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How Can I Help With my Girlfriend's Transition Without Steering Her One Way or the Other?
  • First and foremost, open, honest communication is always the top priority if you're trying to support someone through any complicated thing. Check in with her regularly to make sure she feels supported rather than pressured.

    Also, I think framing things as suggestions is probably the root of the concern here. I would back off of that.

    Learning and sharing what you've learned can be helpful. Suggesting a course of action, especially if you have not been asked to make a suggestion, can undermine her autonomy.

    The primary way trans people are attacked as they transition is having their autonomy questioned, undermined, and rejected. Usually this is from people who oppose their transition, but it is also entirely possible to encroach on her autonomy by telling her how you think she should transition.

  • ‘The Squad’ Is Coming Around to Kamala Harris for President
  • I too would love to vote for AOC, which is precisely why her endorsement matters to me.

    I trust her judgment enough to want to elect her, so I also trust her judgment that the best path forward right now is to support Harris.

  • Can We Meme Our Way to a Better Tomorrow?
  • Yeah, unless you're particularly well equipped for that type of interaction, you're unlikely to get any kind of satisfying outcome by asking them a question

    Those sorts of people have a lot of experience gish galloping, rationalizing their own contradictions, and feeling smug about whatever bullshit response they give.

    I don't think their facade is impossible to engage with or break through, but it will always take more than one clever question to get there.

  • Queer Activists Are Making BDS a Key Question of Pride This Year
  • Did you read the article?

    No, we are not.

    The article describes multiple queer activists and groups supporting BDS as a component of Pride.

    protests outside of LGBTQ+ rights do NOT belong here

    The article also describes the direct link between BDS and Pride.

  • What is a gender neutral replacement for man, guys, buddy, etc?
  • That's great, and it's nice that you don't have to deal with that jolt of dysphoria in those situations.

    I'm simply saying that it's also common (and okay) to not be entirely comfortable with those terms. Especially from strangers or acquaintances.

    I don't think seeking to reduce the linguistic pattern of male as the default is a misguided effort.

  • What is a gender neutral replacement for man, guys, buddy, etc?
  • "Offended" is a bit of a strong word.

    Many trans folks are, understandably, bummed out when gendered terms that refer to their AGAB are used to refer to them.

    I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to avoid causing that brief moment of dysphoria. That just feels like a thoughtful and kind thing to do.

  • Baldur's Gate 3 - Discussion Post #2
  • I don't want to know where it is, just if it exists and if it's missable in a particular act:

    Is there a cowboy hat in this game, and can I miss it by progressing too far?

    No additional details please! Thanks!

  • Corporate Greed Is Not Our Only Problem
  • Obviously corporate greed is not literally our only problem.

    But insofar as society's collective focus is required to address societal issues, we would be extremely hard-pressed to focus too much on policy aimed at addressing corporate greed--even if it results in neglecting policy around things such as NIMBYism and any negative impacts environmental groups may have on the progress of clean energy.

    Far more often than not, I tend to find that people calling to divert focus away from corporate greed are bad-faith actors working in service of, surprise, corporate greed.

  • Quiver of endless arrows > "I don't track ammo"
  • I love using magic items in place of house rules. It makes it easier for everyone when "house rules" are explicitly spelled out in an item description, and helps prevent players from being confused or surprised about which rules do and do not get enforced and in which way.

    To contribute my own D&D 5e specific example: I like to have enchanted weapons that each have access to one or two battlemaster maneuvers per short rest. e.g. Quarterstaff of Tripping (trip attack) or Commander's Longsword (Commander's Strike). To keep it simple, I use the weapon's damage die as the superiority die.

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