Fellow Men, what are some compliments you would like to recieve?
Fellow Men, what are some compliments you would like to recieve?
I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don't feel like anyone notices.
So I'm going to try and compliment people who:
Have really well done and unique tattoos
Are older but super athletic (It's harder and more thankless, since when you're young and athletic you're usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)
Have super sharp outfits
Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)
what are other good compliments we should give each other?
EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I'll try to throw out a "looks like you're cooking up some good stuff"
Anything. Literally anything. The only time I get noticed is when someone needs something from me. I define my existence by how useful I am to others because that's the only time I've ever felt wanted. I hate it, but it's better than being completely ignored (which has happened many times in my life).
Genuine compliments on personality are always cool. Like, "you're good at making people feel comfortable around you" or whatever. People often wonder what role they play in social situations, being told they're doing good is nice. At least I appreciate it whenever it happens.
I love your small pp and body odor
"That's an interesting thought!"
"This (thing I worked on) looks great!"
"I respect the choices you're making here."
It's enough to compliment them on whatever is new. New shoes, new haircut, new shirt, new tattoo, etc.
Complimenting another guy's physique is a bit weird I think unless you're trying to date them or are someone who works on their body as well.
As an older guy who recently got into shape (and am definitely not an introvert) it always comes across a bit weird to me when someone who is out of shape mentions it.
As a hetero male, of course I'm happy when any women mentions it, but it actually feels better when someone who is in better shape mentions it (probably because I'm married and a women's comment, while nice, isn't actionable but someone who is in better shape knows the work it took to get here).
None, i genuinely cannot handle beeing complimented
My bro changes literally anything, they get a "Nice, bro."
Any will do tbh, but when my jokes are appreciated is the best. I love making people laugh.
A simple "Hey! Good work today!" with a thumbs up is really all it takes from a random passerby or coworker.
I've been growing out my beard recently. Similar to women with long hair, maintaining a beard can be a lot of work. Typically, if I see someone else with an epic beard, I try to acknowledge it. Clearly they care about it.
Also, when I see a dad out with a young child alone, if they are trying at all, I will try to acknowledge it. I feel like most dads are in a situation where they are uncertain about what they are doing. Let me know that they are friggin' nailing it.
Good job at getting out bed this morning.
Anything.
About 15-20 years ago I was at a mall by myself. A girl several years younger than me was pulling a friend behind her giggling as she ran up to me and said "HI! , I just wanted you to know that you're really pretty!" and then ran off. Her friend was yelling how she couldn't believe she actually approached me.
I've always know I've had softer features but I've never been complimented by a girl in my life at that point. The opposite had definitely happened a number of times.
I think about that positive interaction at least once a week.
So, the answer is, anything. As long as it's genuine.
You look good bald. It works on you.