in to a meat or cybernetic brain. then you do your business, upload as data, and get transmitted home (don't ask about continuity of consciousness it makes people very uncomfortable). If you just need to ask some quick questions or perform very limited functions, especially if you suspect someone could intercept your mind, crack the encryption, and sift through your brain you might send a severely pruned down "fork" of yourself that has been edited to only have specific knowledge and expertise. Depending on how much pruning you do the fork could be a nearly full copy of yourself with a few parts missing or a sub-sentient expert system that can only perform specific tasks. Regardless, the bandwidth costs are cheaper and the risk of being intercepted and wrung out for information is less.
Also, this is how OkCupid used to work, but with buzzwords. OKC just asked you a bunch of quiz questions and their importance to you, then matched you with people with similar values and beliefs. Worked great. No swiping, no AI. It still sucked, but it sucked and order of magnitude less than modern skinner box dating sites.
- I miss old OKC. Match turned it into another swiping app.
- See the thing about comparing it to a cool thing is that this isn't really like the cool thing at all.
  
  Oh it's horrific in Eclipse Phase. What happens when you turn your mind in to a stream of ones and zeroes while nanites scrub you out of the brain you were in? Is whatever is downloaded at the other end really you? What if your transmission is corrupted in transit? What will be left of you? What if someone intercepts your transmission, instances a copy of you, hacks in to your mind and changes your personality, then sends the modified you to the end destination with no one the wiser? Eclipse Phase is very emphatically a cosmic horror story.
- Just don't think of your fork's human rights when "pruning" it.
  Eclipse Phase is so cool I wish the system was better.
Maybe I should join that new local pickleball club…
- You should, meeting real humans in real life is much better than apps that are designed to keep you, lonely single and desperate!
They keep inventing new means of isolation.
If two dating bots get to third base and there's no one around to hear them, do they make a sound?
So the only app I even get matches on consistently is going to put yet more barriers in between me and other people and pretend it's a feature
Not sure why I bother with the apps then
literally black mirror
- Lol yep, very close to the Torment Nexus (though in the episode IIRC it's portrayed as a good thing, soooo).
Enter the breed pod, citizen.
I'm never using one of these shitty apps.
Just saw the other post about OpenAI integrating adverts and imagining the robots spewing ads at each other.
- This is actually how the robots fuck. They climax by giving a clickthrough instead of just an ad impression.
Hmmh, this is one of the ones I was thinking of to try getting some friends. Kinda got tired of spending the entirety of my 20s in self-imposed isolation because I loathe and am terrified of other human beings
Ok what other ways do we have to make dating even more miserable and impossible? People sure aren't miserable and lonely enough we need to get out top scientists on this
:(
Also is this just not a re-invention of arranged relationships, but done by the "AI algorithm" doing the matchmaking instead of your parents and grandparents? Every "innovation" of capitalism is socially regressive.

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