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My (20F) colleague (60sF) is a workplace bully, what do I do?
  • Honestly, I work really hard, and any of my colleagues would vouch for it, but I assure you she's constantly complaining about me and others since I get pulled aside for what I feel are very unreasonable complaints which only she would notice (on a busy closing shift I forgot to restock the milk in the fridge near the coffee machine once, the milk was literally in the second fridge in the kitchen and would have taken her 3 seconds to restock herself, instead she immediately complains. Even though openers are in half an hour before open and restocking is supposed to be an as you notice it thing, it isn't specific to closing duties)

  • My (20F) colleague (60sF) is a workplace bully, what do I do?
  • She always eats pieces of halloumi cheese off of the salads, which is also an expensive ingredient, while enforcing the ban on staff meals so no one can ask for theirs before she leaves. Super hypocritical because she will do what she wants when it suits her like eat the stock but if she sees anyone asking the chef for food or eating kitchen food without paying she goes directly to management. Meanwhile the chef knows how much food we have and there's always waste (they refuse to order less) and the staff meals come out to pennies so it's just an annoying situation where we have to sneak around her while also biting our tongue about her behaviour

  • Will I ever be seen as truly British?
  • Definitely relate to not quite fitting in with either culture! I'm grateful for the perspective my heritage has given me on national identity and how I view different customs as a whole, because I think it has made me more understanding of others. But I definitely feel most understood myself when with other people who are dual identity, no matter what those identities are - there are definitely common threads we all share, from trying to fit in and camouflage to the dissonance we feel when considering what it would be like to move back to our country of origin

  • Will I ever be seen as truly British?
  • Maybe because they're both island nations with an isolationist culture, but there are definitely parallels to be drawn between the treatment foreigners get in the UK and in Japan. Growing up, being Polish was the identity others assigned to me and how they identified me and the main way in which I was described, and people make a lot of assumptions about me based on it. I used to get asked if I was Jewish a lot growing up because I have pretty stereotypically Slavic features, for example, and one time a teacher described me as "sallow skinned" after seeing I have an ethnic name on the school register.

  • Will I ever be seen as truly British?

    My family immigrated to the UK from Poland when I was six. I'm 20 now, speak much better English than Polish and feel like this is my land/culture. However I have a Polish first and last name, Polish passport and "unique" accent everyone picks up on, so despite this I'm usually perceived as an outsider. It makes me really sad because I don't "belong" in Poland anymore either. Everything seems so complicated especially as I've gotten older with having to get the right documentation for work and opening a bank account and etc also.... Not even sure if I can vote in the next general election even though I feel like I should be able to?

    I've had a few nasty instances of being told to go back to my own country, even had a conker thrown at my head while a boy yelled Polski at me in year 11, and tbh even just been seen as a novelty and being asked to say something in Polish has gotten really old. I guess I'm just wondering if I'll ever truly fit in. For some context, I grew up in North England and now live in Wales

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    My (20F) colleague (60sF) is a workplace bully, what do I do?
  • It's awful. She calls me "flower" and refers to workers she can boss about as "good girls" yet pretends she's the only one who actually works in the place. Wow I needed that vent

    Honestly not sure how I'd be able to prove anything so far as reporting goes

  • My (20F) colleague (60sF) is a workplace bully, what do I do?

    This is a job at a casual dining establishment. My colleague is driving me nuts but there seems to be no recourse for it. UK btw

    Let's call my colleague Sarah. Sarah is a salaried worker while most of the others are zero contract but she's technically not above us in any way, just acts like it. Here are some of the things she's done just recently:

    -Left me by myself during the lunch rush while another colleague was on a break to manage FOH to go on a half hour smoke break. I was literally having to run from the pass to take out food to diners, back to the till, and making coffees at the same time, with a massive queue. She comes back for ten minutes then disappears somewhere again once the other colleague is back. Smoke breaks aren't a part of her contract

    -Leaves 15-20 min early every day but reported me for arriving 5 minutes late

    -Reported me for not saying good morning to her happily enough

    -Eats off of customers plates BEFORE they go out

    -Signs off on things she didn't actually do on the task sheet, but told others to do

    She's very two faced, and gossips with everyone about everyone else. And is very friendly with the manager and constantly reporting back to them. Everyone is waiting for her to leave the entire shift since she only ever opens, yet she expects everything to always be perfect when she comes in when there's 10x more things to do on a close than when she opens as we are often busy until the very last minute

    Honestly, she is making me dread coming into work, but the spot I'm stuck in at the moment for uni has very few students jobs and I desperately need the money. Is there anything I can do or am I just fucked?

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    What happens to those who are severely disabled while in prison?

