Daily Discussion Thread: 💐 🙂 💖 Friday, November 8, 2024

Gibson in her first week living at my place ❤️

It was an adjustment for both of us. I didn't really know anything about cats, let alone kittens. The day I went and picked her up I bought one of everything at the pet section at kmart lol

The sneak attacks were on a whole other level. She'd jump and stick to my legs with her sharp as fuck little claws 😂

It was a really fun time. Very enjoyable :)

So innocent, so deadly :)
- If I had light skin, I could show you the scars lol
  She was the reason I got my first tetanus shot 😂
OMG the tiny squee! You dun good 😺
- We came to an agreement. She does pretty much whatever she wants, and I deal with it lol
  (except no climbing on the kitchen counter).
I ♥ Gibson.

Mum's in the ED tonight after her fall 6 days ago (well 2 falls in two weeks). I'm super worried. Delayed concussion ABI IV (she only has vision in one eye and now the other is gone) this is not good.

Her life is about to change drastically and it's going to be an awful adjustment for her and I just feel so sad.

i'm not sure how to go about this.

Been through something similar with my Mum a few years back. Did the hospital give you any info on 'confusion', which is a known side effect of such falls?
All one can do is to be there for her, preferably turning up at a regular time of the day as predictability is key. Try to avoid surprising her, or doing a data dump of new information, cos it may not be grasped fully. This isn't the moment to attempt to get her to agree to home help etc. I made that mistake with my Mum, and so did my brother who didn't understand that my Mum couldn't grasp new information at that point. It didn't end well. Also, I suspect your brother & SIL aren't going to be much use. Try to be there at least once a day.
You might like to get her a radio with simple controls - the twist sort - with comfy headphones. If she's got low or no vision then having some means of blotting out the other activity in the ED or hospital room is very helpful. Phone apps rely on vision to operate the controls. Boredom and the ceaseless sounds and activity around her is a nasty mix when she's trying to sleep and a radio helps. My mum also felt better when she had her favorite shawl/throw to wrap herself in as she found the hospital ambient temperature too chilly for comfort.
Clean clothes/laundry, hairdressing etc. will also help her to feel better. The nurses can't do all of this, so you or other rellos will probably have to do this as required. Also familiar food - hospital food varies a great deal depending on the hospital and the time of day. Not all of it is edible imo. If her doctor agrees, then homelike food is good.
- Thank you kindly for that advice. I'm going to follow all of that.
I'm so sorry mate. I can't imagine how you're feeling at the moment. I hope everything turns out the best that it can ❤️❤️❤️
- Thank you :)
So sorry to read this. Best to you both.
- Thank you.
We're all here for you and your mum, always. I am so so sorry about you both going through this. Please reach out if you need support. And feel free to vent to/at me any time you need.
Edit: how're your chillies going? ❤️
I’m so sorry; this is such a hard thing to go through. Further to what Thornbury witch suggested, it can be helpful to visit around mealtimes or when things need to be done. One time my mum was in hospital, I tried to visit regularly to help with her meals, etc., as the staff were run off their feet. It also means you can keep on top of what treatment is happening and help provide medical info to the staff, too
Hugs to you all
I am so sad for you. Like TW said, it's gentle supportive steps right now. Rest and time will help all of you.

😻

Well I fucking nailed that Butter Chicken. Both kids had seconds. That never happens lately. Put it in the oven for 15 minutes and managed to crisp up the chicken perfectly.

I love when that happens. I made slumgullian recently and it was requested on regular rotation.
w00t w00t!
That's a big plus daddy-o 👍

Cheers cats 🍺

I'm about to go into the professional art space so all future commissions will be charged accordingly
cries while drinking coffee at work
- I'll still be around for normal knock off time. Until then 🍻
- I'm literally about to go to Woolies and am seriously considering a 6pack of some kind 👀

need some of that DT perspective.

