Solivine @ solivine @sopuli.xyz

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Those are some cool looking vehicles, at the moment most of them just look like worse examples of existing things though.

Lemmy.world??

Cars that have a transmission

I've accepted this harsh reality as well.

You can be mad at both, that was always allowed

Well not really, because the student didn't show their knowledge of English beyond the first two lines

I guess all you can do is practice right? Keep failing over and over until you don't anymore.

I don't think this is true, there's some Pokémon that speak normal language like meowth, lucario, legendaries etc...

I'm not sure there's been much research into it, it sounds like it could be plausible.

I think this is a good approach too

I tried to delve more into why I feel this way in another comment further down if you're interested, but I understand the frustration behind your comment. Personally I think there are other ways to gauge someone's feelings.

Yeah, I mean I know getting annoyed by it would achieve nothing so I wouldn't react in a negative manner to them, I would just discuss it with them later that it bothered me and could maybe try a different method if it's needed for them.

I tried to go through it in more detail in a reply further down, but this is definitely one of the reasons it could be.

That isn't a bad response imo

This makes sense to me as a social dynamic without reducing it to a prompt like above.

I didn't say it makes sense, it's hard to justify feelings all the time, but I can give it a go. Perhaps we can work out why I think this way. These are guesses, I don't know the root cause.

It can sound kind of arrogant I guess, like that person can solve something you can't. It also sounds emotionless and robotic when they say it.

It could also sound like if you don't want a solution then your complaining is less valid. With a partner you trust I suppose this might not be true, but with some friends I have they would immediately switch off if it's the latter I guess.

And a much more simple guess - most of the time I just don't know which one of those I want, and I haven't got to that stage yet. I find it very difficult to pinpoint why I get certain emotions and what I want to do with them, that whole process doesn't make sense to me and I don't understand why all these other replies seem to be able to do that and are saying it's my fault. Perhaps this is a spectrum thing.

No, this was not what I meant

I think in the above scenario it would be safe to assume it's the "just talk about it" scenario. With something as simple as food falling apart the person will be more than capable of solving it themselves if they needed to.

I understand that the whole "do you want a solution or to just talk about it" is well intentioned, but even if what I want is the latter now that you've asked me that I would feel worse for just trying to bring it up to talk about it. It's hard to justify I guess, but the statement feels condescending when you are in that socially vulnerable position.

Edit: I have attempted to explain this further below, but again, it can be hard for me to understand why I feel a certain way and I don't understand how others can easily.

That's a shame, are you not able to find more? Public servers?