Daily Discussion Thread ⚡️🌱🚂Thursday 28 November

Thank you everyone for you encouragement, kind thoughts, and good vibes!

I 100% was catastrophising - it's much easier than I thought 😭😂

I cannot thank you all enough, I will try to think of a way to pay you all back for every thing you have helped me with!!! 💜💜💜

Good night

Fuckin smashed it at work today.

Cheers 🍻

you: "here comes the aeroplane"!
dog: "whatever".

Unfortunately we missed sunrise and are about 11 hours from sunset

Love that stuff.
House in the middle of absolutely nowhere, away from everything and everyone, is my dream.
- sometimes when driving down country roads you can see a big rose bush out in the middle of nowhere. The rose survived , the farmhouse and everything else has been gone for decades.
- Do you know the house?
Pretty sure the house was decrepit before sunrise. 😀

To the joke: Hahahaha. ✨

Had the meeting with HR today. Thankfully it was someone who I chat to casually about things and helped me with some personal matters.

Wanted a recount of what I had been through and all the steps taken and how the end result ended being what it was.

Wanted to know if I was supported and a number of other things that I’m failing to recount now.

Also chatted about my stress enlightened me to what I could use my personal leave on and will get back to me on the technicalities of when and what I can use it for but apparently she has the power to authorise some of the leave so I’m waiting to find out the details.

Also did my shopping, was pretty busy thanks to Black Friday sales.

Also I have acquired pizza! 🍕

Thought so. Two pizzas I hope ❤️
- There is indeed 2 pizzas. One for today. One for tomorrow.
That's huge relief that it sounded like a supportive conversation and not the usual antagonism/passive-aggressiveness people come to associate with HR. You absolutely deserve to use personal leave for situations like this, that's great that they saw some sense there and let you use it.
- I just came from talking to HR, There's some reasoning that I'll be able to use Carer's leave for someone and also myself as well together.
  Apparently I just have to let her know and I put in the leave and note who has approved it before hand, in this case HR and it goes straight through without the scrutiny of the usual channels.

we keep going down and admiring the wonderfully new repointed garage. eeeee

- garbage needs love too

I was meant to do uni stuff today but I felt like crap in the morning, decided to unpack some more boxes and then went to pick up food in St Kilda - came back to have lunch with the intention of going to uni after but cripes... I need a lie down and a nap. I can't go meet my friend for dinner otherwise. I'm just going to take it easy and hopefully start early tomorrow morning instead.

I like my manager, she's this cute Greek mum that's worked here for 20 years. I'm backfilling her role as she moves up into an acting position, so she's done all the work I'm currently doing.

That's why I don't mind if I'm on a call with her where she's trying to figure something out, you can tell she's always trying her hardest.

Just had a spew due to anxiety. Christ in a cream cheese sauce.

Actually stressed AF about these last two assessments, but it's fine. I have an extension to Monday night, so I can go in to class today and smash them out over the weekend. I have this mighty fear I'm not good enough, that I wasted my money because I'm a terrible person. But I know it's just my depression and fears.

Been trying that technique of "but what if I pass?" instead. But man, those depressive pathways are such an easy road ugh!

I don't think I ask for much, but I would really appreciate some good vibes I think. 😭🙏🏼

What if you completely smash it like you have for other assignments? Don't listen to your mean brain, you're awesome, you're in the right place, and this is just a step on the way to an amazing future for you.
- ☝️☝️☝️ A thousand times this ☝️☝️☝️
I know it's negative thoughts but you're two assignments away from finishing. You're closer to the end than the start and it sounds line you've been going well so far. Often these final assignments are easier because you're more familiar with the material
It sounds like you are doing great, so I'm sure you'll be fine.
I find the opposite technique often works well for me - actually following the "what if I fail?" thoughts and working through the scenario realistically. Fears are often big and scary because we don't really want to think about them, once we shine a light at them they shrink back to something realistic we can actually deal with. So for example if you fail the subject you would need to repeat it, which means it will take a bit longer to finish the course. Which would be a bit annoying, but a long way from the global "I'm not good enough" fears.
You've done well from what I've seen. You need to have more belief in yourself.
I find sometimes it helps to just focus on what you need to do and finish so that you don't get to thinking about the ifs and what happens.
Wishing you good luck with it all.
You can do it!
Kitty buzzes your way 🐈‍⬛🐈
💓💓💪🏻⭐⭐
I feel this so much. You aren't alone in these feelings. And you can do it. Breathe. Vent. Ground. You're a star and you will get though.
🙏

I don't wanna work, I wanna look up hotels. Reminding myself that working means I can pay for said hotels. Gahhhhhhh.

