Instinct
Instinct
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I'm so guilty of talking over other people and I hate it. Please fix me.
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Especially in online meetings with no camera. Without seeing body language, I often think people are done talking so I start talking, but they were just resting between sentences. Oof.
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Online is the worst--I think the slight delay is a big factor as well. We both start before either realizes the other was speaking and it's very uncomfortable.
But also I'm just a bad interrupter. I often have an idea I'm so excited about I just blurt it out without even thinking about the fact that someone else is in the middle of speaking. I don't know why I'm like this, I've tried to stop and I have made some progress but it still happens way too much. Best progress I've made so far is rudely start talking, realize 1 second later I should not have, apologize, and tell the other person to keep going.
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Realizing you want to improve is the first step to growing into a better person!
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If they had something more important to say they would say it louder
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I'm in the same boat, but one day I just stopped talking and started listening, mostly as a social experiment on myself. Now everyone thinks that I'm really smart. It tears me up inside sometimes, but I like the outcome.
"Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue."
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It's not the crime people claim it to be IF you aren't trying to deliberately down others out.
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women aren't special ; i talk over everybody
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The woman in my dept talks over me and the other dude all the time, she's very interrupt-y. She's great though we still love her, funny af and knowledgeable. It certainly isn't gender specific.
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SORRY WHAT? I COULDN'T HEAR YOUR COMMENT.
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In all fairness, there was 12 minutes left in the meeting and Bob has been waiting for the seniority members to shut up for 24 minutes to get a single word in edgewise.
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Sometimes there are benefits to being an androgynous transfemme with an unfortunate case of "Dr. Girlfriend Voice"
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If I get interrupted talking 3 times in a meeting I get up and walk out. This isnt beers with the boys or brunch with the gals, if my opinion cant be respected in full I have work to do.
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and only woman because the same dude does not talk over everyone.
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/s ?
(just assuming as I had a similar sarcastic response to this comic)
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Could it be "over another person"? Asshollery is kinda universal
This. The worst person I've ever worked with happened to be a woman. She was an awful human being.
That's odd because I don't often see men talk over other men at meetings, but women can't generally finish a sentence without a man trying to talk over her.
I don't know where you work but I have seen it all the time. There tends to be a whole back and forth. One thing I hate though is the folks who are like im not finished and your like ok finish and then they add nothing unique over what they already said.
In my experience of being the person who always gets talked over, women do it just as much as men :(
That's odd. I always see it the other way around and men don't speak up for themselves because the loud woman then tries to play this card, so everyone just has to take the abuse.
You can try say, "Bec, you need to let people finish, especially if they're answering you."
But a complaint will go to HR.
Funnily enough the organisation I frequently sub to is the diametric opposite of that - it’s normally the women telling the men to stfu and concentrate on the matter being discussed. Us men are a belligerent lot, though, but we do get the job done and none of us have nanked each other yet. Fingers crossed.