If you decide to have kids and choose to have a co-parent, rather being a single parent, choose a co-parent who also wants kids. Having kids with someone who doesn't want them is cursing the kids to be raised by someone who doesn't want them, which can have significant emotional consequences.
Image description: Image is a meme, in the "they don't know" party format. Mitch McConnell stands in the corner. The image depicts McConnell when he stopped speaking while giving a speech. People dancing say "Is he dying?" and "Is it a stroke?". Mitch McConnell says "They don't know I'm shitting myself".
Being principled is not inferior, we're being being pathologized for it because it is a threat to the corrupt powers. The existing power structures see this pattern as dangerous to them, because principled people are more likely to see through their bullshit and try to remake society in a way that is beneficial to all- which means removing evil from power. So, the powerful are using their influence in the media and medical establishment to consider principled behavior to be an undesirable symptom. So, we have to keep being principled. Keep caring. Keep resisting. Keep trying to create a better way. Keep trying to create networks, projects, and relationships based on real values, rather than harming each other, which only makes the established powers more powerful.
It's wrong to ban trans women from women's sports, because trans women are women.
If someone feels the same about children and animals, and then decides to not become a parent as a result, that is a responsible choice. Not all parents like their children. Some parents develop a special bond but not all. Better for a person to have a few pets than create a human being they may end up losing interest in after a few months.
OP is saying that in their experience, holding a baby gives them the same hit of oxytocin as holding a cat or dog. OP has experienced holding both babies and cats and dogs. OP is talking about experiences that they have had. Your uncles was talking about taking a shit, an experience that he had, and giving birth, an experience that he has not had. That is the difference. OP is allowed to talk about their experiences. They're not talking about other people's experiences with children or claiming that their individual experiences are universal.
The original poster was talking about their own experience, not anyone else's.
Your parents are awful. You deserve so much better.
Wow, your family is being really shitty. You deserve better.
People treat mental health stuff like it doesn't exist. Like if someone has a broken arm, and everyone tells them "Just stop having a broken arm!"
You make a good point about common advice often being too simplistic and generalized to be useful. And yeah, dating is rough. Glad you got better advice in the end.
I feel like the phrase "sleeping like a baby" was not created by someone who was a primary caretaker for a baby.
That's fascinating. Do you have suggestions for any resources that talk about how to do this in a healthy way?
I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.
Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"