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Why does “come here” bother me so much?
  • I’d add a fourth one: when you’ve told him how it makes you feel (and requested he respect you and your time), he’s doubled-down on the disrespect. His shrug just shrugs off all your feelings you were open/vulnerable enough to share like they don’t matter. That’s not okay in a partnership of equals.

    The other patterns you mention (like making you fumble through a new game after a long day and calling you a million times to ask minor questions) are the same thing — the initial thing was disrespectful, so you explained that to him, but he hasn’t chosen to see that as a reason to change. That’s a massive red flag.

    Also, the weaponized ignorance (ie the refusal to spend the two minutes it would take to figure it out on his own) is another part of the very common pattern happening right now between very many couples. The women are waking up to just how unhealthy their dynamic is with their husbands. In the stories that make it to the internet the men don’t usually change — sometimes a huge life adjustment can shake him out of it but only if he reacts with empathy. Good luck. This is difficult. And you’re not alone.

  • Why most posts (so far as I can tell) have very short lifespan tendency?
  • I’m using Voyager and that’s a simple matter of a short left swipe, or the setting to hide read posts (and expanding its image or voting counts as having “read” it). But I don’t use the second and the first is tedious, so I feel similarly and don’t use anything but top (12 or 24 usually).

  • Why most posts (so far as I can tell) have very short lifespan tendency?
  • It wasn’t an issue because whenever someone would make a comment, it would “bump” the thread back up the top of the feed (whatever form the feed took). I think the “hot” filter is supposed to take interactions into account, but I think most people just browse top 12/24 hours.

    edit: “active” sort seems to do this?

  • Viewing a multi-image post only shows the first image
  • I think the bang only works for communities: !obviousplant@lemmy.world. Voyager can also handle http links to communities (if the link is in a comment or post body, not a post link): https://lemmy.world/c/obviousplant.

    Posts and comments are known feature requests that are non-trivial to implement.

  • What are ways Renters (of a house) can get into alternative energy?
  • Also, given OP’s “very bright dusty” back yard, it’s likely water is a concern. So, collecting and reusing rain water for a shade garden could be also be a big improvement for general sustainability (plus energy savings).

  • What are ways Renters (of a house) can get into alternative energy?
  • Check out “solar generators”. They take input power from something variable like a solar panel, recharge their internal battery, and then provide lots of different outlets to power or recharge various devices. So, mostly “just” a battery, but very well set up for exactly this kind of thing.

  • mastodon.art defederating calckey firefish social. Cites behavior of lead project dev
  • Why fork Pleroma in the first place?

    As many of you will be aware, back in 01/2022, there was something of a schism in the smallish group of Pleroma developers with no single cause in my eyes - it was the culmination of years of mounting tensions between two competing interest groups. Pleroma has ever been an uneasy alliance between "free speech" people and free software people, and as the project's creator aligned more with the former group over time, it was only really a matter of time before something acted as a catalyst to break the alliance.

    I shan't elaborate too much on that schism here, but the catalyst was one developer who both aligned with the "free speech" group and refused to treat other developers with any sort of respect (whilst being a generally unpleasant person to boot) - this broke the developer group in two and spawned the short-lived "newroma" (see, at least I'm not that bad at naming).

    […]

    Most of the developers that split off in the fork then went back to Pleroma, after a band-aid fix from the almost-never-present project creator.

    I do not believe they have meaningfully reformed anything since the schism, and it's naught but a power vacuum waiting for someone to take up the mantle of maintainer again - given the track record of the above, I do not trust that whoever ends up winning that power struggle will be someone I wish to side with.

    Thus, I'm doing it myself. With blackjack and anime music.

    https://coffee-and-dreams.uk/development/2022/06/24/akkoma.html

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