Daily Discussion Thread: 🫛🐖🍲 Sunday, September 1, 2024
Daily Discussion Thread: 🫛🐖🍲 Sunday, September 1, 2024
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I had the stupid idea of downloading Hinge as one of my Sunday Sleep Deprivation Mishaps. As soon as I downloaded it, a guy who I matched with two years ago on a different app sends me a rose.
Now this guy asked me on a date after talking for a while (not making that mistake again) and at first I said yes. But the next day, I said no and apologised. He tells me that I did him dirty, he's the most depressed he's been in five years, he was going to organise a beach date and buy me flowers, he couldn't celebrate his friend's exciting news when he saw my message, he told his family about me, yada yada yada. I thought I was bad but this was like a whole new level of desperation and I noped tf out immediately. Dude would also compare me to girls he was going out on dates with and telling me about his date fails. Put me on pedestal. It's not fair to anyone involved to put someone on a pedestal. I don't think it's something that people are really aware of sometimes, though.
Some people really need to be okay with being alone. I guess a relationship would be nice one day, but I love my peace :) and even though it seems like being on the apps could increase the chance, I'm just going to live my life. If it happens, nice. If it doesn't, then so be it.
If you chase butterflies, they'll fly away. If you build a nice garden, you might attract butterflies. If no butterflies, you will have built a beautiful garden for yourself. I'm building my garden :)
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My history with relationships is different from yours, but some of the lessons are the same I think. It's important to know ourselves, to cultivate our own sense of self, to endeavour to be the person you are, and live authentically, true to yourself.
It's easy to lose our sense of self within an incompatible relationship. We mould ourselves to fit with our partner, and when incompatible, it's to our own detriment.
To indulge in ourselves, be ourselves without answering to anybody, without being needed or clung to, is a great way to grow confidence. Confidence in our self, in our sense of worth in this world, our place in the universe.
You are intelligent, articulate, clever, and beautiful. You do beautiful, human things. You don't need apps to find connection; human connection is formed by being together in person, doing something together. I know you are awesome, I believe in you 💜
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Thank you Spud <3
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yeah, you barely know the guy , he barely knows you, all the guilt trips and the pedestal thing , those are huge red flags
and what spud said, you can do things together with a partner but you have to build your own life too
I find confidence in doing things, anything really.
And I don't ever ask permission to like or dislike something
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Some people really need to be okay with being alone. I guess a relationship would be nice one day, but I love my peace :)
Don't you live at home with your mum?
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I do. In this case, I meant being alone as in enjoying one's own company and not needing a relationship to feel satisfied.
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I forgot about hangovers
Edit: It's weird being back here in this dead suburb after being out in Brunswick last night. I'll be moving soon.
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Ikwym about the whole "dead suburb" thing. After living in places like Brunswick, and St Kilda many years ago, I unreservedly hate where I live now. Just houses, houses, houses being demolished and replaced with grey shitty dog box units, the odd shitty overpriced cafe. Boring as fuck and lifeless. If you live in the outer outer suburbs, out west or north I especially sympathize. Lucky to have a shitty overpriced mini mart in some of those places.
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That's where I am. Is it too much to have an actual bakery and a deli in walking distance. The only thing that makes it bearable is I ride my bike to most places instead of driving
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Exactly. Lifeless. I'm getting on in years and want to be where there's life.
Hopefully soon I'll be moving.
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I’ve never been rich enough to live inner city. Grew up in outer suburbs and now live in a middle suburb. Yeah it’s rubbish ammenities compared to all that you get in inner city. But also I don’t have financial stress, I have space for a garden, and can still go to the city when I need to. It’s a compromise I’m ok with.
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Gatorade and Vegemite toast.
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Cheeseburger and a frozen coke stat.
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My kid is making pancakes for her dad. She shut the kitchen door. I'm not allowed in there. I hope I have a kitchen by the end. Currently rocking backwards and forwards.
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Don't watch the bluey episodeabout making a father's day breakfast then
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I made spag bol for dinner and I'm tasting, tasting, tasting somethings not right. Adjusting, tasting, adjusting, tasting. Sat down to eat with the garlic bread and toum. Finished my plate and then it jerried. Forgot to put garlic in it. Ffffuck.
