Chat, is it creepy to have a totally unjustified crush
I'm not sure I should start this conversation and I've been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists
Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)
Now my brain is fried
I'm thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can't imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.
I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that's beyond the point) guy, I'm trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can't remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.
oh, it can develop into something pathological for sure. i think if you find yourself crushing hard on someone that can be super cute and fun but also its good to understand how limerence can develop and can become a problem so like if you understand it then you can be aware and avoid falling into that trap
its one of those uncommon things that is common enough that you might know someone who has experienced it to a pathological or harmful manner but also you are just as likely as to not
i know of someone who destroyed their partnership over limerence and the other person never ever really returned the sentiment but they could not stop obsessing over this person and it got kinda stalkerish and they ended up in counseling it was a mess