Its Pride month! What are some subtle signs someone is anti lgbt?
Many anti lgbt people are careful with what they say, and don't say or do anything overtly anti. What are some subtle signs?
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The “I just don’t understand…” crowd. I have yet to meet anyone who legitimately did not understand why a person would want to be called their preferred name, or why someone would want to marry who they love. It seems to just be a way to feel out if the person they’re talking to is amenable to list to their “discomfort” with whichever group they are referring to.
That's a really good point, everyone understands "It's Vicky not Victoria" so pronouns aren't hard to grasp
they insist on using the archaic "he" as a generic pronoun instead of the much more inclusive singular they
I think it also is a generational thing. I have have had many friends of various sexualities throughout my 4+ decades on this earth. The pronoun thing is just harder to stick in my brain. One of my colleagues is my first acquaintance who uses they/them. I have the utmost respect for them but took me about a year before using their preferred pronoun came naturally to me. Just hard to rewire old neurons sometimes.
A big one is avoidance and awkwardness. It can just be not being used to, or scared of saying the wrong things eg not understanding pronouns. However, it can be a sign that we're a pariah to them, or their silent v sign.
Laughing is another one. Laughing at the idea of gay sex, finding transphobic jokes hilarious and things like that are subtle signs. Why are LGBT a joke?
There's loads of things, but IME those are the biggest.
Awkwardness & anxiety could really just be awkwardness & anxiety.
Yes absolutely I agree
Ill list a few telling signs:
That in 2025, they're still obsessed with the idea of a person who is offended by differing opinions and wants to ban them, not recognizing the irony.
Sometimes open discussion might be useful, but with where the world is at, this is usually code for the person not liking gay or trans people, women, or minorities and wants to be able to say slurs openly without consequence.
honestly, anytime someone is wearing a cross or mentions they are Christian or religious, I assume they are unsafe and likely have some kind of bigoted views. To be fair, I think most people are bigoted to some extent, we can hardly escape the acculturation that comes from growing up and living in a society that has heteronormativity baked into it.
I know for sure that not all Christians or religious folks are anti-LGBT+, but where I live it's fairly predictive that if someone is religious they're also more likely to be conservative and have reactionary views on topics like science (e.g. more likely to be creationists, anti-vaxxers, etc.), gay rights, trans rights, etc.
My trick is to ask to play a few songs on their phone on YouTube. You can learn a TON by someone's homepage and recommended videos