I'm sorry but if the in-laws have no place for their child, child's spouse and their grandchild...fuck'em.
That's piss poor parenting.
I would give up my own bedroom and sleep on couches for such guests!!! Or blow up mattresses!!
- That's a good point. We've offered to share our place with family flying in. We don't really have room for them. Kids will be sleeping on camp mats and sharing bedrooms, adults will be sleeping on the sofa bed. It'll be tight. But we'll make it work if they need a roof.
- Sorry I probably wasnt clear. Grandparents have tons of space for us. but the extended family doesnt have space, and their place is 2 hours away. All their kids/grandkids and stuff are coming and they get first dibs apparently. Sort of makes sense I guess, they'd be... tinyest's second cousins I think?
What the absolute fuck? I'm also really sorry that you happened to catch covid this Christmas and didn't wanna risk harming your in laws.
- 😂😂😂
Sorry this is a hill I'd die on. You have a toddler, fam only told you plans now, and you have a metric fuckton of driving to do, AND ITS A THOUSAND DOLLARS FOR THE ACCOMADATION!
yeah nah, your missus can go by herself, but I don't think this is doable. 4 hours min of driving with a toddler, plus the weather and the flying. Pfft
PFFT
- PFFT INDEED
- Oh she wants to! and she wants to take tinyest which I squarely put my foot down on. Too much for him. and Frankly, I'm entitled to enjoy Christmas too!
Combined with the cost of everything and also a family to tow around with you without accomodation, I think it's unreasonable for you to have to spend the extra money, time and stress with it all.
It's not helped by the Mrs opinion on this being the opposite of yours.
- yeeeeeep thats the issue.
Which bit of this is enjoyable?
- 😂
- I mean, for me the absolute highlight of the trip is gonna be regretting sharing a seat with tinyest. He was a lot smaller when I booked it and I decided "Screw it, its cheaper he can just sit on my lap". Betting im gonna be kicked from here to there.
That's a lot to ask. Personally I'd visit the inlaws later when it's cheaper but Mrs. B will still be shitty about it. I'd offer a compromise. Go later for longer without that distance and more convenient for your fam.
- Yeah tried that, went down like a lead balloon. Shes like "Well, if they want to go you can just stay at their place". I said "Nup. if they want to go I'm staying home. We can fly over when its cheaper".
Sorry, but F the fact that there isn’t a place for you to stay when you’re already travelling interstate with a toddler.
AND that it would cost 1k for accommodation and they’re only telling you in November. With the cost of things?
TF is wrong with people.
- thank you! thats my take on it. But the mrs is like "its no big deal".
You're not the asshole here mate. The inlaws are the real assholes here.
NTA. I wouldn’t do any of this let alone with a small child. It’s too much to ask and it’s just begging for tantrums because he’s hungry or overtired or overstimulated or bored. Or difficulties involving vomiting or nappy changes.
The adults can also get tired and stressed, maybe get into fights.
It’s ultimately between you guys but I looked at that itinerary and it all looks like way too much.
I’m extremely antisocial and introverted irl so would probably refuse and if need be I would fake illness
- its more a money thing for me. I spending all this money to go spend christmas with them and they decide "actually, we might not even do christmas here" is a but sucky.
Do you want your boy travelling in a car for that long? I think you know the answer.
- heck no!
NTA
When things change agreements must be renegotiated.
always amazes me how inlaws expect other people to spend money to see them, i would tell them cars and airplanes travel in both directions
- they are typically pretty good. I think the mrs volunteered us to go over this year... I said thats fine but next year we're staying put.
Any chance you can find a camper van for rent late notice? Get your own car/accommodation and do more of what you want.
It just sounds too hard. Edit: and too expensive .Won't hurt to miss one year, and they obviously weren't thinking of you when these plans were being made. Christmas is hard enough and expensive enough without these hoops.

An unsurprising day (mostly) offline. It's been good, but I still make choc chip bikkies at 9:30pm, so probably says a lot about my state of mind. They didn't even turn out that good. Went shopping but everything I bought (mostly sparkly makeup) I already have similar stuff to, but I'm taking it as buying things that bring me joy.

