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  • Those people stealing carts to sell them on the street are a god send.

    We had a guy in my old neighborhood who would come around once a week with various necessities that most people couldn't afford otherwise. Sure he made decent money, but babies got fed, pantries got replenished, feminine products were given out if you bought stuff from him regularly.

    That might seem grimey to you, but that's fine.

  • What's something you want to stop doing but can't actually stop?
  • I had to go to urgent care the other day and the only way to check in was to scan a QR code and fill out a god awful, half broken form on a random third party website. There were no error messages. The site would timeout if you spent too long on one page, so you'd have to start over. The amount of people who had all sorts of issues is nuts.

    This was "an upgrade"

  • Nothing rule
  • I grew up below the dirt poor, like oodles and noodles were a treat poor, with no adult supervision for a good portion of my childhood. My mom was on basically every government program that existed, that didn't mean I got anything out of it. The only reason I survived was by people looking the other way as I fed myself.

    As I got older I had no life skills whatsoever and couldn't hold down a job, friends, or any sort of meaningful relationship. So again, dirt poor, a little better off than I was before because there were a few ways to make money. But still I only ever got food at a store, and probably would have starved if too many people said something, or had to do even worse stuff than I was to feed myself.

    Hell even when I got myself together a bit and held down a shitty job for a while I still couldn't afford to feed myself after the bills hit, it was even worse when I started making just enough to get kicked off state insurance and stamps.

    There are a lot of people out here just trying to survive, they shouldn't have to steal to eat but they do and in my eyes that's a human right.

    Side note: food stamps are a fucking joke. What they're giving to a family of 4 wouldn't feed a single person, from my experience at least.

  • What's the most basic thing you can't do?
  • Ahh I think I had it mixed up, in the states at least rice contains a lot of heavy metals so when my son was young we avoided giving him too much rice, which was difficult since basically every kid snack is rice based.

    A quick google search says washing it 'could' get rid of some of those metals, but not really. Makes me feel a little better about not ever washing my rice but it does cook a lot nicer after washing which makes sense.

  • What's the most basic thing you can't do?
  • I love cooking and I've gotten pretty good at making a lot of stuff completely from scratch. But my rice has always been awful, it seems so simple.

    We got a $20 rice cooker a few months ago and its been a game changer. Perfect rice every time.

    Also I just recently found out your supposed to wash rice before you eat it. Apparently its covered in a lot of heavy metals or something.

  • me_irl
  • In school I would calculate exactly what I would need to do to just pass. I've always loved learning but didn't care for basically everything about the schools I was in. Which brought a storm of shit from my teachers and grandma.

    No one appreciated the effort of calculating how many questions need to be answered on a test in order to bring your grade to a 74%. Sure it would've been easier to just do the thing, but they didn't make it fun and it didn't matter.

  • What is something that you pay attention to that most other people do not?
  • I put up a bird feeder and few months ago and now we constantly have at least 20 birds all around our yard. My son likes to throw bird seed all around now so its really cool to see them just walking around and pecking.

    I absolutely fell in love with morning doves

  • What is something that you pay attention to that most other people do not?
  • Hope your pipe situation got resolved easily.

    We had a pipe burst right at the entrance of our crawlspace a few weeks ago and it took a bit to realize. It was a nightmare and now we have to get some foundation work done.

  • What do you just not give a single fuck about that so many people try to make you give a shit about?
  • The beach, I couldn't give less of a bother about going to lay on some burning sand, occasionally dipping my toes in some freezing fish piss water, and getting pelted in the face with sand as a bunch of kids run by kicking up every speck of sand they touch while their parents are getting shitfaced and blasting music no one else wants to hear.

    Put me in a secluded lake in the woods with some shade near by and I'm all in though. I guess more specifically my issue is with the people at the beach, but still.

  • What did you buy that improved your life?
  • Years ago when I was on Medicaid I spent about 2 weeks in the hospital. They took my appendix out and after looking at it and running some tests found out that I had some rare parasite. I was in excruciating pain at the time, throwing up blood a few times a day and just withering away. There was a pill that I was waiting to get that would've killed the parasites which could've been given to me after my 4th day there when they confirmed what I had. I spent the rest of the 2 weeks being doped up on morphine and an array of fluids until I couldn't take it anymore and left the hospital 'AMA'.

    I went to a different hospital and got the medicine I needed almost immediately.

    I did throw up again though when I got a ~$60k bill from my 2 week stay at the first hospital. Again they took out my appendix, ran some test, and pumped me with opiods for 2 weeks without treating my actual issue.

  • Anon wants to be bigger
  • I was always very skinny until recently. Financially I couldn't afford to eat more than a meal a day at best, so skipping meals was kind of the point.

    A few years ago my situation got better and without even realizing it I jumped from 115 to 145 in a matter of a few months just from eating 3 relatively healthy meals a day.

    My problem now is I can't stop eating all the time.

  • More than 200 people with diabetes injured after software issue drained insulin pump batteries | CNN
  • Yeah, I get the sentiment that you can't avoid bugs and I think to an extent they are inevitable at a certain point. But something like this is just negligence.

