I think about feminism when I interact with women and I think it's pretty basic decency

Wow, now THAT'S the kind of perspective I was looking for. Incredibly deep and helpful!!

I don't know how to thank you for the time you spent writing it, here's an emoji

It's really really cool to read about your experience, thank you for writing it! I can guarantee that won't be a creep if I get rejected

Aww beautiful story

It’s called an infatuation or limerence. It has nothing to do with patriarchy or feminism lol.

I really thought it would have something to do with r**e culture or something. Like, is there something in our education that pushes us to appropriate women with our throughts and desires without any form of consent? I mean, of course one doesn't have to literally say yes to inhabit your inland empire, but maybe she should at least be part of your life, not just a one-time meeting, so that at least she knows she's got a place in your brain even if she never knows exactly which, see what I mean?

And yeah know women can be obsessive creeps too but it's like everything else, not because they're women they're always at the vanguard of the struggle against patriarchy

Damn that's a harsh experience. Somehow reading this makes me feel better about my situation so massive thanks

NOOOO WHY DID I LOG OFF

Okay I'll consider, thanks for the wisdom comrade

I had no idea this word existed I'm going to DIG this thanks a lot !!

There are no thought crimes.

As a supporter I have to disagree

But seriously I do feel like it's creepy, it's only my subjective experience and I don't necessarily feel guilty about it but I do feel wierd and uncomfortable

You shouldn't go into the thing actually expecting anything to happen and the amount you are thinking about that might not be completely healthy.

Couldn't agree more, I'm trying to work on this right now

hell I do this with people I see on the TV that I'll never meet irl.

Parasocial crushes really are something I can relate

I mean, kinda? Like, having a crush on a classmate is typical school experience, and even if you don't interact much with them you're in the same room on a day to day basis. Also having a crush on a friend of a friend you spent some time with is totally normal.

My point is, when you have an actual relationship growing it's totally alright to start having romantic feelings if the person is attractive to you. But getting sick with love with someone I just met once kind of rubs me the wrong way

Patriarchal society do be romanticising actual obsession though. Lots of love stories are about obsessional creeps getting what they look for and they lived happily ever after

And I don't think I'm obsessed, it's still just a crush. I'm paniked by the fact that maybe it's not good to have a crush after having so few interactions with somebody but maybe that's just me

Understood

Okay yeah I can't argue with that, I guess I just needed to hear it because it feels really obvious now

And it sucks how much baggage gets put on you because of the awful, sexist society that we live in. But you don't have to own it all either.

Very well put. I really don't want to play the violin like "waaaah it's hard being forced into the oppressor's role when you're a nice little leftist!!!" but I'm happy to see people relate

I might have terminal romantic brain

I'd understand if I was an inexperienced teen but that's not the case. I had multiple, long, healthy relationships, and I still can't handle a crush ffs

Okay you're absolutely right. In fact thanks for reminding me that I've had a crush on one of my current best friend, as you can see I had forgotten it happened!