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  • Putting off finding an apartment because it’s overwhelming. The only things I can find within my price range are for 55+ communities (so I’m not eligible.) Yet, the idea of random roommates gives me paralyzing panic. I have no idea what I’m going to do.

  • We know why they do it. That doesn't make it any less inappropriate. These guys don't care who they make uncomfortable in their quest for validation. It's like a kid that throws a fit to gain attention, uncaring about who they might hurt in the process. Except unlike a developing child, these men should be mature enough to know better.

  • As far as having a personality and sense of empathy? Absolutely. I also like knowing that people love me for who I am, rather than because I'd have money.

    But to not have to worry about affording the roof over my head would be pretty nice.

  • In our one-bedroom apartments that we still struggle to afford. Not sure how we'll be able to take care of them full time when we're also still working full time.

    And people think we can afford to save for our own retirements. Lol.

  • At today’s prices, a family would need to earn $126,700 a year to afford monthly payments on an average home purchased in 2024, up from $79,300 annually in 2021, according to a report from the Harvard Joint Center for Housing Studies.

    We are so screwed.

  • At first it seemed wild to me that you weren’t taught it, but now that I’m thinking about it, I don’t know where I learned about it from. I might have learned it in a high school class, but I came out as an atheist at that time and did a lot of research on my own, so I’m not sure.

    It doesn’t seem like something that should be esoteric, but something that should be taught alongside other educational and civil rights battles and milestones.

  • Just another reminder that there is no war but class war. The rich and powerful will try to split us by whatever arbitrary division they can, but the differences we have between each other are nothing compared to the differences between all of us and the ultra rich.

  • Agreed. The way people act today makes everything before seem purely performative. I’m not terribly surprised that certain family members drank the kool-aid, but to know what became of the same people who held me on the day of my baptism is scary.

  • I’d like to second getting involved with a group. I found a volunteer organization that’s independent of the government (legally, 100% volunteer-funded) that focuses on directly helping the lowest paid workers. I spend time learning, teaching, reaching out to people who either might need help or want to provide help, and doing miscellaneous things around the center to keep it going (like typing up paperwork.) Small things here and there add up, and even though the world is still burning, at the very least I can see the difference when somebody gets food for their family or their power returned after a shut-off. I feel a little bit better at the end of the day knowing I helped somebody.

  • I thought of a quick mental pace, frequently jumping from thought to thought, inevitably going off on tangents. That's what I interpreted from the line about being "smarter and faster." However, having that quickness translated into "smartness" is far from the only way for it to manifest.

    You may have a quick mental pace, but it doesn't help you find solutions - it just repeatedly pulls you into depression or anxiety by effortlessly connecting negative thoughts to literally anything that crosses your mind. Or you have quick thoughts, but struggle to track back to things from earlier on - leading to a feedback loop of distraction that makes conversations, movies, and sometimes even your own ideas, very difficult to follow.

    Side note: I feel like if I lived in a pre-literate society, I'd be far more disabled than today. I don't know how I'd function if I weren't able to write down my thoughts, or read (and re-read) information. The written word provides a structure and direction that the spoken word and abstract thoughts don't have. I may be seen as "smarter" in the modern world, but someone like me from the ancient past would've been at a massive disadvantage.

  • Honestly, I’d rather be single than be with someone who demands more from me than I can comfortably give them. It’s been years since I dated someone neurotypical.

    Both my partners are on the spectrum and we have a comfortable balance. The fact that nobody gets offended over bullshit like “tone of voice” goes a long way, too - we all have difficulty regulating that. We know it’s related to our energy levels, not to our emotions.

    With that said, I hope whatever happens works out for you. I know it’s a painful experience to find such an incompatibility between yourself and a person you love.

  • It’s never enough. I wish I could test my limits and see, but even after a week alone I still crave more time to myself.

    I did have an epiphany when I realized that spending time with my partner felt the same as spending time alone (which is a good thing.) Probably because he’s a natural loner just like me, so unlike most people, he doesn’t needlessly waste my social energy on inane things like small talk.

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