Making sure that Teams dot is green is how you pay for hotels

It was known as cannabis exclusively up until the 1920s where there was a scare about it in the US when it was relabelled marijuana. It's always explained as some new sex drug the kids are taking to scare people.
Nixon ran another scare campaign on marijuana to help his ailing presidential bid, and often a condition of accepting aid money from the US is to take on certain laws domestically, such as their weird drug policy
- the other interesting angle was related to hemp, mexicans, a bunch of petrocompanies, forestry dudes, nylon, DuPont etc had a big say in its prohibition. I'm not sure how much of it is true though.
It's not completely illegal, just illegal for recreational use. I'm a medical cannabis patient and use it manage symptoms of CPTSD (mainly insomnia and night terrors). It was not a difficult process in my experience.
I agree it should be legalised for recreational use though. But that would impact the profits for the alcohol and tobacco companies, so I don't see that changing unfortunately. I have hope, but I'm also realistic in that respect.

Had iodine contrast this morning, and it did NOT make me feel like I'd pissed myself. I would request a refund if it wasn't bulk billed, but I might just piss myself for real in protest.

Fuckin HATE that thing! and the shit they make you drink beforehand 🤮
- Mine was IV but it did make everything taste like rusty metal for a bit after. Hoping to never need the drink version!
Take a yellow hanky and somebody might lie to you
- I've got a few numbers in the rolodex I'd call on if that was the mood. 😏
😂😂😂

Phew ol' ladies bloods done (there was refusal there but needed to happen).

Guessing there are going to be wild abnormal results.

But on the plus, ol' boy and I were cutting concrete with an angle grinder next to the clothesline, dust everywhere, and she cracked the shits so that's back to normal.

and she cracked the shits so that’s back to normal.
I'm with her on that one. 🤨

One more day to go. Come on!!!

You can do it Ozzy,
Bite Friday's head off!

baleeted

Vent/rant/ go on as much as you need! We're here for you and Melbcat! Glad you're starting to get some answers!
- baleeted
That's brutal melbs, just looked it up. Nasty stuff! I'm very happy you're getting some kind of answer for that pain, and I'm willing the universe to offer you more for your other ailments 💜💜
Sending you my love!
- baleeted

Was there an appreciation week this week that I missed?

Strawberries and bok choy being previous ones.

I appreciate ambivalent doggos when a mfing model plane is heading straight towards them at 1km/hr. I need that energy.
- How cute was that? My dog would've anticipated some sort of noise and chomped its wings off.
We've been a bit too busy being unappreciative of the humidty to find something to appreciate. Maybe we can be really appreciative of something next week.
- I'll appreciate my cold beers tomorrow instead 👍

Given the likely weather over the weekend, maybe think about doing essential laundry tomorrow. I will be doing just that.

Gonna have to air the house out tomorrow too. With 3 crook people the fresh air wouldn’t hurt.
- fresh air wouldn’t hurt
  Aka the Open air method you're not wrong :)
- https://youtube.com/shorts/WtHS2ax713Q

Hi everybody

Gooood mooorninggg msss joooonessss

That is a very kind thing to do and will make a difference to her because it's practical. Beyond that you have reached out and let her know you are there. Make sure to check in in a little while (week or two) and just ask how she's going. Maybe make a time to catch up for a chat in a bit. Just be available.
It’s good. It ensures that she can get food without going out and is a nice support without intruding
That's very kind of you. hugs

Almost Friday. So, so close now.

The sounds shagging possums can make are highly alarming. Z-Day stuff.
Scared and horny 😂
- dont you hate that!? "man I am scared as hell right now! But also, I got the strangest boner!"

Ugh. I feel like to manage stress I need to reduce my time on the internet. It’s not good for my head to marinate in bad news.

I would argue that our capitalist system is the root cause of many mental health problems. But it’s easier to make it an individual problem and medicate the population rather than change the system.
dont think you'll find much argument on this one. Dont have to be mentally unwell to see the worlds broken.
You'd be surprised how many things capitalism individualises that would be better handled collectively. Growing food, cooking food, raising kids. These are all things that are better done in a group but we live in systems where you have to do it yourself or one person handles it exclusively
I don't know about that.
It's only liberal democracies ( which tend to regulated capitalism ) that keep statistics and or openly talk about societal and personal problems , we have no idea what the vast majority of the world suffers.

So a job that sounded really promising called a couple of weeks back and said "sorry, you are great, but we've found someone with industry experience, we'll call you if anything changes" (not exactly a niche industry), but I've just seen that the role has been reposted a week later.

