Oh, I would like to clarify I could see from the very beginning that the intention behind your message was ensuring this community was a safe space for people who had to escape from harmful ideologies.

I feel ashamed of existing and I struggle with socializing because of past experiences, not your messages. In the first message, you were trying to defend others. In the second message, you told me the problem behind the word.

However, due to my difficulties fitting in and experiencing breakdowns everytime I try socializing, I have to accept once again that it's best for me to step back.

Again, it's nobody's fault. Thank you all and have a good weekend.

Hello, I apologize for not realizing about the problems around the use of the term 'female', thanks for explaining.

Yesterday, I just learnt about Feminine autism after a neuropsychologist mentioned it to me. He said 'feminine', because of the gender-cultured reasons contributing to underdiagnosis in women and LGBTIQ individuals too.

That's the reason I am doing my best to understand by reading in communities as r/AutismInWomen, and noticing the need for safe spaces due to issues with the male autistic community.

Still, I just would like to note that some individuals new to minority-based communities may be new to the language on itself and have this double struggle with social interactions leading to "double exclusion" in certain situations, e.g. in the LGBTIQ+ community.

I promise my intentions are not bad, but I can struggle for hours to communicate a simple idea effectively and still do an epic fail. Sorry.

sorry, could you explain? is it about the polemic semantic weight in the word 'female'?

i feel "non-binary/fluid" most of the time but i didn't socialize enough to use some words correctly.

oh, you mean like Barnum Effect? (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barnum_effect)

i don't know what is normal anymore... i always thought i was neurotypical, common, but i got BPD diagnosed, bullied, stigmatised because of these 'completely normal human things'. yesterday i was told it could be a feminine Aspie.

sorry... i'm ashamed, but it's just my fault, i couldn't understand. thanks for your comment.

now it's zero, though for me your ratio is positive. have a good day C:

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i still don't know if i'm autistic, so i'm just lurking around. but i upvoted you. you seem a good person, let's make that minus symbol disappear ^^

it's a bit hypocritical that big companies complain about piracy when they are no better than Blackbeard, xxx-sama and Akainu combined.

i mean, they have hijacked the system so they can set the rules, their lawyers are law crackers, they take advantages of artists to buy their copyright for pennies and making millions of it, they scam us with DLC's, fees, dark patterns; they steal our private info, images, text creations, etc. to sell it or use it for AI development; and they also limit our access to the internet and technology by banning third party apps, modding, using anything related to their patents...

sorry but if i was a law enforcer, they would be the first ones i would chase after.

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i'm starting too think being rich is symptom of a mental illness in many cases.

that's so nice, pal! and yes, it's totally understandable to feel saddened and angry at spez for doing that (i feel the very same), but we can compile that content here, and welcome their original posters to Lemmy when they feel ready. what it's worrying is the hateful comments about redditors, calling them names. i think some people is becoming radicalised, and they feel 'superior' in some way to other users. i don't think that 'cyber snobism' will help Lemmy in any way, but that's just my opinion. thanks ^^

yea, spez is a piece of garbage, and he did all this for money. and it's sad to see Reddit worsen so much, as it was sad to see Twitter become the same. still, spez enshittified what nice users made nice before. if we support that kind of users, i'm sure we can even surpass the awesomeness Reddit once had. because awesomeness is not Reddit's, it's the internet's. no matter where it is, if we support, it will bloom.

well said. it's not about quantity, it's about quality. and spez enshittified Reddit because of greed, we shouldn't be greedy ourselves, or Lemmy will get enshittified too. i would like to slowly make it cozy and happy here, we shouldn't be competing against Reddit, because Lemmy is something different.

any nice user is welcome, please don't make them feel guilty for being on Reddit too. we will slowly make a nice transition so people have the option to being their stuff here if they want, which is what we need. no rupturism, please. i think we should be welcoming, not warmongering. this was made for users, not against spez. it's totally different.

spez can go and screw himself, i prefer to appreciate those who do good than to mourn about those who do wrong. don't waste energies on destructivity, spend them on constructivity.

don't compare to Reddit, compare to Lemmy on July, to Lemmy now, to what Lemmy could be if we work together. don't get anxious about growing. focus on 'growing nice' instead of 'growing more'.

we will make it. for sure. and it will be great.

have a nice day.

edit: i realize the 'not against spez' could have been worded better. what i try to say is that i prefer to focus my energies on nice people than bad people. i suffered already a lot bc of bad people and i prefer to spend my life supporting nice folks. sorry for the confusion.

i am hopeful still. and i prefer this to be quieter and hence, safer, honestly. personally, i am not an active user because i'm the type of person that feels shame just for existing, but internet is helping me socialize. still not to the point of having something useful to say without wanting to delete it immediatly, but when i see these posts, i automatically get strenght to give my support. i am not able to maintain a community, be a mod, i don't know how to code, i just can post supportive messages or be a helpful user adding resources and so. but i should be doing more, yep. i am ashamed of posting, but not contributing probably would be more shameful haha sorry people... hehe

that's horrible, pal, i'm so sorry :'( how is she doing now, if you want to share?

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masochistic self-kink shaming? i'll take it!

what if i feel a sadistic kink about king shaming others' kinks? my kink should be respected then, right? evil laugh