Cried when I went into my bedroom earlier, just thinking the little dog would have lifted his head as I turned on the light. It's gonna take time to break these habits, that muscle memory.

Right now it hurts bad, but it will get better.
Helps remembering that you have him his best life. No one could've done better.
Stay strong and you'll be good. The world is worse off but for the best in the long run.
I'm sorry Spin. Sending you my love. 💜💜💜
So sorry. I didn’t realise. hugs
❤️❤️❤️
so many hugs

I tried proper bubble tea for the first time yesterday. So I took a sip, I paused, my eyes went big, I looked at my daughter and she said "Now chew, chew, chew, you can do it". I've never had to chew a drink before. Those balls were huge.

Please to read you didn't do a this guy.

He ought to know how to handle a mouthful of balls.
- 😂
  It was close to this until I was instructed to chew.
- We should all know how to handle a mouthful of balls tbh, it's a really good life skill to take a few at once I think
it's tapioca pearls ..😹
- I prefer huge balls.
Now I want bubble tea.
My last one was just literally taro with half a cup of pearls.
That shiz is a meal.
- It was interesting.

Just saved a moth that flew into my wine.

God speed little one I gotchu.

I'd have chosen to save the wine mate, you're clearly a better person than me haha

I've locked in the 9pm slot next Thursday for the open mic. Will drop a reminder closer to the date if anyone wants to join :)

Maribyrnong: Anglecised version of "Mirring-gnay-bir-nong", which translates as 'I can hear a ringtail possum'.

That made me laugh so fucking hard 😂😂😂 like it's just an apt name for the area holy shit 😂💀

Source: apparently my own council website lol https://conversations.merri-bek.vic.gov.au/renaming/names-melbourne#:~:text=There%20are%2031%20councils%20in,Yarra%20River%20Melbourne%20%2D%20History

My partner has been complaining she's been freezing cold all day and she just figured out that we forgot to switch the mode back to heating rather than air con from yesterday. Gotta love and laugh at these Melbourne problems 😂

#justmelbournethings

Booked in for blood donation on Monday. Lifeblood texted me and were basically like "yo, heard you got that A+ blood, which we need. Gimme and we'll give you snacks" which works on me.

Pretty sure I'm O+, I've got that basic blood. But I got blacklisted when I was younger from donating, first time I went in I managed to get knocked out and go into full convulsions (unfortunately was there with my mum and it traumatised her for a bit afterwards 😅). Few weeks later I got a letter basically telling me thank you for coming but please don't come again.
- O+ is common, but it is also one of the most in-demand.
- I'm O+ as well. Donated as a teenager. First one went well. Numbers 2, 3 and 4 not so well due to low blood pressure. I was told maybe when I'm older to try. I haven't because I know me better now. At least we tried.
- That's a safety issue for sure - better to keep you safe than have something worse than convulsions happen when you give blood!!! You are your number one priority and I wouldn't ask someone to give blood if they have issues with it (even being squeamish can lead to fainting)
  💜💜
I'm A-. Gave blood a few times when I was younger and it was always hard because my veins don't obligingly pop up. They just took a punt and stuck it in, and if that didn't work they'd try somewhere nearby. The last time I had a few needle marks on my arm for quite a while, made me feel self conscious as I had to work in short sleeves, and I worked at the kind of place where teaspoons went missing on the regular, not a good look. Looking back I feel bad about being a wuss.
- @PeelerSheila @StudChud give it a go again! Just drink a good amount of water beforehand to help with the veins. They are all very good at finding them, there. And you get excellent snacks!

Here's my "Marry Me" French inspired British/Mexican fusion breakfast pasta:

Your dedication to elaborate and exotic/erotic breakfastseses is quite something.
💐💍🧎🏻‍♀️
This looks delicious, what's in there?!
- Cheddar, baked beans, jalepenos and garlic!
  Edit. also splash of lemon juice, lots of pepper, little paprika, and butter

I love my partner - he's listening to Chappell Roan in the shower 😂 hands down my favourite person!

