I Love You, Let’s Stalk Each Other
I Love You, Let’s Stalk Each Other
To a generation who grew up alongside the internet, location-sharing feels less like a privacy threat and more like an expression of affection.
Holy hell naw, mate. I'm about the same age as the 1st person cited in the article, and what she does is beyond creepy. Screw that shit. If you need to know where someone is, just ask them, ffs
Nope. Nope. Nope.
I know couples that do this. And they get in so many little fights about... everything related to this. Not cute fights either, where they end up laughing. Serious "we're breaking up and getting a divorce" fights.
Maybe I'm too old for this sort of thing. It sounds manipulative. I mean, if my partner were to ask to do this, and I said "no," wouldn't that open the door to some wildly speculative series of questions? And then we would know our locations...and what happens if it turns off? Or one of us forgets our phone? More fights over nothing. Or worse: Remember Courtney Clenney? One of the fights that lead to a murder was about location sharing.
I feel if a couple is facing issues with this, the couple has other issues and this is just the catalyst. If you have a normal, healthy relationship, why would this cause any issues? It is just a convenience/safety thing.
Right? My wife and I can check each other's locations, but we only use it if the other person has been gone longer than expected, and that's just to make sure they're okay.
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I share my location with my wife. I can see what time she'll be home when she's leaving work. She gets to see which ditch I crashed my motorcycle into.
Same. It’s a pain to try and phone each other when we’re so busy or one is in a noisy place. We can see when the other is nearly home and get the oven heated up and some hot tea ready.
Is this accurate? I don't know any young people in my family who wouldn't find it creepy to be cyberstalked
I share my location with all my friends and family. I looked at my sister’s (21 yo) snap map and there were at least 300 people sharing their locations all over the word.
Snapchat has the snap map feature where you can see the location of others who share it and I have seen so many people who have it enabled for ALL their Snapchat friends, while also accepting pretty much anyone as a friend. Scary shit
My nieces and nephews convinced me to get Snapchat, and it was fun entertaining them with the funny filters for about a week, but I noped out of that feature first thing. I ended up deleting the app after the novelty wore off for them because it also sent a ton of promotions, and even though I don't think it could see my contacts with the settings I had, it seemed like the type of app that would abruptly opt me into things without warning.
Also, even with just basic notifications enabled, it managed to send me ads and promotions every week.
I really dislike Snapchat lol
I mean if you trust the person to which you share is fine...I mean is just your location, plus usually is not that precise to begin with.
I cannot opinate on non family relationship but on family I personally use it and all of us use it.
The risk of course if somehow they fuck it up and a third party or a worker can see it and use the information for nefarious uses it's the problem and I understand why somebody would not use this.
But in my case it wouldn't be an issue, even if targeted which I doubt I would be, the locations where I could be would be pretty know already due other data available, like shipping info, where I work etc. Of course if I am hiding from somebody that's another topic but not the case. Or if somebody wants to steal from my home if I am not there or something but there are simpler ways....
I've never been convinced by the "Why worry about privacy if you have nothing to hide?" argument. It seems to me privacy is a virtue worth protecting in and of itself. I always think about the bathroom door argument. I want to shit in peace. No, I can't explain to you exactly why, but on some level the ability to do that has value in and of itself. I don't need someone breaking down the door and then demanding I explain myself, and telling me things like "it's not an issue" or "it's not like somebody wants to steal from your home."
Example: I love my husband, but I don't need to take out my phone and check if he's on his way home, or had to take the long way around because of roadwork, or had a bad day and has stopped by the dispensary. There's no way that's not creepy to me, sorry. Conversely, he doesn't need to know that I've been struggling with money lately, so I stopped by Walmart for those pretty flowers.
Also consider that by sharing your location data, you are sharing your data with a nefarious third party who is using that data for things like targeted advertising, and likely with state agencies that may not have your best interests in mind.
While I'm aware there is no way to be truly private online, I do believe this community is about people who are concerned about this and are not just rolling over while the attacks on our privacy advance. I am especially invested in privacy as a LGBT+ person whose country is rapidly descending into fascism. I am invested as a feminist who cares about women's rights to their own bodily autonomy and healthcare. I am invested as a transgender ally who wants trans kids and adults to receive the acceptance and care that they need. Even if I didn't personally feel invested in matters of privacy (I do), I would hope that I'd pursue the trend nevertheless for the well-being of others.
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