just some guy @ tophneal @sh.itjust.works

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Oooooooooooooh! Lol ok that's good! Thank you!

Whose face is under the veil?

Thank you for the advice, but My social anxiety doesn't lend well to that honestly. I feel very uncomfortable in groups I don't know and withdraw. I know someone else suggested not going alone to these kinds of things, but I know my friends well. I'd be alone.

Good general advice! I wholeheartedly agree, I know I'd prefer a partner I already know can be a best friend. I fell it helps with much the early relationship anxieties from letting down the masks to be able to truly be yourself, too.

My apologies, I misread your comment. The company being scattered still kinda hinders that, I feel.

Yeah, though I imagine those replying mean well, little to no hope/opportunities I hadn't considered have been inspired. I was prepared for that beforehand though, there's no simple solution to this for us ND. I hope when you return to this thread you find an answer that resonates with you and helps find you a loving partner.

My friends might be more introverted than I am, so that really is out the window for me.

My company is also spread out across the country, so we don't have happy hours. Even if I did want to go that route (I've dated a coworker before and it was a huge mistake/headache) the only coworkers I've met that are single are younger enough than me that I find the idea uncomfortable. I also fucking hate my company as an employer at this point for burning me out and refuse to partake in their after hours activities. I need less of their toxicity in my life.

Heh, not really. I tend to ha e a lot of the same things in common with these people, such as social anxiety. Probably part of why we're able to get along so well. smell our own and all that...

Poly is certainly not in the cards for me, but increasing time with my queer friends sounds like it's certainly worth exploring. Even if they don't have other straight friends, at least I'll still get quality time with good people.

Most bars have pos systems now where they can "assign" you a seat at the bar and run your tab that way, or as I've seen at lots of lower tech bars, you surrender a card and they use your last name to tally the drinks/bill

At best, feefees get hurt. That's it.

Guess I need start getting some indicas

You're getting to sleep? Luuuuucky.

I’m so disappointed there’s not a resin kit to make one of these from another kit

No it was my fault lol I forgot I hadn’t reinstalled TestFlight on this newer phone

The Link to view in TestFlight keeps failing to open. Very unfortunate.

Both track

Oh! Well then I can say from my own experience, Having learned of mine earlier this year, talk talk talk about. Especially with your partner! It can help give you so much levity

I'm no psychologist but recognize some similar feelings I experienced too. Could be undiagnosed PTSD or ADHD. Neither particularly makes relationships easy.

Definitely agree, therapist and a formal diagnosis could be very beneficial to you better understanding you. Godspeed in your journey!

As a cat owner, you’ll never catch my rolls in this blasphemous position. Kitty’s getting misted if he confuses hanging TP as a toy