When dating, "Just be confident" is just bad advice if you ask me.
When dating, "Just be confident" is just bad advice if you ask me.
"Being confident" is dangerously close to straight up bothering people. Plus it only really works if you're good looking.
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Of you're bothering someone it's not because you're confident, it's because you're socially inept.
I say this as someone who was very socially inept for a long time, and today I'd say I'm just not as socially "ept" as some people I admire or as I'd like to be.
Socially "ept" people are first interested in others, not in their own ideas or goals first. Or at least they're damn good at focusing on the needs of others first. I've worked for some people who are incredible at this. Some actually care about other people, others are good at giving people what they need, to get what they want, yet you still walk away feeling good. (That's a very interesting experience).
(Is "ept" a word? I haven't looked up the etymology of "inept" yet).
I don't believe "ept" is a word, the antonym of "inept" is "adept".
I like ept. It reminds me of whelmed.
Hey, I gave up being a language prescriptivist; use it if it makes sense to you! Ain't no one got time to quibble about that shit if what you say makes sense anyway.
I can see it being the midground - inept is bad, adept is good, "ept" is just... "well I guess they don't suck at it", lol
Hahaha, I like it! Gonna start using it... See if I can make it catch on!
Thanks!
I didn't really think it was, just being funny when I couldn't find the word I wanted.
Heading off to etymonline now...
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