Kelly Aster 🏳️‍⚧️ @ kellyaster @lemmy.world

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For starters, Lemmy -- which uses open source ActivityPub protocols -- is decentralized and comprised of thousands of independently-run servers, so it's theoretically impossible to take down Lemmy completely. If lemmy.world goes down today and never comes back, the "Lemmy" network will still be online because of the other servers like lemmy.zip and sh.itjust.works that use Lemmy server software (which is currently at version .19 or around there).

Worth nothing: Lemmy is part of the Fediverse, which is an umbrella term to describe all ActivityPub software types. Yes, other software packages also use ActivityPub protocols to communicate... for example, Kbin (the "main" site is kbin.social, it's sorta like their lemmy.world) is a news aggregator like Lemmy and interacts with Lemmy almost seamlessly. There's also Mastodon, a Twitter-like service that currently Kbin users can interact with (but not Lemmy).

In short: it's kinda complex at the moment, and many parts of the Fediverse (which Lemmy belongs to) don't interact with each other directly because they provide different services, but it's important to note that it's really hard to take it down completely because the Fediverse is independently owned and run by different people in different parts of the world. Contrast with Reddit, a service that does have many servers but is owned and run by a single company in America.

Edit: I was wrong, Mastodon users can post on Lemmy instances, but Lemmy users can't post on Mastodon instances. Thanks Baku@aussie.zone for the info!

I'm curious about lemmy.world server upgrades. How do you test something like this? Do you upgrade a private staging server and run scripts that simulate user interaction at scale, or is it more like "fuck it, v.73.9.0.367.12.42.0.9 looks safe enough, just deploy it on production"? I'm trying to think of how you would handle any kind of maintenence for something as massive as lemmy.world, and it makes my brain hurt. Frick.

Best of luck with the upgrade tomorrow, gang!

Lol that's a blast from the past. Unfortunately the site has SSL issues, so it's a hard pass for me.

Thank you! Glad you like them!

I know, right? It's pretty hilarious

Lol

I feel like Adam Driver would be a good Stonn.

Howdy! My own egg cracked just a few months ago, so a lot of this is sooo familiar. Definitely yes, like Ada said, what you're feeling is perfectly okay and normal! I have no advice to give other than to remember to be kind to yourself.

Wow, I've never heard of her before. What a story! Thank you for sharing that, IninewCrow. I'm gonna go look her up.

One story about her that always struck a cord with me and with every motorcycle rider is that her internal struggles and issues with her identity is what drove her to become that maniacal motorcycle racer when she was younger. She couldn’t make sense of the world so riding a two wheeled machine fast enough was what made the world liveable for her. It amazes me when I think about that every time I ride.

That is something that resonates with me, I totally get it. I'm still having some "aha" moments here and there and putting things in my own life into perspective, but yes, I can totally see how her identity issues pushed her to be that legendary maniac rider. Wow, man. Like, it's different for everybody, but the feeling that something is off usually manifests as an emotion (anger? fear?) and gets channeled somewhere. For Michelle Duff, it was the bike. For me, it's way too late at night and I'm high and it's been kind of an emotionally tasking night. Suffice it to say it does help me frame and understand some parts of my crazy youth.

And uhhh HELLO you are essentially going through puberty, a major life change, AND doing heavy duty therapy work all at the same time!

Uggh I know, I have to keep reminding myself that there is a lot going on, especially my poor brain's hormonal struggles. Arrgh this is awful, kinda hilarious, but awful.

Grab a stuffed animal, soft blanket and your favorite snacks.

HAhah wait, side note...I have been getting the munchies lately like never before. Is this a thing?

Ok sorry, I see so many trans women at my job and all I think and feel when I see them is how happy I am that they are finally going to feel at home in their own bodies and living their truth! And I just want to make them feel as supported as possible. I’m not concerned or thinking about if they are passing. Oh but I do so badly want to give them fashion advice sometimes , lucky you got your wife!! Obviously I get carried away with this. Idk fellt cute, might delete later.

Whoops I hit reply by accident a little early. I just wanted to say thank you, I read everything you said and it means so much to me, so thank you, asteriskeverything! hug

omg I'm an emotional mess. And I'm high. It has been a good time reading all these replies, especially yours. I feel so supported. Thank you again ❤️

Thank you, NegativeNull, I hope you and the rest of the crew understand how much this means to....well, everyone here, really. I think everyone here wants to be accepted, even the occasional weirdass troll, and we do see the efforts to keep the atmosphere just right. It's just perfect for a Trek community, which for some reason seems to be impossible for most other Trek communities to maintain, and a top-tier meme shitposting one, to top it off? There's no place like this anywhere. Thank you again

thank you jawa I will

WndyLady, thank you for sharing. That was not something I was aware of. It does help to feel not alone, thank you so much for that. internet hug

Sometimes confidence breeds confidence. I do my best to practice it until it becomes internalized and “exuded.”

Thank you, this is good advice. Practice makes...permanent, right?

Thank you, oillut! Hug I do hear the good days get more frequent as time goes on. It's something we gotta be mindful of as we tough it out. Just gotta keep pushing forward not matter what.

Oh and I agree about Rom!

Thank you gregorum. I hear you, we're not quite there yet. Yes, we're still waaay off the mark when it comes to acceptance and tolerance and just plain treating others who are different with a bit of decency; in a lot of ways, it feels like we've gone backwards lately. I've often said that as a whole, humanity is gonna have to grow the fuck up if it's ever going to reach the stars and try to live in sort of utopian world. I have hope, but man, it is gonna be a tough one to pull off.

Yeah, we have some challenges ahead. That's why it's so important to hold on to those ideals. Omg I am so high. ❤️ Thank you so much for your kind words.

Thank you thezeesystem, I'm glad to hear it does get better. I mean, I would assume it does, but...now that I think about it, I've never actually been told that by anyone! So thank you for that ❤️

Yeah, I know how you feel as I have those days as well, they are really overwhelming, and sometimes I don’t even have the energy to get rid of my fecking beard stubble; I HATE them. And then the next day it looks and feels even worse.

Ugh I hear you. Yeah, I have to stay on top of it because it sure does suck if you wait a day! And it does require energy... it can be incredibly physically painful if you're trying to shave really close, and on top of that it can be emotionally exhausting too.

Thank you, Stamets. Hug That hope for a better future is always something that will stick with me, it's always been the best part of Trek.

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