Would you reach out the HR contact you've been communicating with and ask for further feedback regarding your interviews or just leave it? Wondering if there's a way I should be bettering myself that I haven't seen that they could point out (other, than, ya know, all of me), but not sure I should. I suspected by the end of the interview I was possibly being too informal/relaxed because it was such a good interview and I was feeding of their energy.

I’m always a fan of reaching out. It takes the guesswork out of it.
- True. Thanks! I've emailed asking if there was any advice she had for me :)
Give them one last chance if you want to work there, then they can go on the blacklist forever
- I totally do still wanna work there, but we'll see!

We need a new Christmas tree. My last one the dog pissed on (and tbh i brought it when I was broke so it was a bit... meh anyway). Mrs wants an real tree, which I would normally have no issues with but we're not here for Christmas day. Feel like a real tree is a bit wasted.

DT what would you guys pick? Also who makes good ornaments? Dog pissed on most of those too. And the Kmart ones looked great new but quickly fell apart.

Fake tree 100%
Always had real ones growing up and loved them. The smell, the feel, nothing comes close.
Bought a real one here in Oz once. Our first home, first Christmas.
Never again. Died super quick. Dry as hell. Little to no smell.
Completely not worth it.
We're looking for a new fake one this year and trying to find something of decent quality. Current one has been around for 17 years and needs and update
- Just douse the fake one with:
  No one will know it's fake.
- a quick look online says Myer is probably the best bet. Big W and kmart's offerings look anemic, at least online.
My bf got put off real Christmas trees when his family got one that had a lovely nest of creepy crawlies in it. I just find them messier. I like the potted tree idea by Catfish!
we have one of those reject shop ones with built in fibre optic lights. No tinsel, no fishing it out of catbums for the next six months.
One year we got one of these and stuck baubels on it for an outdoor bbq christmas, looked pretty snazz. Looking up the link I found they do christmas themed ones too!
- the integrated light idea is appealing. my only concern is if they break the tree is basically rooted.
Xmas is a big deal for me. I get real or fake trees depending on the theme. I prefer the real trees for the nice smell but have installed an all black fake tree this year.
If you go the real tree route, you need to jump on it this weekend or the good ones will be gone by the following. The scouts sell them and you can preorder. Also keep in mind they need watering almost every day. ( an automated watering system can be DIY if you’re so inclined)
If you aren’t that into it just get a fake one.
For ornaments, I source them from NSW. Christmas World or Amazing Christmas. You can buy in bulk.
Hit me up if any more questions
- That black tree sounds awesome - got a photo?!
- I've thought about a themed one. Black forest or the ones with the fake snow. Dunno if I'm brave enough though.
Did doggo piss on the star at the top of the old tree? That's dedication we could all learn from.
Personally I'd just get a fake one. Real ones are a bugger to clean up when they drop needles. They do smell good though.
- he pissed on the bag containing the tree and its decorations in the garage. My fault, I know what he is like and he shouldnt have been given the chance. the bugger snuck in and was caught with his leg up mid stream.
Pine trees are great if you love picking up pine needles every day so the dogs, cats and kids don't put them in their mouths first. Also disposal is fun if you have a chainsaw.
- Ahhhh. Now that I hadnt considered...
Just a quick question: Is your wife an Aries by any chance?
- dont think so
Buy a real potted one of whatever you want, bother the shape, plant it when it gets too big to move inside for the holiday. Rinse & repeat.
- yeah sadly not enough room to keep it alive. Plus the dog will likely kill it.

Anyone know why all lollies are Lifesaver branded these days? Did they acquire another company? Lifesavers used to just be those round hard lollies, now they're everything

I noticed that too. I'm sure Pastilles and Fruit Tingles were Allen's.
I can remember 4 types of Lifesavers growing up. Fruit, pink, peppermint and spearmint in the roll. I only remember them because they were in Christmas stockings and the word Lifesaver was written on them. Now they're all in packets.
- fruit tingles were discs
  lifesavers were clear hard toroidal candy with many flavours. Orange, lemon, lime and strawberry are the ones i remember
Life Savers is owned by Mars Inc, and is produced by Wrigley's (in the US), Nestle (Canada), and Darrell Lea (Aus).
I imagine 'life savers' has branched out to other kinds of candies, y know, for the profits
Edit: here's an infographic that shows who owns what lol it's fucked
If you click or tap the image you should be able to zoom in
- It's even worse if you expand it beyond confectionary. Good chance Mars makes your dog food.

Carpet cleaning has been done. Stinks like wet wool but at least it's much cleaner now.

Now to check that the drains in the courtyard are not blocked.