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Forgot to put garlic in
oh no.
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Yeah. I'm not happy.
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It's definitely not hat weather.
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Hoodie to keep the hat on.
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a giant hat harnessed to your whole body
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If you make a hat big enough it effectively becomes a burka. Which if it is waterproof seems like a very practical option in bad weather. Plus it means you can go out in your pyjamas without anyone knowing. I think it just needs an oodie-style marketing campaign with a catchy name.
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And the Darwin Award goes to…
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I survived. Love my Dad, it was good seeing him. He's lost weight which is good, eating healthy and going for walks around the Dandenongs.
Opa gave me some 20yo rum. Never bought the bottle out, but did say his sister gave it to him the last time she was here, which was about 2000.
It smelt delicious, evaporated on my lips. It tasted sweet, painful, and smokey in that order on the way down my throat. It burnt my ears and activated my reflux. It was 80%. 10/10 reccomend my Opa's Sisters 20+yo rum.
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Wow, totally bonkers dreams - epic story of environmental damage, human trafficking, my old work and family drama all in one. It would be too much to write it out, but it could've been a mildly interesting story of how a lowly environmental consultant discovers a massive crime operation through the cunning scrutiny of plans and unexpected access to certain areas. And then has to try and keep these developments secret while her family is in town for a big reunion but maybe some of them are involved as well...
Okay whatever, time to get out of bed.
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I've been thinking a bit about time travel today, and whilst I think overall travelling in time would be problematic (losing all narative structure to your life, requiring way too many tenses to keep track of and leading to constant jetlag) I think there are some things it could be really useful for.
Most useful would be the ability to transport objects in time - imagine getting home from work, putting a roast in the oven and setting it to start cooking 3 hours ago. Then making up an extra plate of food and transporting it to tomorrow's lunchtime so you can eat it freshly cooked and still hot. Food storage would also be revolutionised. Instead of trying to keep things fresh you just reach into the past to grab it when it actually was fresh! Leftovers would remain freshly cooked, you could have vine ripened summer tomatoes in the middle of winter and your milk would last however long you needed it to.
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I don't believe in the theories that allow for changes, so if I went back with that intention I failed.
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Love it. Sign me up.
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Just imagine the stock market reverberations, people travelling to get insider trading info to buy or sell shares
And competitive board games would become obsolete unless you vow to not travel to the future ( and what you describe is two way travel, to the past and back to the present , thus t the future is possible )
but I do love your ideas
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Good night everyone 😽 may you have sweet dreams
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I did not, in fact, get out of bed and kept going back to sleep. I am pretty sure I've had plenty of sleep by now and this is just me heading towards a spiral of inactivity/depression. Somehow triggered by feelings of inadequacy/realising my mediocrity/decline in abilities from lack of engagement. Then deciding to get stuck in it because who am I doing any of this for? Ugh, I've been here enough times.
Anyway... tomorrow's a new day.
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Listen. It's been shit weather and it's gonna be shit weather for a little bit longer. Hang in there. Wait for a bit of sunshine and see how you feel.
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Same. I only got up to give the floof her medication
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I'm in survival mode.
Lots of assignments to do and one of them is especially not going to plan. Have to change the whole thing and it's due on Friday. Not very growth mindset of me but I don't think I'm cut out for academia. Then there's the whole what do I even do with my useless degree thought spirals. Can't wait to be done with this degree at least. I'm so lucky I get to do a degree but I feel like I've taken it for granted.
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you can do this 🙂👍
see it as a path to somewhere else 🙂 and you get skills for life you can use in many ways
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Thank you Seagoon :)
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Academia is so wild, it takes a certain kind of person to be successful in it. I'm certainly not cut out for it, few are.
Besides, you're still learning new things, the degree isn't a waste at all. I guarantee you've learned transferrable skills and knowledge useful for working in different industries, not just whatever your degree is in.
Whether you pass or fail or whatever the metric is, you still succeeded. You learnt new things, new people, new ideas, new ways of thinking and analysing.