My illustrated edition of the Hobbit did turn up and my god, I can't believe I got so much book for $16. It's got gold on the cloth bound hardcover, it's nice and thick with glossy paper stock, and it's full of drawings.

Independent book stores could sell this for $36, saying it's marked down from $70 and they'd move so many units.

The man has the day off and I'm wondering how early is too early to start day drinking? I'm thinking we should have a boozy brunch.

I love morning drinking. Get a nap in around 3. $35 Aldi gin is my jam at the moment.
- I'm aiming to go all the way through into overtime. Earn me some hard earnt 10c per bottle coin.
Day drinking can start any time after sunrise.
- 👍
Never too early
- Omg. That's my life. That's going on the playlist. Thank you.
I mean hey, the sun's always over the yardarm somewhere!
Not ‘boozy’ - champagne brunch, like at the races
but maybe with the type of ‘champagne’ made with hops
- Done
it's not day drinking if you call the drinks a cute name like mimosa
- True.
  I've indulged in few Cup Day chicken and champagne breakfasts in my time too.
Mimosas!
- No. Beer and pies!

Everyone learns differently, at varying paces; don't get frustrated Spud! 😭

I'm sorry. I'm just a bit slow 😔
You can work it out, you've got this!!! 👊
Make your own notes! I couldn't learn a THING at my current job before I did that.

Few thing better than being stoned on a Friday morning

As long as it is not the biblical version of being stoned, that type is not so fun.
I love that feeling as well. It's good even if the weather is bad, and it's good when the sun is out.
🪁
- Today is perfect. Shorts+light hoodie. Am in heaven

No emoji theme? I feel bereft.

Alright. Pizza and Ps5 let's fucking gooooooo!

(as soon as I get out of bed after my nanna nap)

Unwinding to some Quincy Jones tracks (so much MJ!) as is the theme across so many PBS programs this week...

I'm NOT going to think about packing or selling items tonight, I'm just tapped out.

Got a friend coming over tomorrow to help work out this couch bizzo and provide some distraction from all the packing and culling.

Wonder what movie or tv series I could blank my brain out with this evening.

E: I'm thinking of Poker Face or maybe Happy Valley, never watched that most famous of UK cozy country cop shows

Truthseekers is a great fun series

Cheers 🍻

Quick bring a beer, I'm in class
- For after 🍺

I like the analogy the man gave me while explaining fast charging and slow charging.

You can eat your meal fast or slow. It doesn't matter, you're still gonna get full but it's good to eat it slow if you can

Oh. Me nods. I get that.

Ps. He said other things but it didn't quite go in.

I woke up this morning realising I only set my earlier alarm for the usual days I'd be in the office. I got ready as quickly as possible and jumped on the bike to the station because I wouldn't make the bus. I got there the same time as the bus and still made it to the office by 8

Hm. Someone I’ve never talked to with a bunch of mod removed comments (and a couple of identical ones) messaged me ‘hello’. Not to be rude but that seems mildly sus so that’s a block.

I don’t really like DMs at the best of times and usually keep them shut.

Did they start with the letter D?
- 😠
  whistles innocently
- Yeah
Wasn’t me dude I swear. I only DM people telepathically

Woo I didn’t need to pull a full Karen to get insurance address fuckery fixed

I have an inner bogan I unleash when required.
- Now there’s a memory. My male parent could code switch from court room/general/bogan on demand. It wasn’t until I was much older I realised most people don’t work like that, it’s also a skill I’m much less good at.
- I don’t enjoy it, but am actively dong it more rather than running away from shit instead. I’m not good at Medium.

