Men of Lemmy: serious question, would you have a romantic relationship with a radfem?

I prefer to judge people after I've met them.

Would I have a relationship with someone who's only defining personality trait is that? No.

Me ta bounia :)

Maybe it would match if you are an radfem, too. Feminism doesn't mean you are a woman and support woman things.

Feminism is also about supporting equality in our society. That could be men, too.

I can't imagine myself in a relationship with someone who identifies with any ideology so strongly they define themselves as that.

How radical are we talking? I might have an issue with "eliminating all men" radical, but I'm good with "Michelangelo is a party dude" kind of radical.

https://youtu.be/0qBlPa-9v_M#t=36s

I have no clue with a radfem is. Don't be a weirdo

Radical femminist
- Yes. Those are words, but what exactly are you talking about. Many different philosophies could fly that banner.

Nah. Never stick your dingdong in crazy. I did that 7 times already. I know I’d do it an 8th time as well.

Crazy is so good in bed though. You just need an escape plan and a go bag. And wrap that fucker up because you never ever ever want to breed crazy.
Well, maybe an 8th, but DEFINITELY NOT A 9TH!
Dingdong wants what dingdong wants. Don’t deny your primal instincts.

You might not wanna hear this:

Depends on your definition of radfem and on how well we fit and how they are

if we don't match, nah
if their vibe is completely off to the point I'm not sure I'll be alive after that week, nah
if their beliefs get in the way of a relationship, nah

Otherwise sure I guess? This a really vague question so if you are more specific, I could get you a better answer.

As a seperate top-level answer: no, would not pursue a romantic relationship with a woman who repeats sexist assertions about men. Because i am both a man and a feminist, and my several decades of happy married life have taught me that compatability of strongly held beliefs is a key to romantic happiness.

I would also not encourage the young men and women i know to either espouse sexist positoons or pursue potential partners who hold such beliefs. And i would probably also ramble for a bit about how all labels are imperfect and you should not necessarily dismiss someone just becsuse of a label.

If you want to date someone who describes themselves as a "radical feminist", a date might be a good way to discern if they are an "all men are evil" feminist or a "men are awesome and also victims of the patriarchy" feminist.

What definition of radfem are you referring to?

Radical femminist
- You're probably gonna have to be more specific.
  
  Radical feminist can refer to:
  
  A hardcore feminist who goes to every rally and protest, donates money to things like planned parenthood and so on. - probably a cool person, but might have their head up their ass. However, their heart is probably in the right place regardless of their personality.
  
  A misandrist. Fake feminist who hates men and believes men are the source of the world's problems. - almost certainly an asshole and should be avoided.
  
  A terf, aka "trans-exclusionary radical feminist". Also a fake feminist. They don't believe trans women are women and seek to exclude them. - asshole, avoid at all costs; tend to call themselves "gender critical" because the real feminists got tired of their bullshit and started kicking them out.
- Yes and what exactly is a radical feminist to you