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identifying triggers for overload
  • Ah, thank you for the clarity. My view of things, intelligence comes down to luck as it's a measure of brain capability (not IQ), which I believe is fixed. Darkness was strictly meant as ignorance. Highly intelligent people will be more likely to learn, synthesize new ideas from previous experiences. When faced with the struggles of this existence, high intellect might invent a functioning coping mechanism where low intellect will fail and leave you to meltdown. Considering I believe we also become frustrated over a lack of understanding, not strictly from undesirable sensations, I think intellect plays a huge role in why people say autism is a spectrum. The compounding failure for an average intelligence autistic kid to learn to cope results in daily meltdowns and placement in special needs classes where they are seen as incapable. If society better understood their problems, helped them process and learn coping mechanisms, healthy stims, and what to avoid, they might be able to live a more normal life. That's not what happens today, and it's fucking tragic.

    I don't really like any of the words that exist to talk about the issues unique to autism. Sorry if that caused any confusion.

  • identifying triggers for overload
  • Based on your response I'm not clear what we didn't agree on. I'm a former smart kid that only realized he is autistic at 33. I'm hopeful that my kids will have more support in school than I did, and that the world outside of school will continue to become more accommodating for us. The world wasn't built for people in wheelchairs, but it's slowly being rebuilt with accommodations. Our curb cuts will take a lot of different shapes.

  • identifying triggers for overload
  • Start expanding your fundamental understanding of what is happening. Words give power over problems, prior to understanding triggers were even a thing you weren't looking for them. Read experiences of others, what triggers them. Consider that you can alter your relationship to the triggers, not just avoid them. I hated almost all music as a kid, that changed once I started playing music rhythm games like DDR and guitar hero. I'll argue that music was information I didn't understand how to process, which dysregulated me. The unwanted information of songs being stuck in my head really upset me. Improved understanding of the sensory input opened ways to stim in response to it.

    Expand what you consider to be inputs, expand what you consider to be a stim. Inputs are anything happening to you, including your own thoughts and actions. Stims are your outputs, including thoughts. Inputs you don't understand cause frustration. Your brain expends energy to find the correct response and gets nothing for it. Pressure builds up and if we don't do something in response we blow up. There are so many things that get better once you can understand them.

    Consider cilantro, wiki says between 3 and 21 percent of people have a gene mutation that makes it taste unpleasant, I'm in that lucky pool of soapy disgust. Before gaining this understanding I simply could not process how my family enjoyed food with cilantro. In fact, I didn't even know it was cilantro at fault, I just hated some of the food and my family loved it. Lack of knowledge let me believe it was a subjective taste preference, and I would suffer for that, going hungry or being forced to eat soap. Learning in my late teens of this genre mutation empowered me to avoid my own disgust while explaining how others aren't disgusted by it.

    So much in life is improved by expanded understanding. I think that's the core of why kids dysregulate more often, they have less tools to explain the world. I think that's why super smart kids with this brain don't dysregulate as often, they pull themselves out of the darkness.

    I'll leave you with this link about how words literally grant your brain power to process inputs. https://news.mit.edu/2023/how-blue-and-green-appeared-language-1102

  • I want to meet the person who does this.
  • The difference in taste between good and mediocre for fruit is huge. Most fruit in stores doesn't even taste distinct at this point. I'd totally be down to follow good growers to know when/where to buy their stuff. There's this brand of frozen cherries in my fridge (Townsend Farms, Oregon) that has ruined all other cherries for me. Dole organic bananas, at least the ones at my Costco in Texas (says product of Mexico), have similarly ruined all other bananas for me. Taste is like, generic fructose, vs something distinctly of that fruit.

    My work used to have a hookup with a local watermelon farmer, every summer we'd buy a few pallets and give everyone a watermelon. I'm still chasing the taste of those melons...

  • Safety Razor, what do I need to think about?
  • Not what you're asking, but have you tried sharpening your cartridge blades? I've been using the same store brand 3 blade cartridge for a few years now, just stropping by swiping it in reverse up my arm 10-20 times right before shaving in the shower. Shave is close, no razor burn. Considering you're concerned about waste, zero waste in a few years seems worth mentioning.

  • Two almost identical tables, should I keep them separate?
  • All three should be one table, at least based on the diagram and your description. Read this https://martin.kleppmann.com/2011/03/07/accounting-for-computer-scientists.html.

    Look into the concept of sub-ledgers if you're wanting some additional tables along with the general ledger.

    Past that, historical balances being rolled up by various dimensions is another thing I've done. No point in continuously summarizing the GL from the beginning of time when those values should never change and people only care to see summary values for a period.

  • Lets Talk About Morrowind
  • In retrospect, I can't argue that it's an empty world. But during my time with the game as a teen, during its original release period on Xbox, it did not feel empty at all.
    I'm wondering how much it had to do with the lower render distance / fog on Xbox, because without that I can imagine a totally different game. I'm also wondering how much had to do with essentially every playthrough of mine being wearing the boots of blinding speed and some magic resist so I could see. The big empty world felt small and populated when traversal doesn't take as long. Not saying that's good design, but I can imagine disliking it with the default move speed. Compared to many other similar games I played since then, most of the content felt worthwhile. Oblivion and especially Skyrim fell so short of the bar that Morrowind set for me because so much of the dungeon content felt like worthless filler.

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    Best way to actually clean my glass shower door?
  • Whenever you do get it clean, treat it with RainX or similar. We do that every few years and squeegee after each shower, our glass is spotless after 10 years. Our water is super hard too, saw the house next to ours which was built at the same time, disgustingly opaque with scale.

  • Descaling liquid
  • All the expensive coffee machines say not to use RO water. Apparently RO water is slightly acidic and can damage the copper heating elements over time. I've a RO system and love the taste (really lack of any flavor), but stopped using it on my coffee machines.

  • Good luck web devs
  • I came back to my office after the new year's break and a stray bullet, from I'm assuming celebratory gunfire, was shot through the wall and hit my screen. Admittedly it wasn't a hole and the screen was totally unusable after, but I'll be a close n=1.

  • How Long To Nap
  • Yep, straight to REM before my eyes close. No nap length feels good either. Even those adrenaline inducing micro-naps while driving.

    Now with meds, naps aren't even an option.

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