Has anyone else always been the "crazy one" for their whole life? How have you been able to deal with this? Both mentally and your actions in the real world.
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Thank you for this. I appreciate all comments here. But this really resonated with me for some reason. As a child, I would sometimes remove myself from a situation when I was upset. But I would get in trouble for that too because I was "storming off" and "making a scene" by just wanting to go outside and walk around.
I am thankful that now, as an adult, when I get upset at work sometimes I walk away. I go to the break room for a bit, grab a drink of water, go use the bathroom for a minute, etc. I do that and no one tells me that it's wrong. I read about how online people talk about how going for a walk when you are feeling heated to be a normal and healthy coping mechanism. As a child and a young adult, my family treated me like it was wrong. The only acceptable reaction in that environment was to sit there totally stone faced and nonreactive, and I have not ever been able to do that. I am thankful that I am allowed to walk away now and I don't get in trouble for it.
I never thought I exhibited ADHD symptoms really. I do have anxious/fidgety mannerisms and some of that includes anxious swearing like someone with Tourette's lol. But that's about it. Borderline is always something I had wondered. I do have what I would think are some borderline traits (particularly emotional dysregulation and wild mood mood swings), but I don't seem to meet enough of the criteria to totally fit the diagnosis. I have also had some online friends caution me that getting a borderline diagnosis on your record could cause problems down the line.
Anyway, sorry for my rambling. Hoping the best for you.
God I need help with the first one. Second one also sounds interesting.
Ok yeah I suspected a bit as much about the scared thing. Honestly I'm not sure what sort of advice to give to help out for that sort of thing. I never told anyone that I got scared at night...just lived with it until it eventually went away.
For me, personally, something like a weighted blanket would not have helped with me being scared, but yeah might help with the ADHD and restlessness part like the others stated. Dunno.
A quick Google search leads me to find out that this is incredibly common even in kids at the age I was and the age your son is. So at least what is happening isn't overly concerning as something abnormal if that at all helps.
Holy shit I feel like I had a similar kind of issue and I've never heard anyone talk about it before. Childhood tinnitus and sleeping issues. Literally never had anyone else write anything remotely similar to my experience.
I slept on the floor of my sibling's room instead of my parents. I have always suspected that I had a form of tinnitus even as a young child. I would get paranoid that the sounds of the tinnitus were some other entity in the room and get scared. You know how like you can sometimes "hear" when someone behind you even though they don't make a sort of obvious sound? That's how mine has always been for me. For me, it wasn't that I needed noise to drown it out. It was that having someone else in the room made me feel safe enough to sleep.
My tinnitus if that's what it really is has always constantly and incessantly warbled in intensity and directionality, which propogates the feeling of something suddenly being there. It's not the classical "eee" noise that people think of when they think tinnitus.
I remember as a child thinking when people would talk about the "sounds of silence" that they just meant this noise lol.
Why do you think he is asking to sleep with you? I know you said it's because he "can't sleep", but you can also just not be able to sleep in your own bed.
When I was a child (and even sometimes as an adult), I would get scared at night. Yeah every 2 year old gets scared at night, but I'm not talking about age 2. I did it my entire childhood...even when I got to be a much older child. I'm talking as old your son and then even older. When I would get scared at night, I would go into my sibling's room at night and sleep on the floor. It happened frequently. I did eventually "grow out of it" as another user stated and did it less frequently as I got older.
It might be embarrassing for him to talk about and he might not want to admit it, but do you think it could be something like this?
I'm 30 now and thankfully don't have those problems much anymore (and I live alone so there is no one to sleep with lol).
So it...worked? 🙃
Sorry about all that, man. I'm glad you're still here and I hope things have been better since.
If your library is on steam, then there's nothing to worry about! Works natively on Linux. If your library is on other platforms, I'd honestly think twice about switching full time. Dual booting might be a better option. My library is split amongst multiple platforms and I decided that it wasn't working well enough for me. Steam games will work great though!
Many distros are easy enough to install and navigate as a newbie. My go to for years now has been Linux Mint! It's based on Ubuntu which is based on Debian.
