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  • Reminds me of how in middle school girls at dances would ask me to dance and I would always assume it was a joke and reject. But my mom was like "it was probably serious the first couple times... then you made it a joke." At my final dance at that school before I was going to move a girl did the bit and I said yes because it was my last dance there and she freaked out and ran away. But my friends were like "hey come on its his last dance here" and she agreed, tehn I put my hands in the wrong place and she ran again, then she came back committed to do it and I was like "naaaaah" at that point because I was to embarassed.

    ALSO at the first dance I went to at my NEW school a girl asked, not as a joke, and I just said no because I was used to it, and one of her dude friends came over and was like "what the fuck man you just denied yourself some pussy!". This was eighth grade.

  • I just wish that gaydar was a thing or homophobia wasn't a thing. The ambiguity of lgbt subtext in conversation is so hard to navigate and it's risky if you're not sure the other person is interested or not.

    I'd love to have specific and direct language, but I know it's a big ask outside of dedicated safe spaces.

    • I feel like all the subtle hints and indirect flirting is just kind of boring and counter-intuitive. If you're into someone just come out and say it. There's so many chances to miss the signals even if both people are NT which can end up in a missed connection. It seems like it's almost a special interest for some NT people and it's totally the opposite for me.