dohpaz42 @ dohpaz42 @lemmy.world

Just a guy wandering aimlessly through this world.

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If you want to go the extra mile, you could put alt text in the square braces. But in the end, it’ll render like this:

Unfortunately my ex couldn’t breastfeed. It was just too painful for her. So she would pump and/or we would use formula. I would give her breaks by putting the kids to bed so she could have time to herself to decompress. Every night I would fall asleep with them in my arms. Best freaking memories I have are sleeping with my kids when they were young.

Oh man, it’s the best feeling in the world when your kid picks you.

My kids are 10 and 12, and we still have a bedtime routine where I lay with them for a few minutes (sometimes we chat about nothing and everything). My 12 yo has anxiety that manifests as fear of the dark, so I spend a little extra time with him. He seems mostly over it now; sometimes he’ll tell me he doesn’t want me to lay with him (I can’t help but feel pride when he does, because I know that means he’s not scared to be alone).

Anyway, all of that to say that it’s the best feeling in the world, and I hope you have many more years with your daughter at bedtime to hang out and bond.

Thank you. I have to admit that the emotion dump in my email, and probably also this post, seems to have made a huge improvement to my day today. I got so much stuff done, and I had only planned on doing a couple things.

Once I started, I just didn’t want to stop. It felt good. I’d like to think the universe threw me a bone today. I don’t care; I’ll gladly accept the charity if I can have more days like today.

I did make a goal for myself this week. Last year, my kids got me this really cool 5-piece canvas art of Zelda BOTW. I finally started making the frames for them today, and I want to have them done and hung before they get back from the beach on Saturday. I’ve already got two of the five frames made, so I think I can tackle the rest in time.

Also, this was extremely well written. Have you written much before? I think you should explore that in some way because you clearly have the talent for it.

Thank you. Ironically, language arts was my worst subject in school. But I do my best. Funny enough, I did want to write a book when I was a kid. It would’ve probably ended up being similar to Aliens. But, it never happened. Your comment had me half considering writing one now; it would be different than when I was a kid, but I have a few ideas.

I've been through some bad break ups myself, but I haven't had a relationship last more than 4 years. Typically they've ended when my partner cheats. I've come close to giving up on them entirely but I still have a small spark of hope that there's someone trustworthy out there.

I’ve been there too. My ex was my longest relationship (~15 years total: 1 dating, 1 engaged, and about two weeks shy of 13 years married). Before that, my longest relationship was just shy of three years, and she cheated on me too.

I too suffer from Chronic Hope Syndrome. I think that’s where most of my frustration comes from. I grew up in the 80s, and learned about relationships via TV and movies (breakfast club, better off dead, the two Corey’s). It’s a process to unlearn all that bullshit propaganda, but with days like today it seems a little more possible (dare I say, hopeful).

I appreciate you making this community; I also appreciate your encouragement. I warn you that I will probably be using this community a lot more going forward; I’ll do my best to balance out the negative with some positives.

Thank you again. 🙏

Not all heroes wear capes. Some just open PRs. Thank you for your service. 🫡

On the iPhone I just long-press the dash and get alternates like en and em dash, as well as middot. Otherwise, no esoteric button presses. Works on macOS and iPad too.

Only with the right inverter, else you risk a fire hazard.

Screw it. You get an upvote!

All of the search engines I’ve used do this and it is infuriating. If my search returns little or no results, then so be it. Don’t populate my results with bullshit you thought I meant; you’ll almost always get it wrong. I didn’t mind the “did you mean”; it was a suggestion, and a choice that I could decide if I wanted or not. Now they just cram results down my throat, whether I want them or not.

I miss the early 2000s Internet.

I get that. And for the most part, I’m right there with you. But I also believe that there are some things that don’t need to be learned the hard way. And personally, I’m kinda sick of learning everything the hard way. Sometimes people just need a bone.

I can’t help you with stressing about the money. I’d be right there with you if I were in your shoes. But let me point something out I think you’ve overlooked: you completed the first item on your todo list;

1. Make a list of all the shit I need to do.

So congrats! You did something today. 😁

Ironically, it sometimes feels like people react this way when you try to be nice.

I’ll take “or die” thank you.

Poor Robert Singer didn’t even get an honorable mention, considering it was the same actor from SPN, with the same name and one-liners (balls and idjit).

does this count? 🤣

I would tell them. Because I’d want someone to tell me before I do something extremely stupid that is also extremely expensive.

Now if they decide not to listen, then I’ll grab the popcorn. At least then my conscience would be clear.

🤣

How’d it go?

Despite my executive disfunction, I find enjoyment in doing household chores; more so than I do with my job.

Plus, everything piling up over the week is what I find stressful. So I try very, very hard to do at least one thing a day, every day. At least that way, no matter how bad my executive disfunction gets, I can at least say I’ve done something.

Today my goals are;

1. Take my dog to the park and walk around for a bit.
2. Start cleaning up and see what it’ll take to fix my garage.

That’s it. If I end up doing more, then that’s icing on the cake. But at the very least, I want to be able to close my eyes tonight with some satisfaction.

_{I know this is shitposting, but this gives me the excuse to verbalize my intentions and have the universe hold me accountable. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.}

I have a couple of friends but only one of them reached out to me when my ex left me. He was the one taking initiative and picked me up, took me for a drive in his car and we just talked.

I had a friend like that once. We lived on opposite sides of town from each other, and I didn’t have a working car at the time. But that never stopped him from coming to get me anytime I needed to get out of my house and away from my drama. He’d even let me crash on his couch for as long as I needed.

Anyway, I just wanted to lament on your comment, and agree with you how important someone like that can be for you; especially in a time of need.

🤞