AVIGNON, France - A court on Thursday sentenced a French man to the maximum term of 20 years in jail for committing and orchestrating the mass rapes of his now former wife, Gisele Pelicot, with dozens of strangers he recruited online.
I dated a woman who badly wanted me to roleplay raping her. I knew I could never get into it, and if that's what she wants she should be able to have it I guess, so I broke up with her instead.
I dated one of those long-distance once and it was really fucking weird. We would have phone sex and she would want me to talk about myself raping her. I tried it once or twice and I was so bad at it that she stopped asking me to phone rape her. Last I checked she moved across the country to probably get fake-raped by another internet boyfriend of hers.
If you dictate such a profound life decision based on some bizarre cause célèbre, you are overreacting. If you just make reactionary comments on the Internet, sure, carry on.
“okay but women not wanting to date men is just overreacting” - a sentiment we see even here on fucking Lemmy.
We've dodged a lot of the usual garbage from Reddit over here, but that one definitely stuck around. The only negative comments I've received on any of my lemmy accounts are guys furious when you point out men are more violent partners. Like they just cannot admit that as a society the 'boys will be boys' mentality was used to allow a lot of awful behaviours like rape. Hell, Revenge of The Nerds has a rape scene in it and people only recently started to speak out against it.
So, sorry for the downvotes, but at least we all know it's a bunch of insecure men. Maybe they'll learn, maybe they won't, but you have allies here in the mean time.
"okay but women not wanting to date men is just overreacting" - a sentiment we see even here on fucking Lemmy.
I was thinking it really wasn't that bad on here as you described, but I just read some other comments under this post and I was dead wrong. Disappointing.
EDIT: The other comments seem to have been removed
1 in 5 women in the US are raped at some point in their lives. It's not misandry to avoid men when there's a 20% chance you'll be raped. That's just good sense.
Unhappy with that? Work to create a safer society for women, instead of trolling a post about a woman who was raped hundreds of times by fifty different men.
What an absurdly bad faith argument to make. I assume you're trying to get me to write several paragraphs explaining why it's so damn stupid just so you can reply with a one word gatcha or something.
I'll take your pivot to a well known misleading and unrelated statistic with no comparable qualities aside from both being a statistic as admittance that you have no counter-argument.
Personally, I have raped exactly the number of women in my life that I have wanted to. 0.
Just because you are a man, it does not automatically make you untrustworthy, but it is prudent to exercise caution with all people in general—we are unpredictable apes.
yeah I have since amended to really just people in general. Another thing people need to remember is that unfortunately people tend to be screwed by the people closest to them. We are a sad little species.
We are a normal species. It is not unusual for animals to pick on the weak—just look at how many mammals eat the runt of the litter.
The lesson, I believe, is to take your own protection seriously, and not underestimate the potential of people around you due to familiarity. Hope for the best, be prepared for the worst.