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My sinuses are full of ants with pickaxes
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get those sinus above some steam asap (and stay out of the wind!)
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I made the mistake of going out the front door, my nose has been stinging ever since
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Oh I’m not going outside!
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This weather, it's no longer so cold I have to wear a thick coat. Yay, I can throw out my stupid duffel coat which looks warmer than it actually is. I'll buy a new coat next winter.
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it is once again that point of time when i have had enough sleep and i am hungry and i really should get up because i am about to enter a hungry-tired vicious cycle
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Alright chillos are coming inside.
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My scotch bonnet is probably regretting having put out its baby new growth.
Manzano got pruned a bit earlier and has much larger leaves so I think it'll survive. Everything is parched though, dat vapour pressure gradient is sucking water out like no tomorrow
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baby new growth
! This sparks joy.
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yes! the garden is surprisingly dry
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Here's my cover song set so far:
Where did you sleep last night - leadbelly
little lion man - can't remember their name
Wicked game (I know it's over done but it's a fun one)
And that's it for now. Once I've practiced them this week I'll add 2 more.
Maybe wish you were here by Pink Floyd
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I went to the market at La Trobe Uni this morning for the first time in ages. I now have fruit, veg, eggs, a danish, and fancy crumpets.
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Oh fun, we're escalating to cyclone conditions in the wee hours. Charge your power banks. https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-09-01/victoria-severe-weather-warning-winds/104296628?utm_source=abc_news_app&utm_medium=content_shared&utm_campaign=abc_news_app&utm_content=other
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Awesome. Even though it's been hard to sleep, I'm thankful I'm in an inner city apartment and unlikely to have a tree fall on me. Perhaps I'll have a power outage, though. I hope those who are in the outer suburbs stay safe through the night. 💜
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eee silly abc picture of point lonsdale not port lonsdale.. amateurs *puts nose up.
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This is what I wanted the solar battery for but never finished fixing it :(
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thanks for the warning, I've now put everything outside into safer places
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Nick Cave....mate...I really really tried to like your new album, but I just don't think I'm that emo anymore. Oh maybe I never was - I always appreciated the need for a big angry guitar and howl to pull out of the misery.
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Whilst I can appreciate his musical talent, Nick Cave has always seemed like a self absorbed twat to me. I dont like his vibe so I’m not really into the music.
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Oh yeah he's always been a self absorbed twat - at one point in the late 80s/90s there was just the right mix of musos around in The Bad Seeds to make something of that - I liked the loud crashing angst of that era. But now he's kinda disappeared up his own arse again..
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Ive turned off him since I heard his support for Israel.
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i have completed all imminent online tasks
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Ugh. Pants.
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I'm glad this little piggy's house is made of bricks.
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25/50
An awful lot of "no idea" questions today!
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Haha 35/50 of guess work.
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35 / 50
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40/50 - some lucky guesses.
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50/50
I'll never be this good again 😭
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Congratulations! Professor Higgins.
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Oops U beat me to it.
30/50!
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25/50
I got all of them wrong except number 1 until the cricket one, I got the cricket man and the rest right. Not a great score, but I was expecting a 5, so that made me happy
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35/50, some lucky guesses and a surprising number of ones I actually knew!
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I can hear the maggies carolling
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Taboo musing: it’s easier to win an Olympic medal in paralympics. Ok hear me out, in regular olympics, there are billions of able bodied people and only 1 set of medals per event. But for paralympics, the pool of potential competitors is less and there are many medals per event due to categories. So para athletes have a statistically better chance at being selected and wining a medal.
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The level above "average" of the community that you need to be to get a medal might be lower, but the base level of difficulty they have to start at is much higher. Just navigating day to day life with a disability is a challenge, and the process of travelling overseas to compete would for many be a huge undertaking.
