Friendly suggestion to anyone reading this that many of your favorite artists are on SoundCloud and other platforms: it costs nothing to send them a message to say you love their music.
Direct platforms like bandcamp also make it feel so good to know most of every dollar is heading their way.
Some of the happiest people I've met in life are hermits who live on islands or in the vast empty spaces. Most of them were happy to share their story and listen to mine. You realize at some point that they never wanted to escape the people as much as the web that is the society that tangles it all together.
Finding a place is finding a place, whatever and whoever speaks to you: Da kine is da kine is da kine.
Yeah quite a bit: gaming and going to bars and shows. I felt like I got pretty close to the people I worked with, not unprofessionally or party animal but just an ear and a shoulder.
Yeah I think they gave me a lot to chew on and I really need to think about them too, I've probably been pretty blinded by my emotions and I have to navigate that.
I've been trying to separate my life between linkedin and actual social/messengers and that made me feel weirdly better just.....not seeing a few names on my regular sites/programs. I don't like that it made me feel better but it did.
That's fair the survivor's guilt is probably real. I think I've been really stuck in my own head about my feelings and situation I've been struggling with that understanding.
I think I need to think about this. Thank you for your perspective.
I like to think I'm somewhat aware emotionally but have a lot of unanswered messages that are hard to look at and just make me doubt my feelings. I'm lucky to have a few good friends, I know that it's more than a lot of people have so I'm thankful to have them and my family: it still just stings since it was for so long and you think you know who you're talking to.
I hope you find something near you that makes you feel the brief moment that is life to appreciate it outside its habitat. The darkness we can live in can make you strong enough to lift the crust to see the light in our moments of strength: of all people those in darkness are most fit to appreciate it and understand its absence from ourselves. I wish you as many moments as you can muster, brilliant you, as you are.
It's good to hear some people having a reasonable experience. When I moved to a new city I didn't know anyone so I used Tinder to go on as many dates as possible and it was honestly nice getting out and meeting people I otherwise wouldn't have at places I certainly did not know. Some weird stories mixed in but what is life without a few.
What is tinder like these days if you don't mind divulging? I met my wife on Tinder (~2015) and while I'm ever-grateful I've heard horror stories from my friends about what it's become.
Laid off in June and I loathe this advice - "find an 'in' ". I don't know what it's like to have an 'in' and everyone that says they have something for me dematerializes the moment it's viable. I wish you all the luck in the world my friend.
I just wanted someone to be with for a bit to feel less lonely. Idk what a slice is anymore I guess.