    For some reason began going down a rabbit hole thinking about this. Let's say you are blind, and reliant on a guide dog, but end up in prison for a non-violent crime like possession of illegal drugs. Are you allowed to keep the dog? No, right? But if you are entirely reliant on the guide dog to perform daily tasks, how do you manage in prison? What about people who are seriously disabled in other respects, like wheelchair users or those missing limbs, or those with serious mental disabilities? I'm asking for answers both from countries that actually treat prisoners like humans and the US

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    How do people actually dumpster dive to get free food? Are there any other cheap/free ways like this to get food?

    My local food bank can only provide 8 packages with referrals every time before you run out, and I have, but my situation hasn't improved financially due to various set backs and I'm struggling to feed myself. I've heard that supermarkets throw out massive amounts, but have never been in a position where dumpster diving seemed feasible. People who do it, what time of day do you do it and how do you find good spots? UK resident for ref

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    [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
  • I would be totally fine with them drawing their lines wherever if they let other people do the same, but many vegans will take the stance that consuming animal products or meat is always wrong, and never justified, no matter what. Many vegans actually would disagree that it is justified to eat animal products if a doctor recommended it, they'd say there are no nutrients found within those products which can't be found in plants. They'd also be against eating gifted non-vegan food, many are against feeding cats a nonvegan diet too

  • [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
  • Found it interesting to discover that the money here in the UK is made from animal parts - I think certain notes contain tallow? Definitely seems like it is impossible to fully exclude animal products from your daily life unless you go off the grid and try to be an entirely self sufficient vegan homesteader, which, while extremely difficult and likely dangerous is still an option open to those preaching a vegan lifestyle. Vegans often do not actually practise their philosophy as far as is practical and possible, they all draw the line somewhere so far as how willing they are to sacrifice their comfort and convenience. Like there are no fully vegan cars - the glue is animal based, even if you opt out of a leather interior. Public transport or taking a job you can walk to are alternatives in the UK if you actually cared about benefitting from animals as little as possible, but few vegans will make sacrifices which are actually inconvenient once you get down to the nitty gritty

    Imo being a vegan so far as diet and basic lifestyle changes goes is fairly easy for some people (they don't really like meat to begin with, know how to cook and enjoy it, no real health issues, disposable income) but the real test of how much they actually believe in these ideas is in if they consistently give up more niche forms of animal exploitation wherever they can

  • [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
  • Maybe so. I typically will provide something like falafel/bhaji/spiced chickpeas with hummus in a wrap, but in situations I've helped with event planning for, there has always been a significant proportion of the party who are either religious vegetarians or have other dietary restrictions. If veganism isn't as common where you are, you wouldn't think about it I suppose

  • [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
  • That's interesting, I suppose meat being so culturally important would definitely make substitutes feel essential, and if they're so much more expensive veganism can quickly feel like a privileged stance

  • [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
  • I can see why not having vegan options at gatherings is frustrating, tbh. For the same reason not having halal or kosher options is also frustrating if you are going to invite guests with those restrictions. Providing a decent vegan option is easy and nonvegans can also eat it, plus you can easily make it a catch-all option for gf folk as well. I wouldn't throw a fuss about it, or post about it online, but I always try to make sure there's a vegan option when bringing snacks in for the kids at school for example (I'm a highschool teacher) so everyone can participate

  • [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
  • By vegan stuff do you mean things like meat replacements? My diet is mostly vegetarian, for the same reasons as you stated, and honestly I see zero appeal in things like Beyond products, but I also think they're totally unnecessary. When I've done Veganuary in the past, I tend to eat a lot of whole foods (tofu, legumes, beans, fruit and veg) and here in the UK that is cheaper than eating meat. But, I know the economic model for the US is quite different so I wouldn't be surprised if things like chicken were cheaper than tofu or Seitan

  • [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?
  • I think there's nothing wrong with explaining your ideas and why you believe them to those willing to listen, but I can see why pushy activism for any cause can get annoying quickly. There are often Jehovah's witnesses outside my local supermarket, for example, but they only give you a pamphlet if you specifically approach them

  • [Serious] Why do so many people seem to hate veganism?

    Seen a lot of posts on Lemmy with vegan-adjacent sentiments but the comments are typically very critical of vegan ideas, even when they don't come from vegans themselves. Why is this topic in particular so polarising on the internet? Especially since unlike politics for example, it seems like people don't really get upset by it IRL

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    What did you get told as a child that you realised was a lie as you got older?
  • Similarly I used to think cows just produced milk for us naturally and we had to milk them or they'd explode when I was a kid. Boy was I in for a shock when I realised what mammals are and that cows need to be pregnant to lactate like any other

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