    My company isn't medical or anything life threatening if something goes wrong, but a bug could cost someone a nice heap of money, in turn costing us a nice heap of money. So we have a rule to treat and test our software as if it were used in the medical industry. Although it seems like we should be aiming for a higher standard at this point.

  • Do fragrant herbs repel wasps?
  • I thought it sounded too easy, but every article i read said it worked.

    Any specific brand/style of trap you would recommend? I'd like to keep the bees for my trees and garden if possible and I'd rather save chemicals for an absolute last resort

  • Do fragrant herbs repel wasps?

    Figure this was a good place to ask.

    My whole block has a horrible wasp issue. All my neighbors seem to just be killing them as they see them with raid or something, which hasent helped much.

    My plan was to use a vinegar/water mix with a few drops of peppermint oil and go around the house and spray it in the areas i cant have them for immediate action. But i also hear you can plant some herbs like lemon balm and mint to help keep them away from certain areas. I'm not sure how true this is so I figured id ask.

    I already have some lavender, lemond balm, and catmint plants i can move around.

    P.S. i know they're necessary and good to have around, but my 2 year old is allergic and loves to play in the yard.

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    This delivery app takes away health insurance when workers don’t meet quotas
  • To add to this, most companies in the us have a waiting period before certain benefits kick in, like health insurance. So if you want to switch jobs for whatever reason, you better be extra careful for the first 3 months of your new job. Unless of course you want to pay $1,000 a month to keep your insurance through cobra, or go through the cluster fuck runaround of getting insurance on your own. So especially when your insurance cover your whole family, it's a nightmare.

  • Modern web bloat means some pages load 21MB of data - entry-level phones can't run some simple web pages, and some sites are harder to render than PUBG
  • If you don't mind me asking what do you do? I'm always curious since truthfully the $200k/y fang jobs sometime make me think I'm the odd one out who's not gonna retire by 40. And as primarily a perl developer on a team of 2 I feel like were in our own world most of the time.

  • It’s just water in a can. How did Liquid Death become a billion-dollar brand?
  • One concert I went to that didn't let you bring water in ended up getting shut down because the only water available was bathroom sink water or tap water in a plastic cup for $8. And they didn't let you bring your plastic cups into the bathroom to refill them.

    Probably about a third of the people there had to leave from passing out/dehydration and a bunch left in ambulances. And this was a concert where probably 90% of the people there were on drugs, which in my eyes makes the whole water situation even more irresponsible.

    So legal, yeah probably, but also entirely fucked.

  • Modern web bloat means some pages load 21MB of data - entry-level phones can't run some simple web pages, and some sites are harder to render than PUBG
  • When my title changed from web developer to software developer I got a 60% pay increase, but my job hardly changed in reality. I still only make just enough to do doordash on the side as an extra safety net and not as a necessity to afford food.

    But when anyone asks what I do for work and I tell them, they immediately assume we're absolutely loaded and I'm picking up the check everywhere we go.

  • Best way to grow strawberries

    We're planning on growing strawberries this year. I was planning on putting them in pots with plant hangers on the sunny side of the fence, my wife suggested building a vertical tower with some dollar store tri-pots.

    Both ideas make sense to me so i wanted to see if anyone had any experience/advice on what's the best way, or if it doesn't matter, or if there's a much better idea that we haven't thought of.

    Thanks in advance!

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    First hardwood cuttings

    After only 2 weeks 4 of my 5 hardwood apple tree cuttings already have a little bit of root growth!

    It's not much, I could joke and say you need a microscope to see it and not be far off but it feels like such an accomplishment and a little like magic.

    It's my first time propagating from cuttings and I'm absolutely amazed that I essentially stuck some sticks in dirt and they're turning into trees.

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    Even workload

    Those who are lucky enough to have a partner.

    How do you divey up the workload and ensure an even partnership where one partner is stay at home and the other works full time?

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    miscarriage

    My wife and I had a miscarriage last week. We were 11 weeks along but our baby only grew to 8 weeks.

    It's been devastating.

    I'm hoping to get some advice from anyone who's been through it.

    • what can I do to help my wife? She's in physical pain which seems to be overriding the emotional pain, but I'm sure it will hit in due time and want to be able to help her the best that I can.

    • our 15 month old obviously doesn't know what's going on, but it seems like he's noticed a change of energy. Its hard to play with him like I normally do. I love him to bits, I just don't have the energy but I need to make sure he knows he's loved.

    • we were able to collect the fetus as it passed naturally , we would like to do something to memorialize our unborn child but don't know what.

    • how can I take care of myself while taking care of my family through these times.

    Thanks for any advice.

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    Advice for sleeping in a hotel with a baby

    My wife, my 1 year old and I have a trip coming up and we'll be staying in a hotel.

    Our big guy's done great on previous trips sleeping without a problem, but this will be the first time we don't have a separate room for him (we've stayed in cabins and stuff before, I don't mean a separate hotel room). When we try to put him down and he sees us still in the room he usually just cries for us and we would have to end up going to bed with him.

    I would love to be able to put him down and still be able to enjoy a quite night of playing cards or watching a movie with my wife without having to go to bed at 7 with him everynight.

    Anyone have any advice?

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