I'll never vote for a Liberal candidate again for as long as I live, regardless of ABC. I don't give a fuck what the threat is. They're effectively Democrats. Fundamentally worthless from soul to spine.
I've been abusing the fuck out of Steelwind Strike, added by another mod that adds in 5e spells. That and disintegrate. Now. Combine that with sorcerer. Because if the wizard slots all stack up like that to level 35... what do you think happens to metamagic?
No... I see what they're talking about. The bottom right image is a resting model face. That's not a normal resting face for anyone, it's a face photographers specifically request for model shoots.
Roll over. Do nothing. Accept that your wife is an addict and doesn't care enough about you to even try to quit smoking when you've made it an issue.
Pester her to quit.
Ask for couples therapy.
Seperate/Divorce
Those are literally your only options. You do nothing or you do something. In either case, you've got to address it if you want to do anything about it.
We really do have a great relationship otherwise
Do you? You said that you wouldn't have married a smoker and you still refuse to. She is relying on a crutch that is killing her and causing harm to your own health. You've asked her to do something about it. She won't. This isn't like her passtime is knitting or something. It's a money sink that is detrimental to the health of everyone involved and everyone around it. She's more willing to poison herself than even consider quitting. Is it really a great relationship if someone isn't willing to change to protect themselves, their health and your health?
She spent 5 years without attempting to make headway on something that is disgusting, makes the area smell disgusting, makes her smell disgusting, will stain skin and teeth, harms her and reduces her life span, harms her partner and reduces his lifepan when he DOESN'T CONSENT, and harms their relationship. She is UNQUESTIONABLY an asshole. You do not have a leg to stand on. Your arguments are just "Oh but she might need it to cope."
I don't care.
She is an addict and is refusing to budge. As someone who went from a pack every two days to nothing, and as someone who went from drinking half a pint of vodka everyday to nothing, I can categorically say she is an asshole. If she is outright refusing, as OP said, then she is in the wrong. She is choosing addiction over her relationship. She's not just an asshole. She's a horrible person and her love for OP is genuinely questionable.
You do not get a pass from being an asshole simply because you have an addiction. At first? Sure. But she has been doing it for 5 YEARS and after being talked to about it she's doing nothing. She no longer gets the umbrella of empathy for her addiction and she should be called out for it. She's being selfish and putting her own wants over the health of everyone involved.
Is it? There are plenty of subreddits who have taken downvotes out of their community. Badly, but they have. /r/CanadaPolitics will outright ban you if you ever admit to downvoting something in the community.
The removal of downvotes alone is not remotely sufficient evidence of being "quite different" from Reddit in that regard. Honestly it just reminds me of /r/Conservative and their flair system too. I don't understand why downvotes are being banished.
They've been smoking for 5 years straight with OP openly disapproving of the situation. I'm not seeing the "Yes, you're the asshole" here. If this was for a brief period then sure. But 5 years is just beyond the pale. Half a decade of someone disapproving of smoking and they haven't found a single opportunity to quit?
You privately set a limit with not marrying a smoker. You made that stance public years later after she had already quit. She knew about that stance. She begins smoking again. Understandable, addicts will relapse. However, relapsing for 5 years straight? When you know it bothers your partner and ACTIVELY contributes to not just a detriment to their health but yours as well? They haven't found a single opportunity to quit? Even for a brief period.
They're the asshole. If this was for a year, nah. Needs more information. But 5 YEARS STRAIGHT? She's not respecting your boundaries or your health.
I'll never vote for a Liberal candidate again for as long as I live, regardless of ABC. I don't give a fuck what the threat is. They're effectively Democrats. Fundamentally worthless from soul to spine.