The worst part of ADHD (IMO)
The worst part of ADHD (IMO)
The impulsivity is bad, wasted so much money and time. The hyperfocus, when on the wrong task, has cost me hours in that day. The poor planning / time management has landed me in a world of hurt more times than I care to admit. The low tolerance for distractions / hot temper has caused me to hurt those whom I love most in this world. The inability to properly direct my focus on a task has caused me to lose sight of, and therefore miss, deadlines.
That's all bad.
But the worst part for me? The part that doctors don't seem to even attempt to address (except for direct symptom management, which barely work)? Emotional mirroring. If you're depressed and I'm with you, guess what happens to me? Today sucked. Depression is an unrelenting bitch, and I hate her with every fiber of my being.
Good old emotional dysregulation... Everything you feel, feels stronger and harder to control.
Bundle that with vitamin D levels getting wonky during the winter for a long of people; and you've got one hell of a shitty emotional rollercoaster.
For those curious vitamin D is really important for emotions, it gets low and the shit hits the fan real quick. Especially for those of us who already have issues with emotional regulation.
Make sure your vitamin D levels are where they should be folks, it has a massive impact on your mental health
Waitā¦ youāre telling me emotional mirroring is an ADHD thing all this time?? I thought I just kind of had it. Didnāt know it was related to ADHD.
Emotional mirrorring in general is something all humans experience. What is often linked to adhd are emotional regulation issues, so maybe we could experience mirrored emotions in a different intensity than someone without a simmiliar condition.
That makes sense. I do tend to take on peopleās moods pretty quickly and strongly. I thought it was just me ābeing sensitiveā but this has me rethinking thingsā¦
Came to ask the same ... I've spoke to others about this we've just talked it up to being more hardwired for empathy in a certain way.
First I've heard this is an ADHD or even ND thing (I'm not diagnosed or anything BTW).
For me, this rings very true. Like to the point that it's one of my main difficulties with dealing with people. For being productive, I need either severe loneliness or a tight group of the "right people" all on the same wavelength. Otherwise I'm absorbing others' moods and even habits and outlooks.
Exactly, I thought it was an empathy thing, but if itās an ADHD thing thatās interesting.
And yeah I feel the same about the work space. Hell I work from home most of the time, but Iām always texting one of my coworkers to talk about various things. Iāve noticed the past year or two that heās really got a chip on his shoulder, and talks shit about some of our coworkers heās frustrated with. So I end up going along with it more often than not, but Iāve been realizing i donāt ALWAYS feel the same way about these people, and that his mood often bums me out. Itās one of many reasons Iām trying to find a new job.
My doctor said it was a symptom of some forms of ADHD. She said an official name for it, but I don't remember it. She described it as 'emotional mirroring', and it made so much sense. I've been dealing with it for years, thinking it was normal for everyone. At least I know I do this now, and can try to regulate. Just couldn't seem to be able to yesterday.
6 weeks into weight training minimalism. Push Day Pull Day Split 4-6 days per week 20 minutes per day (NO MORE!) Iām just beginning to see cognitive differences from this. Iām adding this to walking everywhere I can. Building in time to walk to work related appointments forces me to 1. Leave Early. 2. Have time with my thoughts and just barf a scramble of never ending brain shit alone but while moving. I walk about 4 miles every day. Iām losing weight too, which is nice but not even close to the priority. Iām just suggesting find a way to move more or lift heavy stuff itās not removing my ADHD but itās putting something in my life cycle that modulates it
Whats emotional mirroring?
Russel Barkley has a few videos on emotional self regulation.
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Just the amount of it is basically just from normal empathy. But being able to regulate it is the bitch
Fr. The doctor that diagnosed me gave me Prozac for depression, but nothing for the ADHD problems, which are the main cause of my stress and likely the source of my depression. I had said I wanted to treat that first, but he didn't care. The Prozac didn't even help anything. It just made me unable to get an erection.
SSRIs are far too over prescribed. There I said it.
Yesterday basically jailed myself into my room to implement 2 programs into my software stack.
5h of researvh and then I got distracted for a bit.