Boyfriend strange behaviour
Boyfriend strange behaviour
Hi!
I'm dating an amazing guy. He's very sweet and caring. He's kind of a quiet guy.
We started dating after a friend of his brought me a note he wanted to give me (but then threw away because he was indecisive) that said how much he loved me.
I took it and invited him over to my place. At first he was afraid to touch me and I took the initiative. Lately, he has become more active in this respect and is no longer afraid to just come up and hug me.
Everything would be very good, but I can't understand one thing. Why does he always shake when we hug? I've asked him about it, but he keeps silent or blushes or says "I'm sorry". I'm very worried about him and his health. Take him to doctor?
We've been together for 3 months. 2nd year of university. Same age.
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Hes fine and your making him a better person. He just is inexperienced. You have to realize that women can get experience almost anytime they want but not so with men and it may have changed but inexperienced women tend to go more with aggressive men (till they learn better). So its much harder for quiet, shy type guys to get the experience they need to be more forward. Its the same for quiet, shy girls but again they will not have a problem finding guys taking the initiative for them.
women can get experience anytime they want but not so with men...
What in the incel talking point hell are you on mate? Can we not generalize an entire gender and paint their sexuality and sexual proclivities with such a broad brush?
It's certainly not true among all people, but there is a sizable group of guys who Just. Can't. Get. A. Girlfriend. No. Matter. What. There are certainly some girls in this boat, but because most guys are really horny, this group is smaller as announcing you want intimacy as a girl is nearly guaranteed to get you messages from horny guys.
Its a generalization so it does not apply to all but it does stand up in general. There were no creepy women trying to take advantage of me sexually or others like me that were relatively of the same age group but there were tons of guys all set to for women. I even knew some. Heck I was friends with this guy but stopped hanging around him when he jumped on his sisters friend the moment she turned 18. Now its possible my experience is not typical of greater society but I really think it was. At least for the time period I was in. Again though its not an entire gender its a predominance of memebers of a particular sex to behave in a particular way. The real slimy guys where not the majority but they did have sex sooner and more often. A lot of it was just perseverance. If you don't care about looking like an Ahole you can just run the numbers.
I just love how incels think creepy people trying to prey on children is the kids "getting sexual experience." STFU with that nonsense.
so it sounds like you think I had something about age difference from your reply despite I went out of my way to point out people of the same age group. I actually did that because creepy older folk, even women, was not unheard of.
So it's okay to be a creepy predator if your prey is a similar age? You definitely focused on the wrong thing there.
Not to me. Being creepy is being creepy. As I said I just could not handle the one friend. Don't get me wrong him going after her was not itself wrong but he did it just for the sexual relationship and did not care about her at all but she thought it was an full relationship. It was as I said creepy in the sense it made my skin crawl. There are all sorts of levels. I have known many men with the marrying kind attitude. That was not so bad that I did not want to hang with them anymore but man such a stupid thing. Every time I looked at them I pretty much saw their future. Having casual sex and some great relationships and then marrying a girl who maintained viriginity into their upper twenties and then later cheating on their wife because the sex is not where they want it to be at and getting divorced. I have at this point in life seen it happen. Fact is if you can't be honest about how you are with a relationships or relationships in general with the person you are having a relationship with then you are asking for trouble. Heck I get my wife mad sometimes because of my honesty but you know what. She is with me because of my honesty.