Personally I think it's easier to spot and counter when you know it's an actual thing and are on the lookout for it.

Deny

Attack

Reverse Victim and Offender

https://www.salon.com/2021/12/27/the-conservative-urge-to-be-a-victim-why-right-wing-victimhood-is-spreading-so-fast/

https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2021/2/4/2013907/-Great-acronym-Republicans-are-now-the-DARVO-party

https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/35543/the-darvo-pattern-narcissists-use-when-you-call-them-out/

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