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Getting matches on dating app Hinge but 98% of people don’t respond to messages
  • I gotta say I've met a lot of people that way at least In the gym

    My gym seems to be a completely non-social place. I've been going like 3-6 times a week for nearly 2 years and not one person has tried to strike up a conversation with me.

    It sucks because it's like the one public place other than grocery shopping that I go regularly, is fun to go to, etc. But it seems either nobody goes there to socialize or I'm too unattractive for anyone to talk to me.

  • Getting matches on dating app Hinge but 98% of people don’t respond to messages
  • dating apps offer such an incestuous pool of people who have all met and had sex

    I always hear this, but then why can't I seem to get in on it?

    I'd be happy if I could just find a FWB or casual sex or anything like that. But I can't even get that, and it just seems like either all the dating apps/sites are dead or I'm just not good enough for anyone's standards.

  • I feel like there should be a discussion here about "therapy" vs. talk therapy vs. psychology etc.
  • I saw dozens of psychiatrists, counselors, therapists and psychologists. Got absolutely nothing out of it.

    Eventually i found my way to a Trauma Treatment Center where they specialize in fucked up little nuggets like me.

    And then my life changed because I got the help I needed and was able to unwind a lot of my problems and develop coping tools for what I couldn't repair.

    I wish I could do that

    The problem is that if you don't have the money/insurance/referrals/whatever to get into one of those Trauma Treatment Centers, or otherwise stumble into the actually useful people who know what to do with trauma somehow, then you're doomed to dealing with all of those other useless sorts who just tell you to meditate it off.

    how did you find or get into the Trauma Treatment Center, by the way?

  • I haven’t been able to find a job in 16 months and it feels like I have to pass through the eye of the needle to have a life
  • Don't be so hard on yourself, keep putting yourself out there you may still find someone, it won't be Hollywood or conventional, but it will be something.

    I don't see how. I've been using dating sites for years and that was the closest thing to a thing I ever had, and even this one fizzled out.

    where am I going to find a woman who doesn't think no car + no job + living at home in my 30's is a deal-breaker?

  • I haven’t been able to find a job in 16 months and it feels like I have to pass through the eye of the needle to have a life
  • similar position here.

    I'm 34, no degree, haven't worked in 8 years (just got approved for Disability this February for mental health reasons, so I get like $1500 per month which conveniently is average monthly rent here).

    I never got to experience a dating life, or even have a FWB or anything. And I don't see how I ever will. It's so hard to get anywhere or do anything, and at my age nobody will even want to sleep with me unless I "have my shit together". Like it doesn't matter who I am, it only matters my future financial prospects and being someone to brag about. Especially on dating sites.

    I live with an abusive, emotionally unstable grandparent that I dream of being able to move away from, but rent prices are just too fucking high and I don't know anyone else in this stupid world who could help me.

    I'm just so fucking depressed about my dating life prospects. I recently met a girl on some dating site who is also on Disability for mental health reasons (nice to know she also wouldn't judge me for it). We were talking every day for like 4 months, but she suddenly started soft-ghosting me and I don't know why. Probably nothing this good will ever happen to me again -- and it was barely even anything. I'm in good shape but obviously no car + no job + on disablity pay + live at home => nobody will ever want me, not even just for a FWB/no commitment type of thing sadness-abysmal

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