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  • And yet I don't think you do have a point without evidence,

    My point is childhood trauma takes a lot of forms and "good natured" showing naked pictures of your children to potential romantic partners the first time they visit (the thing we were talking about) is undoubtedly traumatic for a portion that experience it. I'm not aware of any specific studies studying the impact of showing nude photos of your children to their potential romantic suitors but I do know that childhood trauma has been studied and has far-reaching, unknown impacts. Even if the victim often doesn't recognize the instance as abuse until much later in life, if ever.

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202206/how-childhood-shame-can-affect-our-adult-relationships

    https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2018/09/childhood-toxic-shame

    https://mind.help/news/childhood-humiliation-can-leave-lifelong-scars-warn-mental-health-experts/

    Again, where do you get your psychology degree from?

    I was about halfway through a sociology degree (admittedly as a pretty subpar state university) before I transferred to CS. What'd you study?

    I’m sorry… do you think it’s illegal to have a photo of a naked baby on your phone?

    They're not something I'd want on my phone obviously.

  • things you can only do with boys
  • We're talking about pictures of your kids genitals. What a weird fucking hill to die on. Its your kid, take all the pics you want, probably don't get caught with them on your phone.

    It's ok to just say "you know what you might have a point" and walk away sometimes my dude.

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  • Psychology isn't based on your bets.

    Spoken like someone who's never been in therapy or studied psychology, people bet and guess and infer stuff all the time; it's a "soft" science for a reason.

    That means no baby pictures at all.

    Specifically pictures of their genitals, I feel like no baby genital pics is a good default, yes, what a weird hill to die on.

    You have no evidence of this trauma.

    Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence

    You're just guessing.

    Guessing, inferring, surmising, call it whatever helps you sleep at night. I think of it as erring on the side of safety and respect for my kids. Not having pics of their junk doesn't make my life any worse, there's only downsides for them.

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  • I didn’t dismiss anyone’s trauma, I’m asking if that has ever resulted in anyone’s trauma

    How can I speak for every person? Has it caused someones trauma? Yeah I bet it has. You initially made it sound like you were showing bath pics to every teen-aged first date that came over which would obviously be pretty fucked up.

    showing the partner the first couple of pictures of the kid as a baby should be acceptable to people just as a “this is what they looked like when it all began"

    Yeah we agree, baby pics are fun, I especially like noting family resemblances as everyone ages. My sister made my mom a big set of scrapbooks/albums for each of her kids one year, no naked baby pics were included. They're great fun to look at, highly recommend.

    They also are unable to understand the concept of consent, let alone give it.

    This is the primary issue, without even going into the obvious power dynamic between child and parent when it comes to consent later. Where do a childs rights end and parents begin?

    I would also suggest that if that did cause someone trauma, it would be because the parent was aware this sort of thing would upset their child to that level and did it anyway.

    I would suggest that most parents think they're doing great doing it just like it's always been done (i.e. generational trauma) and "they turned out just fine." but there are definitely some intentionally abusive ones too. The child with the intentionally abusive parent is obviously going to have way more trauma.

    I think most parents wouldn’t actually show the pictures if they knew it would cause the child real psychological pain, because that isn’t the point in doing it.

    The "real psychological pain" part makes it look like you're dismissing trauma, just because it's not something you experienced doesn't mean it isn't valid and while intent matters so does the result. I'm sure you specifically are a good parent and you're very conscious of your kids mental headspace but by default I'd say save it for the fiance if you just have to have them.

  • things you can only do with boys
  • Yeah saving it for their long term partners (if you have to) is probably a better idea than showing them during the first meeting.

    And please don't dismiss other peoples trauma because you didn't experience it personally, childhood trauma takes many different forms, some we're only just becoming aware of.

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  • You're (wisely) backpeddling now but you said:

    used to torture children in front of their serious romantic partners brought home for the first time.

