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Lol I knew before entering this thread that the only comment just had to be a lame insult from a .ml account.

I mean most of the European languages do the same with mostly ancient Greek and Latin.

That makes sense, if you're preparing for fighting in urban or mountainous environments. The columns heading for kyiv and other cities all had this iirc. But for the columns entering from the east it doesn't make much sense, Ukraine's lowlands are extremely flat environments where the only threats from above are airstrikes, javelins and drones.

But it being derived from the experiences in chechnya makes sense, kinda like the west went for IED and mine proof, tall APCs and MRAP vehicles during the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq, which are equally obsolete in a battlefield like Ukraine.

The reflection of their heads is on the outside of the glass, so their head has to be trough a hole in the glass I suppose

Especially in the 'we smoke more than we breathe' era I'd say the word is explosive.

And immediately admitting he was wrong about it not being torture.

For real. My father was a gynecologist and always said - "I need their file to remember their names, why would I remember their genitals?"

And from a business standpoint it would be very bad practice to talk about that stuff, if it comes out people are less likely to trust you.

Huh, maybe they are just some sort of fucked up cat.

"Interesting, may I see?" And when they hold their wrist up to you, inspect it closely, then lick it, make some faces like a wine connoisseur, shake your head and say :"It's fake" turn around and disengage.

A body at rest requires more energy to reach a given speed than one already in motion.

Ausgesprochen fröhlich sogar!

Can't imagine living with the side chick during the divorce

I did, but it was my mom who betrayed my dad, we lived with her boyfriend for some time. But like I mentioned, my dad was an emotionally distant, almost cold alcoholic, who spent his time drinking alone or working instead of caring for his family. So I get that she had needs that weren't fulfilled. Of course I was mad with her for some time but after some time I understood what moved her, as a child I didn't really realize how our dad left us alone in that time.

Could my mom have made better decisions? Absolutely, she could've just divorced him.

Does my dad share blame for distancing himself from his family, years before the infidelity? Also yes.

Did I like living with my mom's side piece? Hell no, I didn't like that guy.

In the end it turned out alright, my dad got sober and through therapy learned to have meaningful relationships with his children and partners. My mom is married to another man, who I love dearly, even my father had an okay relationship with him.

All I'm trying to say is that human relationships are complicated, things like this betrayal don't always happen in a vacuum. I mean sometimes they do, but we don't know that here.

Hey, that person isn't a good role model and did something absolutly deplorable. I want you to understand that this not a way to act and that these actions are very hurtful and demeaning to me and our family.

These actions now do have consequences, which is why I am divorcing him. I hope you will understand that I can not reconcile the betrayal and that actions like this will always hurt people and have harsh consequences.

But I understand that this person is your father and your relationship to him is important to you so I will try to make peace with that, in order to not hurt you any more than has already been done.

Seems also like a reasonable thing to say to your child. You know, not instrumentalizing your child to hurt the partner that betrayed you. Seems selfish to me, but what do I know.

But I should've know better than to expect healthy nuance from an online discussion anyways.

Edit: I got a little combative there, which was unnecessary

It's not that hard of a concept to understand. In the described scenario both did something wrong, which is why I said, that both are partially wrong (regarding the described problem).

He is wrong for betraying his family and she is wrong for trying to pull the child into their dispute by making them choose sides.

So OP posted this, not only because his dad cheated and not only because his mom is trying to make them choose, but because of BOTH those things happening.

Hmn, funktioniert ja auch blendend. Zusätzlich zur staatlichen Pension den alternden Arsch noch etwas im Vorstand von der Bahn oder so parken, um noch das ein oder andere Milliönchen auf das Privatkonto wandern zu lassen.

Honestly from what we know, which is next to nothing, both parents here are in the wrong partially.

But as someone else already said here, humans and their relationships are super complex and from just a little paragraph we shouldn't judge either of them too harshly.

For example, my mom cheated on my dad, but we children stayed with her and understood her actions, because our dad was an emotionally unavailable alcoholic at that time. He turned himself around in the years following, becoming a better father. Both my parents made grave mistakes during their marriage and both shared blame in the breaking apart of our family and both, over time, accepted their part in it.

Life is not that easy, for none of us, everybody makes mistakes.

Maybe read your own point 2 again...

Well he was pretty much forgotten and deemed irrelevant for centuries until we accidentally stumbled over his grave and learned who he was.

D.h. du findest unnötig schwere und/oder unhandlich designte Flaschen noch viel schlimmer als ich, oder was möchtest du mir damit sagen?

Nein, ich möchte sagen, dass mit der richtigen Handhabung und etwas übung das Gewicht und die Größe der Flasche nicht so wichtig sind.

Gerade beim auf barlöffel gießen würde ich immer zum Ausgießer greifen, macht das ganze leichter zu regulieren.

Old fashioned usw sind gerührte cocktails, bei denen ist die "Stille" Zutat das Wasser, welches beim rühren aus dem Eis in den drink kommt, weswegen man auch üblicherweise die angeschmolzenen Eiswürfel nach dem rühren ersetzt.

Wenn man genau nach Rezept geht sind ca 60 Sekunden rühren die richtige Wassermenge, wenn man etwas zu viel oder zu wenig von einer Zutat hineingetan hat, kann man das ganz gut über die "Rührdauer" regulieren. Natürlich nur wenn es wirklich um den ml Bereich geht und wenn das Verhältnis der restlichen Zutaten halbwegs hinhaut.

Gilt ähnlich für cocktails aus dem shaker, wo man mit der Dauer und auch der Intensität des shakens die Wassermenge reguliert die sich im drink löst.

Btw. Als kleine Idee -wenn du es parat hast und dich das etwas höhere Preisschild nicht abschreckt - im improved old fashioned den Cointreau mit Grand Marnier ersetzen.

Der grand Marnier ist auch ein triple sec/Curacao, aber auf cognac Basis, ist im old fashioned ganz interessant. Aber das nur als Anregung.

Edit: umfüllen in handlichere Flaschen ist ne gute Idee, wir haben einige Sirupe selbst hergestellt und diese in 0,5l Flaschen gehabt, aber auch da, gerade kleine Mengen immer mit ausgießer. Bei Spirituosen immer gut verschließbare Flaschen mit Dichtung nehmen, der Alkohol dünstet sonst ab mit der Zeit.