Seigest @ Seigest @lemmy.ca

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I wish you the best with getting your diagnosis. I absolutely dreaded the sleep studies. They were always scheduled on work nights, and I’d get almost no sleep. Then they'd kick me out at 6 a.m., and I’d end up stumbling back to my office since it was closer than going home.

Thankfully, my next one is on a weekend, so at least I can go straight home afterward.

When I get those strong, sudden urges to sleep and can’t actually fall asleep, I feel awful. Even worse, I can get irritable with the people around me. So, at least in my experience, the sleep issues came first. And the more I’ve done to address them, the better I’ve felt overall.

Good to know. My friends mention the same things though I don't have that problem as often these days but I wonder if this is the common thing that nerodivergent people face and the cause of sleep issues.

Fyi routine and meditation helped with me, the Finch app is great for keeping me on track.

I'm hoping that will be the case this time. The one I had was the best one available given my insurance policy at the time. I'm hoping there is more options then what was available 10 years ago.

Interesting, I know that can have an effect on migraines as well. I should ask my doctors about that.

My friends have their reasons, but most of them are either unemployed or working part-time. I was in a similar situation when I was younger.

Now that I’m working full-time in a 9-to-5 kind of job, I’ve realized I just can’t do what I used to. I try to resist taking naps, but sometimes the urge to sleep comes on so suddenly and strongly that fighting it actually gives me migraines and causes mental distress. I think that’s the narcolepsy at play.

May I ask what kind of sleep issues? Have your doctor said anything like apnea, or narcolepsy, or did they just say it's a mental health thing?

Not sure if this will help but here's my take.

I'm 38 and ace, and I was in a very similar place. Over time, my close friends found their partners, and I ended up feeling even more alone.

I believed I had to earn a healthy relationship. I thought I needed to get physically fit, pay off my debt, and become "worthy" enough. Thankfully, I found a good therapist who helped me step away from that mindset. Personal goals are valuable, but the truth was that I would probably never feel good enough if I kept tying my worth to achievements.

At the same time, I was in an aro-ace relationship with someone who was financially abusing me. That situation was a major factor holding me back.

In the end, the root of many of my struggles was self-hate. It took about a year of therapy to start correcting that. I’m still working on self-compassion, as well as my financial and physical well-being. But I’m now dating someone in a similar situation, and I’m genuinely happy.

So if you’re open to advice, here’s mine: focus on building self-compassion. You deserve happiness. You deserve to be loved.

Compassion is love. Have compassion for all, it's a better way to live.

They are looking at their watch.

How people think I use AI "Please write my essay and cite your sources."

How I use it
"please make my autistic word slop that I wrote already into something readable for the nerotypical folk, use simple words, make it tonally neutral. stop using emdashes, headers, and list and don't mess with the quotes"

I'm probably losing it but, Is that?...

I mean not the same character clearly but its oddly similar, right?

Yhea

I whouln't replace the existing PC cooling or connect the air pump directly to it. Just something to suck out the hot air behind it. Even just a vent on the desk above the area might work.

For free? I doubt it.

In Queens park no less. I'd have figured the city would scare off a lot of birds.

New ones or classics like Jazz Jackrabbit, you could also include things like bugs Bunny crazy castle and Looney tunes adventures.

Honestly, I'd have so many more if I could afford them.i got some for my friends as well ADHD bunny, ADHD bat, anxiety bunny. They're all great.

It evens out. We just have to cut all social services and healthcare in order to afford maintaining the roads. Many will die as a result but that's just less lanes to maintain. It's brilliant.

"just 1 more lane bro, I promise it'll fix traffic"

Just don't give ducks the smoke leaf.