Seems appropriate

Asshole

I'M AN ASSHOLE!
\ ^{*He's an asshole*}
\ ^{*What an asshole*}
I'm thinking of the Cold Chisel song
You don't tell me anything You just go on and on And you don't make no sense
- Weirdly, as a child, I got Barnesy and Bruce Willis mixed up all the time 😭

Accidentally a little hungover. Gonna have to be beef vindaloo for lunch

I sent you a DM

Can I have one?
Can you whisper me sweet things in 1's and 0's?
- kinky binary
- Just for you sorry, put it in the wrong spot, but I'm leaving it there because Dick.
Is it a dick pic?🤞
- as requested
Well I'm feeling left out, I got nothing.
Did you? To us all?

Today's my first proper 'in a funk all day due to a shit work interaction with a client' since I started here maybe ten weeks ago. It sucks that it lingers

There's a cold beer waiting for you somewhere. 🍺

Today I’ve had 4 coffees, 1 slice of cake, a few mouthfuls of Twisties, some challah, 3 chocolate chip cookies and a can of tuna.

Now I need to decide what to eat for dinner.

Um, time to give some respectful attention to vegetables I think.
- What is this vegetable you speak of?

vaccination done, then supermarket where I bought asparagus, eggs and lactose free cream for a quiche and then an art store to see what they had in western calligraphy paper. Home , tired, but have necessary chores to do, the cats need a clean space too.

I've got the mic plugged in. I have a charming/ atrocious singing voice. What should I wake the neighbours up with?

Blind Melon - No Rain.
Def Leopard - Pour some sugar on me.
Divine - You think you're a man.
- This is the way
- Oh thank you for reminding me of Blind Melon. Time to listen to Nico
White Town - your woman
- Good song 👍
Depends on what you're into? Either way have fun belting it out!
- Rock, punk rock, grunge, old rock. I can "sing" them all. I have words on the big screen to help me.
  Rock on mate 🤘
Interstate Love Song - Stone Temple Pilots
- Great song. My favourite STP.
Something Beach Boys, just to be different.
- We've done Beach Boys. Love em. Fantastic.
Walk like an Egyptian!
- My culture is not your costume /jk
  (I've always wanted to say that hahaha)
- Do I need to do the actions?
If your voice is atrocious or not, you must sing this
- 🤘
Sugar were going down - fallout boy
- Cool song. We've played Fallout Boy today but for you an exception.
- That is such a fkn banger I love old fallout boy.
  Headfirst Slide Into Cooperstown on a Bad Bet is my favourite - Ceo: sing that one too pls!!
  Edit: second thoughts, don't sing this
- Done.

We went to Gami last night and the robot there delivered our food to the table. Of course I spoke to it. Several times.

Not gonna lie...Gami has taken a nose dive in terms of quality and quantity 😥
- It was ok. I've never had it before though.
I, for one, welcome our chicken-slinging robot overlords.
- I called her Rosie.

Why isn't frozen mirepoix a thing? In convenient sized sachets? We can purchase frozen everything else, why not that? It's just finely diced carrot, onion and celery. There's a marketing opportunity here - a sachet of mirepoix and a bag of good chook stock in the same pack - would save so much hassle assembling and chopping etc.

Okay my bad, I read mirepoix as "mirepox" and had a moment of "is that zoonotic?" 😅 Bloody infection control and procedures class has stuck in my head 😂
They must have this for commercial kitchens, surely!
- I've never seen it. And it's fundamental to french cuisine. Jacques Pepin would be whirling in his grave I'm sure.
You might have just become a billionaire
- I look forward to the day when McCains or similar get their act together and provide this.

I have done some adulting today…

Who dis?

Such a good feeling, getting stuff done

Running low on toothpaste. I hope the dentist this morning will have restocked their big bowl of samples. Colgate Total please.

🤞
- Please to report I was handed a fistful of Sensodyne's (apparently new) daily toothpaste. 🦷🪥

flu vaccine then home to do housework if i am up to it

I might pick up my hobbit books, I got one for miss seagoon too

That course I got a massive discount on? Given the total class numbers, yikes. And I can tell who the other not full price person is. Bad data handling.

I'm sure you know allll about the Privacy Act... I'd be so suss 👀
- Not exactly, more I know enough to know what I don’t know. But yeah,they shared things they ought not.