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I always found it interesting how detailed some people get about the memories of their childhood. I mostly just know that things happened and remember sometimes if something had a very strong emotion tied to them, but for the most part I don't really remember much. Things were just too long ago.
Twins! Means it's easy to doxx me tho lol.
I love it when I can connect to the lyrics, but often they are on topics that I can't...love, breakups, etc. it's always a bonus when I have a personal connection to the lyrics, but I typically don't. Most songs I enjoy are due to the music itself and the emotion that the singer/music evokes, not necessarily the exact reasons or type of emotion.
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I remember bringing up some LGBT stuff to them before. I told them that I initially started questioning religion because it was upsetting to me that my sibling would be sent to hell simply for being gay. Interestingly, they seem to not believe the anti-gay rhetoric of their religion, which is a relief. Trans issues are another matter which does frustrate me a bit...they seem accepting of some trans people in general but have some unfortunate other views on the matter. It is difficult sometimes to reconcile stuff like this though, I agree.
No idea what they think on deportation, but why do you bring up human trafficking? Human trafficking is pretty universally seen by everyone as a bad thing, even Trumpers.
People are individuals and while most of them might lean a certain way, they often have some views that don't fit the stereotypical mold of their demographic if that makes sense. I found out that my friend was vehemetly against bombing Iran despite being a Trumper.
As another example that is likely to yield me downvotes, I would consider myself an incredibly liberal person. And I do sympathize with someone like Luigi. But I am very opposed to weirdly celebrating what he did like most of the internet seems to do. Compassion and understanding? Hell yeah. Celebrating shooting people? Not so much. I never talk about this with others because I know how unpopular of an opinion it is on the internet. But I brought it up to my Trumper friend and she feels the exact same way.
We are all individuals with our own views and you're not necessarily going to stumble across the "perfect match" with anything. Part of human relationships is learning who you can and can't get along with and working through the points that don't mesh as well. I don't know what I'm babbling on about really.
Anti-religious atheist here.
You know what...years ago I would have said "no". Imo, often fundamentalist religious people have views that actively harm society through systemic actions. So it's not something I am able to generally sit well with.
However, years back I met someone irl (not online) with absolutely polar opposite political and religious views as me. I am an atheist who actually opposes the concept of religion in general and I am very liberal. This person I know is very Catholic and conservative. They are a hardcore Trumper and I have always seen him as a dangerous threat to the US.
Yet...
Over the years, this person has legitimately become my absolute best friend. They are the kindest, funniest, most wonderful person I know. I absolutely love spending time with them. We just don't debate our polar opposite viewpoints. We still share and talk about deep, personal things...but we don't instigate political debates or anything like that. I take their views as someone who has been brainwashed by society, and I'm sure they feel the same about me. But it means that I don't see them as evil for their views and am able to easily look past that.
I don't know what the fuck I would do in life if I ever lost them. Sometimes they are the reason why I look forward to the rest of my day.
We are not romantically involved or anything. They have a partner and a family, and I wouldn't be interested with doing that with this person anyway.
But the point is, it taught me that I can have a very deep, personal connection with someone with polar opposite views. Ideally, I would like for a partner to share my views. But life has shown me that it is possible to be opposite like that and still really deeply care for and enjoy someone.
Huh? Chronic infections? Do you have a source on this? Sounds like things I've heard to get you to buy whatever flavor of snake oil treatment of the week there is.
Most people probably just need to be more active and eat healthier.
Yeah I legitimately turn on YouTube videos on my phone to help me fall asleep. Works great. Key is to just not watch anything super interesting/stimulating.
Ease of gaming if you don't have your entire library of games on Steam tbh. If you do, then it's a no-brainer. If not, then ehh.
Also sometimes Nvidia cards do not play nice in Linux.
I would consider myself to be a lifelong skeptic. But I have delved into the interesting research in connections between things like Celiac disease and mental disorders, as you've stated. Honestly, I wish that there was one simpler test to get diagnosed with Celiac disease. Yeah, there are some tests that we do have, but they aren't necessarily the best or conclusive. Wishing the best for you.