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A short ribena cocktail please
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Discarded crab meat on some buttered crackers thanks.
- 🧽🧈
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Crab Rangoon and a Bahama Mama
- 🦀🧀🥟🇧🇸🤰
Strawberries and icecream served in a fresh crab shell. Please discard the crab meat. I heard that all crabs nearby were infected with chlamydia and taste like durian
- Dude WTF did you notice it’s your cake day?
  Take this 🎂and this 💋
- So that's where the burning sensation came from.
- 🍓🍨♋️
One contrast dye margarita please.
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So you guys know those dark grey paving tiles they use in the city? You guys also know how they become slippier than a slip n slide when it rains? I've found something even worse... Some idiot decided to use those as the flooring in the shower at the hotel I'm staying at... 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

It's not that bad to start with, because feet (or at least mine) are generally grippy enough, but once you add a bit of conditioner, or hell, even just body wash, it basically becomes a how still can I stand? game. They Ldo only uses the absolute slightest angle to the drain, and used one of those teeny tiny drains at that, so it does pool unless you make an active effort to get water to flow to the other side and push it down the drain

My shower at home sucks too, but isn't quite that bad. It's got a steeper angle to a wider drain, and I have one of those shower heads you can grab off and move about, which makes it a lot easier to wash things down the drain. Even so, I have a non slip mat, and leave the door slightly ajar so I could catch myself on the towel rail if I slip. Here there's just about nothing. Couldn't even use the tap because it's kind of recessed into the wall

Whoops, double up, I deleted the thread I made. Sorry.

I thought that might happen. Oops.
- Nah my fault

Hmmm HR wants to meet with me today.

Suspicious.

Probs covering their ass with " how are you going how can we support you" etc.
- Is it actually something they're legally required to do?
- Happy cake day Force 🍰
- I'm not the one leaving.

Glad I had the lie down/nap but still feeling kind of out of sorts. Like the precursor to a cold or something. Ugh, I hope not.

I have at least bought the s hooks on the way to my friend's place and hung up some pans just now, that's opened up a bit of space. Still not sure where to put certain pantry items so that I don't forget they exist. There's space I could use towards the back of the cupboards but then those items will be invisible. I'll need to create an inventory and put it on my fridge, I think. So many dals and lentils to use.

Bringing back the sound of summer

https://youtu.be/OfaL89h1jqY

- It's an absolute banger, both songs and bands/artists!
  Check out DJ Cummerbunds Shaxicula and Pretty Fly For Rasputin - they're my favs, but Testifireball is just peak summer vibes 😂
  Gosh let me know what your dad thinks! 😂

MANK

I love the Aldi ad with the gravy boat. Made me laugh.

I do too. If you notice when she goes to christen it the bottle doesn't break. That's a sign of bad luck.
Also SAVE THE TURKEY is so funny.
this one?
thats actually pretty great hey
- That’s the one

I have found far too much entertainment in this website: https://www.gotocourt.com.au/how-criminal-is-your-name/

Geez the crackpot neighbour's name's way up there and most likely to be in for murder. This is the guy that cuts his lawn with hand shears... hrmm
Sadly I am not on this list. It just adds to the disappointment from my childhood when my name was never on anything 'personalised' Now it's everywhere!
That's funny! I'm not in the top 100 thankfully but the most common crime is assault :0/
- Both I and another lady I work with are commonly into abduction, apparently. We've been able to bond over it and are planning our next kidnapping together.
- Same!!
I’m surprised that people called Phyllis and Beryl are that high on the list
- Phyllis and Beryl are skimming the charity tin for a sesh at the pokies.
- I've worked on a bunch of old legal documents that would show Phyllis and Beryl as having been charged with larceny of a frock, or dispensing without license
172 - I barely make the top 200. But if I do commit a crime, it's statistically going to be because I lost my temper and nothing premeditated.
I think I can live with those odds.
I'm not even on the database!!! I'm a law-abiding citizen! This is shameful.
EDIT: But my second name ...
Is much more sinister
I am apparently not a very criminal type, except for the bit where I want all the best stuff in your house
My name isn't on it!!!
But a different spelling of it is...and assualt is the soup du jour.
Noice

yay, looks like today is carpet cleaning day. I didn't notice until I was locking the apartment up for the night that the front entrance area had been flooded from the deluge of rain. It's starting to stink already. Luckily I have one of those wet carpet cleaners. But still 😣

now for a walk in the park https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F1m9s8sm478

I still watch some tv and a few movies.

I wuz thinkin', Mr Right is John Wick made as a comedy ...lol. body count is about the same tho