for real, I'm pro trans rights and I still sometimes accidentally deadname Elliot Page because I have dyscalculia. if you ban me for that aren't you being ableist?
also yes context is very important.
if I say "when Caitlyn went by the name [X], and she used [Y] pronoun, [Z] thing happened to [Y]", I assume I will still get banned for deadnaming even though I'm innocently adding clarity to a conversation.
to make things worse, if someone is trans and gender fluid, and I call them by a name or pronoun they used last time I knew about them, now I've committed a crime of which I had no knowledge.
this blanket condemnation of deadnaming is just dumb. it requires nuance.
I'm cis, so am happy to be corrected. But deadnaming is using the name of a trans person they no longer go by. This is sometimes done accidentally as people are getting used to the new identity of their relatives or friends, but is also done intentionally to deny trans people their identity and insist they use the name and pronouns they were assigned at birth. In the context of Caitlyn Jenner, people will sometimes deadname as an insult and insist they only do it in this specific case because Caitlyn is not a very good person. But using a person's deadname in this way is still insulting to trans people, as it weaponizes their identity and implies they should only be respected if they conform to certain societal expectations.
See? They're just gonna turn this place into reddit no matter what. lemmy's gonna end up just as shitty as that. Petty fascists ruining everything. Fuck off with this stupidity. And the fact that this is posted with unironic intention is absolutely stunning, honestly it does read like an Onion headline so i guess kudos for that but like, what are you even doing having power here, missing so fundamental a point as this? its just embarrassing... The Onion itself would fire you
My gay uncle is a Log Cabin, Reagan Republican who has almost fully embraced MAGA.
Including saying Ukraine was asking for Russia to come... and that Finland is actively provoking Russia so they should deal with that... while our family literally has Finnish friends, in Finland. Like we literally have first hand real world knowledge from Finnish citizens, not filtered through any news media, and he just ignores it in favor of the MAGA shit.
I mean this with all respect as a fellow human who has to deal with such bullshit from those we assume deserve respect and continued deference: it's not remarkable, and the sooner we stop remarking on it, the sooner they go back to yelling at their own backyards.
Giving these fuckclowns a mic (or more to the point, caring one wit they found one) is perpetuating the illusion of legitimacy of whatever "argument" they're regurgitating at the moment. Just, simply: stop. 🤷🏼♀️
Also, take care of yourself. They won't. But, you should. ♥️
So someone made up a rumor that this Sophia person was dating Jenner. Sophia publicly and transphobically denied this. Sophia is a known member of a transphobic group associated with the Republican party.
Who the fuck started this weird ass rumor? Why are we talking about this? How is this news at all?
They're not really "their own people". When you have a pool of hundreds of millions of people to pick from, it's easy enough to find someone who is willing to sell out their race, gender or sexuality for 15 minutes of fame, only to be second against the wall when the fascists they've enabled take power.
No, she just never bothered to learn anything about other trans people, attempted to speak for all of us, managed to get the media on board about that for a few months, and has spent the following 8 years being criticized by us for her republicanism and refusal to understand the realities of being a trans person who isn’t stupid rich.
Did anyone watch the video? It's like she's trying so hard to say "eew transgender am I right? Eww I totally don't like transgenders...eeww...please like me conservatives"
Yep, her being an asshole has nothing to do with her being trans. In my experience, most people who are assholes are not trans and most people who are trans are not assholes. She happens to be both, but only one is worth calling out.
will it become cool if i make a single pop-hit set of books that many people will base their life around, because it's the only media their parents let them consume as children?