Anxiety has been bad today. I’m not even thinking about you know what. It’s just there with the rest of my life and everything is making it worse.

I forced myself to quickly go out for newspaper to line plant pots but they didn’t have any. Some dodgy characters around but luckily nothing came of it.

I’ve planted two of the largest zucchini seedlings out but ran out of potting mix and energy because those pots were pretty big. I don’t eat much or exercise enough for physical work like lifting and shoveling so now feeling kind of shaky… but I kind of had to move and do something.

Also they’re growing fast and I don’t think I can keep all of them.

I wish you could get smaller size seed packs or a bundle with like a few seeds of each type. Maybe a seed library could sort me out but I think that’s enough ‘outside’ for now.

That's brutal ugh I'm sorry 💜
I agree on the seed packs tbh, like a mix, or smaller sized packages would be cool! I haven't thought about seed libraries though, that would be really cool to look into!
- It is absolutely brutal.
  And yeah, I get redundancy but the packs are quite large. There are community gardens but… I don’t like people
I like https://www.theseedcollection.com.au/ because they have smaller packets.
- Nice, ty. The packets are larger for the things I’d like but it’s a nice resource
thinning seedlings is a normal part of gardening, it's not a waste, it's how we grow with the strongest
I'm only keeping half of the jalapenos I'm growing
- I should have but couldn’t bear to

Night crew checking in!

o7

oh dear god apparently they are making a mass effect tv show. NOOOOOOOO!

From the person who brought you Borderlands and Ghost in the Shell (live action)
I wish I was kidding
- Oh really?
  I know Borderlines was horrible and I watched Ghost in the Shell and thought that was bad compared to the original movies and animated series.
- Oh that makes it so much fucking worse
- I didnt HATE ghost in the shell, but I had no history with the source material so maybe thats the difference here?
Ffs
Can they just leave video games alone 😭
Another trainwreck waiting for us.
Fuuuuuuck that.

Classes done for the day - phew. Won both Kahoot quizzes so I'm just gonna ride this high for a lil bit

Beep Beep 🚚
🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋

Just cat treat :)
- 🐟
Chocolate cake, a glass of champers and a grazing platter of fresh fruit please.
- 🍫🎂🍾🐑🍓🫐🍇🍒
One giant salad please.
- 🥗
Cheesy risotto balls please. With crispy chewy bits!
- 🧀🌾☄️
A slice of pumpkin pie with whipped cream please
- 🎃🥧🥛

If we're doing music, here's a fun song I found a while ago:

Smugly Ugly - New Car

talking of planning

I think I will map out my new art project, plans will probably change as I go and learn new possibilities

and reading as well, probably easiest to just set aside time everyday for reading

The falcons are growing up so quickly. They have lost almost all their baby fluff and have started doing a lot of flapping practice.

The Message - Grandmaster Flash

DJ Kool - Let Me Clear my Throat (Funkmaster Flex mix)

Friday, oh dear Friday.

Save us today!

7 hours in.

What are you drinking?
- Pure Blondes and Soju shots on the half hour.

Mood: The Summoning - Sleep Token

Mmm, what to eat for dinner…

That’s pretty cool. It’s like a Fear Factory/Meshugga cross with a slightly better vocalist
- They fall into the horny metal genre to me, right next to Deftones. I think it's all in the vocals
- They’re an interesting band. I do prefer their heavier stuff, but really dig how surprisingly diverse they are.

Ate too fast and burping like a mofo. Really enjoying the first episode of Poker Face even though Natasha Lyonne's voice annoys the heck out of me

Oh hey I forgot about that show!! I got through quite a few episodes before I got distracted, it was good fun! But I get what you mean about her voice.

Without You - Harry Nilsson

Search up Ken Lee on YouTube and thank me later
- omg, how have i never heard this before
  and is this a comedic act like borat or is she real?

The Voyager app for Lemmy seems to be good now.

That’s what I’m using. There has been a bit of lag with new DDT showing up this week, but otherwise good!