One side being “less shitty” in this case is essentially comparing a stubbed toe to brain cancer. Sure, no one wants either, but if you’re told that you’re getting one or the other- no one with any common sense is picking cancer. And no- not choosing isn’t an option. If you chose neither, one is chosen for you….
Because that is how voting works.
So no… They’re demonstrably NOT the same. You know this. EVERONE knows this. And your attempt to simplify them both down to one example so you can equate in this way illustrates the bad faith nature of this type of ideology.