    Things were different when we were kids. It's a fucked up thing to psychologically abuse your (presumably) teenage kids like that and objectively people know that. (Your daughters) consent in the subject is the only thing that matters. The only reason anyone is giving you a pass is because you're FlyingSquid, but maybe leave those pictures in the closet until closer to the wedding.

  • Stay Mad, Tankies
  • Snowden verifiably paid a higher price while serving the interests of the people. Sacrificed far more than Trump ever has or will. He was a fairly connected govt contractor living in Hawaii, living a good life before he had to flee.

  • Steve Bannon must report to prison by Monday after Supreme Court rejects last-minute appeal.
  • Somehow these evil chucklefucks are able to rack up multiple felonies, defy court orders, do whatever they want and really face no repercussions. If his lawyers ever manage to convince him to actually do his time it'll be in the cushiest, softest minimum security camp. This guy is who people are talking about when they say eat the rich; he's like a cartoon villain, he's evil because it's fun and easier.

  • While you were worried about socialism…
  • My fear (not fantasy) is a truckload of redhatted MAGAts rolling into my (liberal, gay, city) neighborhood and taking potshots a the local "lifestyle center" while the police look the other way or pat them on the back and buy them Burger King on the way out. You wanna talk about gun control cool but that's a way different conversation than anyone is having right now, now kindly piss off.

  • What YouTubers did you used to watch back then but not anymore?
  • Huge agree about pushing their merch! They're shameless. I used to watch every day for years but stopped a long time ago; when every episode became a food episode. Their podcast (Ear Biscuits) is a bit better, it's more them talking about things long form, just being 40+ year old fairly normal (if not very successful) guys. They've talked about quitting GMM, I think once their various kids are done with school they'll pack it up (the main show at least). They both have other passions but it's really difficult to stop when you've built a successful, working media company with your childhood best friend, even if they're both ready to retire.

    They actually bought Smosh and brought Ian and Anthony back, and then sold Smosh back to them a few years later. That was a really cool move to me and and got them a HUGE pass in my book, they're stand-up guys.

    Full disclosure: despite not watching much of their video content anymore I still went and saw them on their most recent tour (about a month ago, it was a gift) and had a great time. They did some of their games but modified them to be specific to my state, did a food ranking with some local-foods, and of course had a couple musical numbers.

  • While you were worried about socialism…
  • Actually you made the statement "Citizens will not stop a coup attempt using guns. You’re watching too many movies. Be realistic." And I replied idk farmers seem to have a pretty good track record. Then you doubled down to start arguing which I'm not interested in because it's been discussed a million times and we likely will not come to an agreement. So again, have a nice Friday.

  • Texas school district agrees to remove ‘Anne Frank’s Diary,’ ‘Maus’ and 670 other books after right-wing group’s complaint
  • includes a recent illustrated adaptation of Anne Frank’s diary; both volumes of Art Spiegelman’s Holocaust graphic memoir “Maus”; “The Fixer,” Bernard Malamud’s novel about a historical instance of antisemitic blood libel

    No it seems to be the Diary of Anne Frank and 600+ other books.

    why do you want books about minors exposing themselves to one another to be available to minors?

    Have you read the book because that definitely "sounds like propaganda" and we've already established you have problems discerning the difference between that and reality.

    But hey, why do YOU mindlessly parrot talking points put out by far right Latino zionists like Luis Cabrera? Jk we all know the answer, dumb little tankie parroting a fucking evangelical, fuck off.

    https://www.au.org/the-latest/articles/texas-pastor-book-bans24

  • Texas school district agrees to remove ‘Anne Frank’s Diary,’ ‘Maus’ and 670 other books after right-wing group’s complaint
  • Prove they are trying to remove Anne Frank from libraries.

    Do you even read the titles before you come here saying dumb shit?

    It might be true, but I think that sounds like propaganda.

    Yeah obviously you have problems distinguishing truth from propaganda, we're all aware.

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