In a lot of ways the method of separating out a lot of categories is fairer at rewarding effort over genetic endowment. We do this somewhat in other sports, like weightlifting or boxing where we have different weight categories. But you can have the most amazing basketball skills in the world, but if you are 5 ft tall you won't be competitive. In reality the pool of potential competitors is restricted to the much smaller group who are really tall. So whilst you can say that the pool of "potential competitors" is every able bodied person, the reality is that the pool is only a small number of people who have the approproate genetic endowment to be in the top group. The narrowing of the selection pool is not as visible as in the paralympics and might be seen as "natural selection" rather than externally imposed, but it is still there.
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Oh I completely agree life is not easy for people with disabilities. The difficulties to just live life, let alone participate in sports, are so much greater. I just meant that if you do, then there’s a smaller pool of people. Also at elite level pretty much all regular sports are body shape dependent not skills dependant to start with. Then if you have the lucky body shape genetics, you can work on skills. Probably part of why I’ve never really liked watching or participating in sport. Height categories in basketball would be a much more inclusive way of running the sport.
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I think you may have a point. I wonder what the funding breakdown is for athletes at the Paralympics vs the regular Olympics.
Maybe you get more funding as well so it's easier to stay focused on your training in the 4 years between
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Truth shouldn't be taboo
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PSA: there’s a severe weather warning for the eastern suburbs for tonight. Stay safe and charge your devices in case power goes out due to fallen trees.
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aw, poor kitty.
I used to trim Allie's fur when she was sick and couldn't look after herself well.
( damn, it still hurts a bit to think of her being so ill 😢)
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Melbcat cleans herself beautifully, it’s just under her chin if she tries to reach down and had tags in the way
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The British journalist in Twisters reminds me so much of another actor and it's driving me crazy trying to remember who. I can picture his face and kind of remember a scene he was in (talking to a woman, convincing her to give him a shot or something, looking bashful and wearing a suit and glasses) but have no idea what it's from!
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He looks like David Hyde Pierce. Niles Crane from Frasier.
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I had suuuch a crush on Niles!
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richard e grant?
john hannah
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Neither of them, but definitely gave me some good movies to watch!!
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Nah, not him. But thanks!
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I'm doing two loads of washing and drying tonight just in case. I got shopping done this arvo. Hopefully the garden survives, I have a tree that sways a lot.
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mother i am not entertained
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TV Review. Walking and Talking by Kathy Burke. amazon
What a seeming simple show until you realise that all the streetscapes are actually sets and that there is strict structure to the narrative
A short autobiographical series by Kathy Burke of her teen years growing up in Islington, the people in her life, the places, her dreams and how she starts on the road to theatre, writing and acting.Each episode opens with her in her bedroom talking about the artistic influences in her life, the music, the movies, the books, ( including Ulysses 😉 ) . All the working class heroes in the arts who inspired her.
And then it's her and her fave mate Mary walking home from school, the people they meet, the places, the little adventures, learning about life.
Nice little cameo as a nun who teaches at her school. They did her up as a man dressed up as a woman dressed as a nun.
4 Hobbits but then I'm biased as I love everything she does
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Why am I wide awake at 5am on Sunday.
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tv review of some old stuff . Hancock's Half Hour. The Blood Donor. 1961.
This is some great writing , the way they can evoke mental images is just amazing and the main character, Tony, is someone we can all relate to.
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Bought a bike from cashies, but can't quite shake the paranoia that it might have been stolen and pawned or something, after taking it home, so that's been a fun damper to the day.
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Shout out to anyone having a shitty day today due to the “family” issues or loss. It’s been hard to avoid.
I totally get this. More places email you asking if you want to opt out of messages around days like father's day. It's good they have that acknowledgement for the people it has bad connotations for
I find mother's day to be tougher than father's day, but unfortunately I've yet to actually see anywhere that has an opt out option for mother's Day, even all the places that email me asking about father's day
Cheers ❤️
That doesn't sound good. Big hugs from here too.
Yeah I've put my family group chat on mute for today because of all the celebratory father's days pics and whatnot and they all full well know what my father is like. Coupled with some other family drama that cropped up, easiest to just mute and move on
I was considering to tell a guy who shouted "happy father's day" repeatedly in a South Melbourne Market stall to shut the fuck up.
❤️🩹 Thanks. You too.
oh no, so many hugs