The "Neurodivergent Gaze"? by Ember Green
The "Neurodivergent Gaze"? by Ember Green
A really good video that gets into the whole ridiculousness of autistic/'aspie' supremacy and having a us vs them mentality around NTs vs NDs, and how doing so causes harm especially because then the assumption is that all NTs and all NDs are the same, which is factually incorrect.
I’m about halfway through the video, and I agree with basically all of it so far.
Something I experience is that when I shower and wear my normal comfy clothes (which are 100% permanent press/spandex blend fabrics and thus look nicer, higher end, etc, but aren’t - I shop primarily at thrift stores and still wear stuff from middle school which was 24 years ago) people always tell me how nice and fancy I look. And the only response I really have is “oh, thanks, umm, well I showered today and my clothes are clean, that’s probably it”, simply because that’s my normal clothing so I see nothing overly fancy about it.
It’s not fancy or conforming to the male/neurotypical gaze or whatever nonsense, it just meets my specific clothing requirements (stretchy, soft, loose around arms/lower legs, loose collar like a v-neck or tank top), but because people tend to associate that look with business casual, they think I’m dressed up.
I wonder how often people judge me for that.. probably less than when I had colored hair (which I liked doing but was really uncomfortable to go out in public with), but more than if I could stand to wear jeans and cotton t-shirts.